Remeber we have been together for 3 yrs and I am only 18 going on nineteen. So basically I need to kow ow to become independent! I am TOO CLINGY. I can't stop calling him but I want to get him to want me more. We have become so dull. So you think not haveing sex with him will hellp!!!!Idunno I need help......!!!!!!
2006-11-06 00:05:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't make anybody feel something they don't. Leave him alone, and he might come back around.
2006-11-06 00:07:18 · answer #1 · answered by bezsenný 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you're making him feel a little crowded. Don't call him too much and try to put ur mind on other things so that you won't be tempted to call. (I used to have that problem.) Because guys love it when a girl acts like she doesn't need them. (Only sometimes) Go hang out with ur friends and stuff and give him surprises. Give him the best sex in his life. Tease him when you do it so he'll want more and more. If yall are becoming dull then you better hurry up and do something before he gets too bored and wanna break up. Maybe plan a special day together and when ur out with him just hang out don't be all over him all the time. Be an awesome friend and a good loveer becuase CLINGY ain't to good i'm telling ya hunny. Especially for the guy...he'll be feeling like ur obssessed or that you always want to know where he's at and then he'll stop calling you. If you stop calling him soo much then he'll call you so do what I said. Trust me babe, it'll work.
2006-11-06 00:11:25 · answer #2 · answered by iluvashtonkutcher676 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, there's something WRONG with her. Stable, healthy people don't act that way over a breakup. But that's only half the story. The other half is that your boyfriend is feeding into her behaviour by allowing her to contact him. Every single time he communicates with her, he's letting her think she's got another chance. It is time for him to put a stop to this nonsense. This woman is putting him, you and herself in danger, and he can't justify allowing it to continue by saying that he wants to remain on good terms with her and give her a chance to "not be crazy". She's already proven that she IS crazy - and how can he say that he wants to be on good terms with her when all she does is act like a psycho and bash his new girlfriend? That sounds like BAD terms to me. Therefore, he needs to put a stop to it RIGHT NOW. I suggest you sit him down and tell him straight-up that he needs to get his number changed, block her Facebook and e-mail, get a restraining order against her, and NEVER contact her again. Tell him that you're tired of the drama, and that it's gone on FAR too long. He has no reason to feel sorry for her. She is NOT his problem, and she is CERTAINLY not YOUR problem!
2016-03-19 04:08:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you must do something new and special in your relationship. I mean do something special on a date. Dont call that often beacuse it will just irritate him. Make him miss you. Just send simple text telling him you love him or just simple i love you. Make him feel you love him without irritating him. And before making love with him, make it extra special that he will never forget it or make him want you more. Start it by a candle light dinner. Dress as gorgeous as you could. Then after eating change using a sexy lingerie and make him remove it from you one by one. Then make him wait until he cant stand for it. Ask him how much does he loves you. Or if you have some beautiful plan try it. ok?
2006-11-06 00:26:46 · answer #4 · answered by aNGie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My suggestion is for you to figure out what you want out of life. Go to school, learn a new hobby, help the homeless, etc. Because it sounds like your waiting for your man to make you feel important which is OK, however its not his job. You need to know who you are. You're only 18 years old and you need to be focusing on your future and what YOU want to do with your life.
2006-11-06 00:13:00 · answer #5 · answered by pradavee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a weird thing cos the more he seems to distance himself from you the more you cling and then the more he distances himself from you! Its a cycle...I TOTALLY understand hon! My advice (from personal experience) is take up a hobby or something without him! I was in a similar situation with my ex and I started volunteering at a children's hospital! It was great - I was helping these gorgeous kids and it gave me a focus outside of my relationship AND it put my life in perspective (when you spend time with people less fortunate than yourself you realise how un important all your little things are!!) it was great cos it gave me time away from him and I started getting my own life!!! I suggest that - it helped me!
2006-11-06 00:13:42 · answer #6 · answered by supagrrrl84 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course itd help, well no it prolly wouldnt in reality, but id suggest actually following thruand calling him less and giving him more time to call you, say you call once and he says he cal back... wait a hour on his time or so, and then callm naggin?
i dont kno... maybe you should use your pimp juice, and makeya sex appeal work?
2006-11-06 00:09:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to stop making all those calls and make him feel a bit insecure and you will be amazed at the end results
2006-11-06 00:07:40 · answer #8 · answered by ntu 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if you think he's only after sex it will help, i think u should give him and your self some space for both him and for you to see what is it like without each other and to realize how much happier when your together
2006-11-06 00:16:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't call him....period. If he wants you, he'll call. Good luck!
2006-11-06 00:06:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋