this is about my younger sister. i feel the need to help her as an elder sister. i dont want any guys to take advantage of her.
i know some mite say its her life and i should not interfere but how can i not?? shes only 20 and had a lot of problem with guys.
the thing is that she's a type of person who need a boyfriend.one she breaks off she will have another one within days.. i'm not making her out to be a slut or anything.. i find it very worrying that she is too dependant..
her previous relationships are disasterous. a few dated her for money(she was the one paying for everything during the dates, loan from her but never pays back-besides she dont earn much too)..her previous one was quite abusive. not physically but verbally and i believe it mite lead to physical abuse in the long run ..
and now she is back with one of ex-boyfriend(Bob) who cheated on her with another girl. i'm so pissed off when she told me that she is back with (BOB).
2006-11-05 23:23:37 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i'm so pissed off with BOB cause he is still dating with someone else n being together with my sister.i saw BOB with that other girl holding hands and even in friendster, BOB has pictures of him with the other girl kissing..how can i not be mad?? of cause i want to protect my sister from the hurt and pain. i mean come on once a cheater always a cheater,
i told my sister about him and she says she knows.. i was shocked.. and told her that obviosuly Bob is making use of my sister..
how do i convince her that its not that important to have a relationship shes still young and there will always be mr right(i donnoe why she always wants to get married as soon as possible) but she can't get this message in her head ..
please help..
2006-11-05 23:24:31 · update #1
nope i am not jealous of her.. how can i not be bother if everytime she has problems she will come crying to me and complaining about these guy ... even my younger brother is concern about her being taken advantage off..
2006-11-05 23:28:35 · update #2
sorry to say, but you should not interfere.
you can say 2x-3xtimes your opinion and give her advice but that is.
why she bothers about those kind of guys ? maybe she likes them.
are you sure you are not jealous of her ?
2006-11-05 23:26:45 · answer #1 · answered by Martin the baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a good sister!! Unfortunately your sister will not listen to you because she is still at the stubborn, I'll do as I please stage, and she will have to be the one to decide when she has had enough. You will have to let her do it on her own and when she does you be there as her support and encouragement. Parents go through the same thing that you are going through. Take a step back--as hard as it might be--and let her grow up and learn no matter how long it takes. Being pushy will cause resentment and you will never accomplish anything and it might damage your relationship. Take a couple of deep breathes and be strong!!
2006-11-05 23:32:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first like to commend you just for thinking about your sister. Its rare in this day to find people, especially family members who actually care about the well being of family. I believe it would be in her favor if you and your sister begin to hang out. Do things together and just talk, don't fuss about her choice of the type of men she date. Let her know that you have noticed that she's always attracting a "certain" type of guy and that she deserve way better. Your sister is young and we all met and dated the wrong type of people however, encourage her to better herself and not to be so pressed to have someone in her life. Let her know that she's a beautiful person and one way she will stop attracting those type of men will be when she begin to focus on her self esteem.
2006-11-05 23:30:37 · answer #3 · answered by pradavee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not ever "right" nor is it right to hate your sister. Probably she has extra faith in you thatn you do, most likely she thinks you're way more in a position of dealing with your predicament your self. Maybe her refusal to support is an robust factor for you. You could be proficient something by way of this revel in.
2016-09-01 08:00:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she won't listen to you I'm sorry to say this but she must then learn out of her pain because i know i am also 20 and i do not need a man for any thing i have my own place and i support my self.
But you must always be near by for in case she falls and don't know how to get up again.
2006-11-05 23:39:42 · answer #5 · answered by pam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
until she wakes up and smells the coffee she will aiways let men use her ,she needs to get out on her own for a while to clear her head
2006-11-05 23:36:05 · answer #6 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry so much.
It'll work out.
2006-11-05 23:27:14 · answer #7 · answered by anitababy.brainwash 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋