now ive living in NY with my boyfriend for 3years. he's poor in his health thats why his parents who live in foreign send money once a month. my parents want me to go back to my country without my boyfriend. because his parents and my parents almost broke. they don't afford send money. now im still a student to study english and i dont have a job. my boyfriend said if i foud any solutions to work here or pay his medical treatment , we would live here together. but if i go back my country , we can never see each other again...
i seem anxious when we can'nt make ends of meet he said to me. so he think that i feel happy if i leave to my country.
i have no idea what to do... i can't choose a boyfried or parents. how do i pay living cost and his medical treatment? please tell me and help me.
2006-11-05 23:17:27 · 6 answers · asked by meyou 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi,
My real opinion is, you guys will surely get frustrated and pissed of at each other when there's no finance. Although you did'nt say the nature of he's sickness . Face it girlfriend, how do you cope when your parents and his parents can't afford to pay your bills anymore. Think girl, this love that you so much cling to will go sour, money is not everything i agree, but you need to be real. you can't keep begging other people for the rest of your life. I suggest you get back to your parents, work and send some money across to him so he can take care of he's health. thats another way to show him love, he'd appreciate you more.
2006-11-05 23:44:52 · answer #1 · answered by nina-reality 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have three options...you can stay there and be miserable for the rest of your life by staying poor. You can dance on a pole and make some easy money, but still be totally dissapointed in yourself which would keep you miserable anyway. You can go back home to your parents and only feel miserable for a short time because you left your useless sick boyfriend back in another country. I am sure you will get over that feeling in a short time. Sounds to me like your option #3 is best. Go back home and be happy. Good luck.
2006-11-05 23:21:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all he is not your husband, your not obligated to take care of him to that extent. His parents should be the one taking care of him not you. You should finish school and proceed your goals in life. And by the way he should'nt put that kind of pressure on you. Just be honest with him and tell him that you just can't handle it right now. If he really loves you he'll understand.
2006-11-05 23:23:15 · answer #3 · answered by brown sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should really give a serious thought here ... I understand your love for him but imagine what all you might have to do to keep the relationship and you never know what will happen later ?
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Sameer
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2006-11-05 23:24:14 · answer #4 · answered by Sameer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask yourself, who's makes you most happy? and who will always be there for you? if i were you i would personally stay with my boyfriend. because i love him. u can never get love back. and since hes sick thats just plain mean to leave him.
2006-11-05 23:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by Skye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live there with him, how are you to going to have sex if you arent there?
2006-11-05 23:19:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋