I know i have no right to ask him, but i feel like the hole thing was fake, that he never cared about me at all, i dont want to get back with him, i just want to know wheter i was really wrong about him, so next time i wont fall i the same trap!!!!
How do i know that is want all i my head????? I feel so stupid now!
2006-11-05 23:34:37 · 14 answers · asked by Simone 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have every right to ask him how he really felt. Go ahead, ask. Make sure you tell him you aren't interested in getting back together, but that you just want to know how he really felt. If you feel like it was all fake though, I'd trust your instincts. Can you trust him not to lie to you about how he feels now that it's over?
2006-11-05 23:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If a guy is truly in love with you he won't let anything stand in the way and will tell you, for fear that if he doesn't he will lose you. Please be really careful. Don't mistake a few phone calls for him wanting to get back together. He could just be lonely, missing a friendship that the two of you shared or looking for something a little less innocent. What you need to do is take a good hard look at yourself, the relationship you shared in the past and ask yourself some questions..."Do I still love him?" "Why did the relationship end? ( their must have been more to it than just your parents)" and "Has anything changed that makes me think this could actually work this time?" You said that you ended things because of your parents. If your parents caused problems then, don't you think it would still be an issue for them now? If you do really love him and want to be with him the only thing you can really do is ask him straight up how he feels. Take your time with this and good luck!
2006-11-06 07:40:46 · answer #2 · answered by GLADIATOR 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't feel stupid,I wouldn't ask him, just move on. I had the same thing happen with my ex, he was the first one to say "I love you",it was quick too, I really did believe him and then 6 months later when I had fallen for him too he turned around and said he wasn't sure anymore if he did but wanted us to stay together, I ended it. I couldn't stay with someone that had lied about his feelings with something so big. I know how you feel,it's going to be hard to believe anyone that says those three words again. Good luck.
2006-11-06 07:44:26 · answer #3 · answered by fairyb04 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you are in love you dont have to ask anyone you feel it. The question is did he show it? If he didnt show you he cared then I wouldnt consider getting back with him. Sometime wanting to be loved can make you make stupid mistakes.You know how he made you feel so take that experience and move on. You will find true love just dont be so quick to fall in love.
2006-11-06 07:42:32 · answer #4 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't feel stupid. If you want to know then straight out ask him. You have a right to know if everything was a lie or what was going on. I've been there, I was seeing a guy, we split up, he started telling another girl pretty much the same things so I started rethinking everything. I was making myself crazy over wondering so I asked him if everything was a lie? He choose not to answer me, but that alone made me realize he had been lying to me all along, You deserve to know what was what here.. Goodluck darlin'
2006-11-06 07:38:06 · answer #5 · answered by Mandie E 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The only way to know is to ask him how he felt about you. You can't just keep guessing or worrying about it. The mind can only go so far so u really need to talk to him. But if ur feeling that he faked it then chances are he probably was.
2006-11-06 07:37:21 · answer #6 · answered by iluvashtonkutcher676 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if it was me i would just ask him because you have a right to know what your mind wonders , there isnt any reason for you not to ask after all your not togeather and if he didnt really love you then why take the chances .. love is impossible to figgure out when it is real when its true love you will know follow your heart and dont worry about what loosers think .. if he dont want you then he wasnt right for you and if you dont want him back dont worry about it . im sure he isnt worried about it
2006-11-06 07:38:19 · answer #7 · answered by jazieyez 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure there were some sort of feelings involved. He was dating you. I think you just need to know that something was there and move on past it all now. Dating is full of "mistakes" until one day you find one that doesn't care about your "mistakes".
2006-11-06 07:38:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He boke up with you..is this not more than enough to realize you that he wont love you...what else u want in a stamp paper..come out of it dear..wake up and move on..there are million numbers of things which you can do....concentrate on them...:)
2006-11-06 07:38:53 · answer #9 · answered by Angela 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't spend one more second thinking about him.He's gone and prolly did u a huge favor. Keep busy and you wont think about him anymore. I mean who cares at this point whether he loved you or not ?Its his loss , move on.
2006-11-06 07:39:38 · answer #10 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋