Do you think that people who stick to this are stuck in the past? Some religions or even just people keep this rule and to be honest i think it is dated....what are your opinions?
2006-11-05 23:24:52 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im not judging!!! im just expressing my opinion (MESSAGE FOR IDIOTS THAT THINK I AM JUDGING)
2006-11-05 23:29:52 · update #1
i think if its a part of someone's religion then fair enough.
but imagine marrying someone then finding out they're crap in bed! personally i think everyone should try before they buy
2006-11-05 23:27:09 · answer #1 · answered by monkeynuts 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I think it's a terrible idea. I know two people who stuck to this- both them were married before their 20th birthdays, to their first proper boyfriends, one of them had only been going out with the guy for 6 months! How sad is that? The point is meant to be keeping sex for the most special person and occasion, not marrying the first person they want to have sex with!
And anyway, I would doubt that a virgin could even be mature and experienced enough to make a good choice re: marraige- sex is an important part of a relationship, it creates a level of intimacy you can't have otherwise. If you've not had that with the person you're marrying, how can you know you're compatible for life? I also think it's important to have had a range of experiences with relationships and sex before getting married, you need to know that you're doing the right thing, which sometimes means doing the wrong thing a few times.
If I were following this rule, I probably would have ended up marrying my first proper boyfriend when I was 18 because I loved him and thought we were meant for each other, and I couldn't have gone all that time w/o having sex with him. And right now, 5 years later, I'd be stuck married to someone who, it turned out, I had nothing in common with as an adult. What a waste that would have been
2006-11-05 23:39:18 · answer #2 · answered by - 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I agree. Each to their own and all that but come on, why deny yourself something so integral to a relationship until marriage. Its a very old fashioned concept and a lot of people end up marrying young just so they can have sex! I had a friend who believed in no sex before marriage, until she found a boyfriend that is!!! A lot of the people that believe in no sex before marriage probably couldn't have sex if they wanted anyway because theyre not with some one!
2006-11-06 00:51:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree man its a stupid thing which is desighned to control people hundreds or thousands of years ago it doesent fit into modern sociaty back then their were big risks involved , its the past and most religious people are screwed up from what ive seen its caused millions of problems and nothing really that good their all sheep .
If i offended anyone then well i dont care deal with it its my opinion .
2006-11-06 01:12:50 · answer #4 · answered by badass-mofu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is so narrow and over rated these days.
When in the past it is just an agreement of 'You do this and I do that then you get what you want and I get what I want'.
No Sex until marriage = No Sex until agreement.
And that's what people who are 'stuck in the past' want, the problem is... some of them use today's definition of marriage.
Lots of people married prostitutes everyday, but they're not considered married in today's definition.
2006-11-06 07:25:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You"ll be surprised what has happened in the past! Look up what happened in Sodom and Gomorrah. Then you can talk about the past.
Yeah. It's "acceptable" to wait until marrage. I didn't and most of the people didn't wait.
Either you go with the flow (and have a partner who's going with the flow too) or stick tou your conscience (if it is your conscience) and do your thing!
Geesh. It's all up to you and God...
May God bless.
2006-11-05 23:41:34 · answer #6 · answered by BadBill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am saving my virginity for my husband. I feel that you should have your first time with someone who really cares for you and that you have devoted your life to. It is not dated to want to save something so special for someone who is that spacial to you.
Sex is not a determining factor in a relationship. You should marry someone who loves you for you and not just for how good you are in bed. A marriage is about love, sex is just a minor part of a marriage. To each their own. We all have the right to choose.
2006-11-09 15:39:19 · answer #7 · answered by daydreamer862005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does that make me weird and outdated then? I'm 34, not married and I don't want kids. Why on earth would I put myself in danger like that. I think its revolting that people are faced with this kind of peer pressure. I'm not necessarily religious, I just consider it to be what I would prefer! If I don't marry, then so what, no shame in dying a virgin. Rather that than make a mistake and then have to live the rest of my life miserable!
2006-11-06 00:04:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, people who who don't have sex before marriage are just different, not dated.
People have always had sex without being married.
Marriage is a fairly new institution - just a few thousand years, it certainly seems to work for some people, but most people are serial monogamists.
It is just a cultural/power thing.
2006-11-05 23:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by Aspphire 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think in our culture today sex has become very important and other things like friendship and compaitiblity and respect for one another and oneself have become less important, the thing is at the end of the day, respect etc matter the most because people who love and care for one another have a more loveing and secure relationship, which is disease free.
2006-11-05 23:34:42 · answer #10 · answered by guysmithdenise 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
they might say the same about having sex before marriage!?! but i think that they dont know what they are missing and they would probably have a circle of friends who are into the same kind of religion if you know what i mean so there would really be any pressure of having sex etc.
2006-11-05 23:29:37 · answer #11 · answered by kt 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋