Torn between 2 fantastic women?

Question

Well....i have to make a decision and need help.
The girl i was previously seeing for 3 months will now not leave me alone.....i met up with her this saturday to give her a dvd back that she left at my house....and she was crying which made me feel awful....she said splitting up with me was a huge mistake....and i do think about her a lot....jst seeing her made me realise i still want her....the only downside to her is that she lives a good hours drive away.
However my New GF is such a nice caring person, i couldnt hurt her, she is more of a personality match for me and lives down the road!! - i have been with her for 2 weeks.

What do i do? How do i deal with this? ive never cheated but the temptation has never been this strong before

My Ex (CLAIRE) called it off, the reason been it just seemed to fizzle out - there was no conversation any more

Claire (EX)
Height: 5ft 2
Brunette
Dress Size UK: 12/14
34dd

Jessica
Height: 5ft 6
Blonde Hair
Dress Size Uk: 10
34B

Answer 1

Give the new girlfriend a chance and forget the old one.

Answer 2

Tell the old one you think the world of her, however, it's bad timing for both of you, as you've just started a new relationship and won't cheat on her--just as she (the old g'friend) would not want you to cheat on her if the positions were reversed.

See where this new relationship takes you--there are quite a few positives you've listed vs. the positives of your past g'friend.

It is very possible that you've jumped back into a commitment/relationship much too soon and are not really over your ex. When you've been close to someone and you believe you have fallen in love with them, it takes a while to FALL OUT out of love when you break up; it really takes some time and that can't be rushed, ignored, underestimated, or minimized. I'd say this still is relevant even though you were only dating for 3 months.

Do consider that your awareness of your feelings for your ex, the situation you're both now in, her crying and being upset and regretful stirs feelings back up for both of you. BUT, that doesn't mean you have to (or even that you should) act on them.

Some of this is, definitely, about maintaining your integrity. The fact that you're conflicted and need to ask for help shows that...and that's not a bad thing, far from it.

Answer 3

I take it that your ex split up with you?

What caused you guys to split up in the first place? Surely there must have been something going wrong for things for fall apart.

Your ex sounds like she's realised the mistake and is now trying everything she can to make you change your mind. But in my opinion you need to tell her that you've moved on - even if you still think about her loads. Out of sight, out of mind, and if she lives over an hours drive away this could be an important factor.

Give this new girl a chance, although it seems to me like you just need a couple of months on your own, to figure what you really want. Don't rush things dude - they'll come naturally in time!

Answer 4

Going back never works! You will always have feelings for your X, because of all the things you shared together. But, she left you once - do you really want to go through that again!! Plus, long distance relationships don't ever work. Would you trust her? She is gonna keep you on a string if you let her! Tell her you have now met someone special, and that you want to get on with your life without her. Then tell your new G/f about the situation, so that she is in the loop before the X decides to get revenge and tell your g/f some rubbish that could jeopardise your new relationship.

Answer 5

Simple
If you broke up with the ex there must have been a reason. Going back will only highlight that again and you'll lose both girls in the end
Stay with the new one if you like it and see where it takes you. If it goes nowhere in the end you lose nothing really and you never know the 1st girl might still be pining over you if you want to give it another lash
That is my advise, and I've been around the block a few times believe me

Answer 6

Ask yourself for a specific reason why you split up with your ex girlfriend. What was it about the relationship that did not work exactly?

Now ask yourself, has that thing that caused our relationship not to work changed or gone away so that in future we could be together happily?

If the answer is yes, then go back to your ex.

If the answer is no don'tgo back to your ex but don't continue to see your new girlfriend either. If you are already thinking about cheating on her after 2 weeks then she'snot the girl for you. Give yourself some space to think about what you want from life.

Answer 7

The reason she dumped you is probably because she thought she could do better, even if thats not what she told you,

She has now obviously realised that she cannot do any better therefore she wants you back, and if you take her back you will then turn into her backup plan, (everyone has one) and the cycle of splitting up with you then begging for you back will continue.

Stay with the girl you have see how that works out, dont be a backup plan you will just end up getting hurt in the end.
or you could do the what most men would do shag them both, just kidding no good will come from that and men aren't good at multi tasking anyway, they always trip them selves up.

Good luck xx

Answer 8

If you've never cheated before, please don't start now babe! There are few men out there like you as it is...
Firstly, think back to why you and your ex split up. If it was as good as you thought, you'd still be together. If you hadn't have seen your ex, would you still think of her everyday? Although you've only been going out with your GF for 2 weeks, you have to think if when you're together you's are happy. Does she treat you right? I'd say give her a chance babe. Good Luck x x x

Answer 9

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Answer 10

my question is why would you be bothered posting descriptions and bra sizes etc etc about these two fantastic women?
you dont make your judgement on how they look - but onhow you feel - are you sure you're finding it so hard to choose because you dont know which one is more physically attractive?
Perhaps the best thing for you to do - to help clear your mind is finish with your current girlfriend - take a week or two apart from both of them - and see who you miss more or think about more.
Its not fair to be stringing them along - you need to make your mind up and fast - before someone ends up getting hurt. xx

Answer 11

Go with what's in your heart; old gf sounds like she's manipulating you...the new gf if you feel your personalities mesh, could be the best one, living close or not!! go to any astrology website and do a compatibility report; for a few dollars you can see what the new gf is all about, then do another report on the 2 of you as a relationship...youll need date, time and place of birth for this...don't shrug off astrology without investigating it!! DO IT....you will learn more about yourself and her than with any other method...........good luck.email me with your final decision; I'd like to know!! thanks.