But the problem is she has to get married by 24 and i cant get married so soon... wat can we do... Her parents have already started to search for her... Can anyone help me out in this
2006-11-05 21:45:26 · 19 answers · asked by srikanth t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Thanx everyone... After all ur comments, first i hav to sit n talk to my gal... Vll keep you guys posted... Once again thanx a lot for ur wishes n suggestions...
Regards,
Srikanth
2006-11-06 16:37:21 · update #1
First ask yrself if the reason of nt being able to get maried so soon is important..Second, her family is orthodox, so u got to tell yr mum n dad to bring the proposal to her house..It wil be too late..Wen yr relationship gets finalised, tell yr parents to tell her parents dat u can't get married so soon (the reasons shud be a gud 1)..They will surely agree....(it seems u r frm india..)
2006-11-05 21:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by Glamorous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,dude if u too really really really luv eachother there's no point in dealyin ur marriage to her unless u have some valid and solid reason behind it and if u really wanna get married only wen ur 24 then well u can try and talk to her parents and convince them or u can make ur gal to talk to their parents and tell them to wait for a year but how well u convince her parents solely rests in you two's hands
2006-11-06 06:12:58 · answer #2 · answered by Roop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hai... i think i can understand ur prob... i've a friend who has a same situation as urs... and i'm of ur age group also...
i'll tell u wht my friend n her bf did.... they talked to each others parents seperately. then both set of parents met and discussed the issue... they knew each other earlier and the boy n girl were classmates in school... both parents agreed for their marriage after some heated discussions --- but when both are 25 years.. they both are working now though at diff places, meet each other and the parents on occassions.. they're to get engaged in dec '06 and to be married by mid '07...
try to talk to both ur parents n let them meet n discuss... convince that both ur future is secured and they dont have to worry much... get engaged in near future but get married in 2 years... ur gf may feel lonely or bad without u when u postpone ur marriage even though she may not tell it to you...
best of luck....
2006-11-06 09:19:41 · answer #3 · answered by luv2liv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Shrikant,
Since both of you love each other and you have not mentioned that her parents or your parents disapproval of you or her there is an easy solution to you problem.
Speak to your parents frist tell them that you are very fond of this girl and that she is the one who you want to be with but you want to wait for a couple of years before getting married but her parents want her to get married by next yr. Your parents can meet up with her parents and than after some persuation if required they can get you both engaged immediately. This way you both can wait for a couple of years without having any problems as you both have in an official way announced of the to be wedding of a future date. Just be sure by what time you want to get married cause thats the first thing the girls father ask. And if the date or the year is not fixed it can be quite taxing on the girl and the girls parents too. Just understand for her parents point of view.
Jab mia biwi razi to kay karega kazi..... It worked with a friend of mine hope it works for you too. Now my friends are happily married.
Good Luck & God Bless
2006-11-06 06:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by Blueberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you are really fit for her and come upto the expectations of her parents, both of yopu must go them and explain the position.
Or, if you fulfill the expectations, tell her to speak to her mother who, in turn should spk. to her husband. If they agree, you can meet either directly or through your parents.
In that case they would wait beyond 24,too.
Go ahead. Do not brood.
2006-11-07 07:42:13 · answer #5 · answered by KB M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many problems solved by dialogues, She should talk to her parents and tell them what her plans are. Her parents want the best for her, so she should express her gratitude for that but tell them that she is still not ready to marry.
2006-11-06 06:02:20 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to get yourself ready, financially or otherwise by 24. Having an independent income is a pre-requisite for marriage, I guess. Else hope she or her parents agree to wait till you are ready.
2006-11-07 12:45:32 · answer #7 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got to talk to her father and tell him you both love each other and you will be ready for marriage in say two years. Take her in to confidence. Alternatively your parents get in touch with his parents.
2006-11-06 14:08:07 · answer #8 · answered by openpsychy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi. ur problem is a common one as far as i think....... u both need to talk to ur parents n try to convince them.. ask ur gf to tell her parents abt u n ur problem.... if u talk logically to them i think they will understand .. n if u both r not serious enough to get married then part away mutually. but remember a true love comes once in life....... so best of luck...... tk care
2006-11-06 05:58:23 · answer #9 · answered by saphire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think 23 years is the right age for marriage, what's problem in that.
you are not settled in life...?
Any family Problem...?
or it's your own thinking to do not get married before 24...?
let you both get together and seriously discus the future plan...
2006-11-06 06:50:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋