We are in the twenties, and 5 months together. Recently she told me about how disappointed she is when I didn't tell her what I don't like about her, and that I hide my sad feelings. However, I always found out that whenever I am honest with her and told her what I don't like about her, she will get upset. She is getting upset either way... What should I do??
2006-11-05 22:46:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your girlfriend sounds insecure and unreasonable. I think honesty is very important in a relationship. But telling someone what you don't like about them will only invite trouble. Ask her why she wants to know what you don't like. Also mention that when you do what she asks, it upsets her and it puts you in a bad spot. Be sure to tell her the things you DO like about her, and that she should just feel secure in how you feel.
2006-11-05 22:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those genuine no-win situations. You poor guy! You're in the exact same position as my boyfriend :)
I often ask him to tell me what he doesn't like about me - and without fail he'd always say "you're perfect, or else i wouldn't be with you".
That's always a good start, but it only works if you say it like you mean it. Even so, i hardly accept that answer.
Girls like to be told they're wonderful and all that. Any pleas for honesty should be disregarded :P Unless there's something seriously seriously wrong with her that just abhors you... just keep on making her feel good about herself. Don't say anything hurtful.
2006-11-06 06:58:07 · answer #2 · answered by Carinna C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she wants the honesty, she needs to grow up a bit and learn to take criticism. if she is asking you what you don't like about her, she has some real self esteem issues..consider telling her in a positive way or coming up with a creative way to change her...for example: "i don't like the way you wear your hair"...you could say instead "i think your hair looks really nice when you wear it (this way)"....it's simple....until she matures and can handle it...play nice or get rid of her....
2006-11-06 06:59:36 · answer #3 · answered by JaneDoe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell her that she has to respect your honesty after all she asked for it but dont say it it a nasty way. It can be difficult for her to grasp but as long as you let her know how much u like her shes bound to come around. just make sure your there fore her and re-assure her were you can :)
2006-11-06 06:54:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this a mind game that she plays with you
this is a power trip for her
tell her to stop playing head games with you
calmly and quitely leave and gently close the door and go for a walk then come back a few minutes later
2006-11-06 06:55:35 · answer #5 · answered by bolounit1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring her out for shopping and ice cream and make her happy! Also write a card to her telling about your thoughts and how important she is in your life.
2006-11-06 06:53:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This line always works, "The way I love you, there is nothing I find wrong with you. You are the most important thing in my life". GOOD LUCK
2006-11-06 06:56:39 · answer #7 · answered by DEE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop telling her what you dont like about her. Not physical or personality traits at least. but keep sharing your sad feelings
2006-11-06 06:51:53 · answer #8 · answered by Jonny5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not sincere about your honesty. She wants to hear only what she likes about herself. Maybe you need to be less blunt and more diplomatic in showing her her mirror image.
2006-11-06 06:55:14 · answer #9 · answered by peaceman 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
figure out a way to romance her and make up for the stuff you did then tell her what shes doing and stuff like that then if she still does it shes obveusly* shes not fro you
2006-11-06 06:56:16 · answer #10 · answered by just ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋