Me and my ex recently broke up. It has ben so hard but lately we have ben getting back to how we used to be. That is ok but I feel like I do want to move on. I dont want to want him any longer. I want to find someone else and be happy.But every time I try I feel bad about even thinking about moving on. Im really confused
2006-11-05 23:48:08 · 7 answers · asked by britt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All I can suggest is you take it slow, and do it one day at a time.
2006-11-05 23:54:05 · answer #1 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, all you need is to make a decision for yourself. Do you think that you would be a better person if you and your ex are not together? After you have made a decision then its time for you to live that decision. And Having someone else is not usually the solution and most of the times we just end up realizing that we are just using these people so we could get over our exes and then we'll be in double trouble getting rid of the new one and getting over with our exes. Try to calm yourself, relax and love yourself more and you'll never know you'll find yourself happy and enjoying the world
2006-11-06 08:26:04 · answer #2 · answered by smooth criminal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, the worst thing you can do for yourself, is jump from one relationship to another. dating someone on the rebound, and this is the definition of "on the rebound", by the way; only causes you and the person you are dating unneccessary emotional drama.
the absolute best thing you can do for yourself; is get busy doing other things, go out with girlfriends, join a community sports team, go volunteer somewhere, join the Y or a gym, do something to occupy your time that does not include dating. Just take this time for yourself. do things that make you happy that don't include guys. do it for a month. call it the "no dating for a month diet"
If you can do this for just a 1 month period of time, you will be much more level-headed and non-emotional in your judgement of things of this personal nature. And you will see yourself more clearly, and know yourself much better. and who knows, maybe you will come to realize that you don't need a guy to make you happy at every stage in your life, or in this one.
Try it, you'll like it.
2006-11-06 08:02:19 · answer #3 · answered by smartkid37138 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have to distance yourself from him for a bit. Give yourself the time you need to heal. Sometimes healing can take a long time. Took me almost a year to get over my ex and he did me real wrong. Don't feel bad! This is about you. YOU!! Go out with your girlfriends on the weekend. Make yourself busy. Always have something to do. Good luck!
2006-11-06 07:52:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems hard when you have to let go of something you have been used to for a while, and the reason why you cant move on is because you have yet to rid this man from your system....don't be afraid to move on...remember when each of us find our mate we are still individuals, but what a man does is to enhance your life, and vice versa for men....you say you are getting back to how you used to be...make sure you are free from old baggage, before you go into another relationship, otherwise it will also fail.
2006-11-06 08:03:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so what i think you shoudl do is write a list of all the great things that will come when moving on and finding someone new. it worked of me and gave ,e the enthusiasm i needed to move on :) good luck
2006-11-06 07:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a break for a while and date yourself.
2006-11-06 07:53:25 · answer #7 · answered by Kris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋