My husband does not want me to work, but his income is not enough for the family?

Question

I just got a new job, but he wants me to stop working and sit at home as a full time house wife

Answer 1

Good Posting! Now your husband is having a problem within himself..chances are it's mental (his thought process to his ability to earn enough, JEALOUS of others you come in contact with, feelings of inadequacies in providing everything or the need to provide everything) of course these are not all inclusive...He needs to understand himself be more secure in his feelings and thoughts..He needs to understand the need for you to work for whatever reason YOU choose and how it can help with your family and relationship..If he doesn't the poor guy will always have a problem and that will lead to relationship problems and that you can bet on! Explain to him why YOU want to work and don't bring up money or we need this or that..approach if from you needing to occupy your time/thoughts and need to be productive since this helps to creat healthy thought processes. Then make him feel he is the bread winner and ask what he would like you to do with the money you earn..Now don't get crazy on me..just make him feel important in the relationship since he probably came from the mindset the husband is the earner and we live off what he earns.that's.OLD mentality! Most women are pretty good and getting what they want and how they want it. mine uses power of suggestion (hahaha and it ususally works) In reality the need for a 2 income household is important in order to have the extra things, the nice things, the ability to come and go as you please i,e vactions,etc etc. or to really make ends meet.....He needs to understand that..help him understand that..show him.. You know the old saying BEHIND EVERY GOOD MAN IS A GOOD WOMAN hahaha.99% of the time that's true and can be proved out..check around..I am sure you will make this come out right and you both will be happy..Just think about what I said in paraenthasis..Good luck to you.. Good question to..I am sure you will get some good answers and maybe others will learn something to..

Answer 2

I think that you need to explain to your husband that his income is not enough for the family and you want to be able to contribute something to the home. Ask him what his concerns are with you working. Explain to him that you like your new job as it is getting you out and about and helping you to make new friends. Or perhaps that is the reason just reassure him and tell him that you love him, but you feel that the job is something that you have to do, then say that with a joint income you will be able to go on romantic holidays and get some sexy little outfits that you wouldn’t necessarily be able to buy if you just had his wage. Tell him that having the job makes you happy and you hoped that he’s be proud of you for trying to help the family out instead of staying at home being a full time house wife

Answer 3

The thing is is I'm a mom and i try ed to stay home and not work i all most had nerves bra ck down. didn't do anything but keep ed the house clean and take care off the kids my bf and i decided it would be good for me to get a job and he would help out with the kids. we are very happy now. i think getting a way from the house is the best thing and it is not putting the strain on him to pay all the bills and you get to go out and be social to you need to stand your ground if that is what you wont tell him we can save for a vacations with any extras or remodel the house just a few suggestion but working if you wont to is really up to u not him you need to live to and not be stuck behind the four wall of your home now if you wonted to stay home that would be your choice. hope you get through to him and good luck

Answer 4

You have paper and pencil. Use it list all your income and list all your expenses if your expenses are greater than you total income. Sit and talk to your husband do not fight with him talk and show him why you need to work. Logic is the best policy. Are you sure it is only for money that you work or is there a hidden agenda?

Answer 5

Does he say why he wants you home
Its hard to stop working when you just started.
Does he give you a good reason why he wishes that you would stay at home. I am sorry he feels this way. You might get into a more indepth discussion as to why?

Good luck I hope that you both can have this resolved.

Answer 6

Dear its good too... to be fulltime house wife thats great! but if he really wanted u to, then tell him that he must double his income in return.. that there is equal price for his request coz u need to eat ok? If he can't and will not agree with the idea then he must be just insecure of you! men's egoistic attitude at that.
good luck.

Answer 7

And give him control over you! Don't quit your job and don't let your husband dictate what you do. It's important to be able to think for yourself and take care of yourself. Why struggle with one income when two is needed? That's not rational or practical.

Answer 8

Sounds like he just what's aloving wife to be there to greet him at the door. Always nice when a love one what for you to get home from atireing day at work.Just know he does love you, And what's to spend time with you.

Answer 9

Dont listen to your husband. Woman have just as much right to work as men do and he shouldnt be able to stop you from doing what you want to do.

Answer 10

Prepare for him a financial statement with the his salary and th4e bills you have to pay also put clothes, supermarket, doctor medicines, repairs, gasoline, car, etc. to make him understand what you both need.