since i turned 17 i have been arhuing with me parents a lot and want to move out is it a good idea?

Question

we have argued alot of the times about little things and i have had enough had any1 got any advice

Answer 1

stay at home..you are just arguing more because you are growing up....try chatting with them about houserules.

Answer 2

Please don't! I know its frustrating and you may feel like you have had enough but trust me, in the long run its not a good idea. Living on your own at such a young age is a big ask, not only will you need to find somewhere to live, there's the added expense, rent, bills, food, clothing, and that's before going out to have a good time with your friends.
I totally sympathise with you because I went through the same thing with my parents, I thought I hated them so much and I couldn't wait to get out of there. I ended up leaving home at 18 to go to university and although absolutely loved it for a couple of years its only now I am 28 and living about 400 miles away from my parents that I realise how much i miss them and wish they were closer. Typical!
Grit your teeth and keep out of each other's way for a little while. Most parents appreciate it when you talk to them - if you scream at them then they're just gonna treat you like a child. Sit down with them, explain what it is they're doing to annoy you and see if you can work round it. If they see you acting like an adult, they'll treat you like one.
Most of all, good luck!!

Answer 3

I think that moving out would be a fairly bad idea - for the moment. Arguing with your parents is a perfectly normal thing to do and in a way it's good that it is over small things.

If you want to move out ask yourself a couple of things:

Do you have any place to go? Only move out if you can afford a place of your own, or you have another place to go. The council are under no obligation to house you so don't think that you can get on a housing list and it will all be well.

If you are at college and you move out, will you stay motivated to stay there. Leaving education at this point in your life might have quite drastic consequences and although you might get back into education later in life it can be very difficult.

If you have a job do you have enough funds to be able to pay for your own place?

Many homeless young adults started out like you - arguments with their parents - and once they get onto the streets it is very difficult to get back into a safe environment. Living on your own can be emotionally straining - having to make all the decisions at a young age is not always a good thing and it is terrible to put yourself in a situation where you are just coping rather than living. At your age you have a life of fantastic things ahead of you and I think that leaving home whilst you are still relatively young might jeopardise your potential.

Please do everything you can to stay with your parents - perhaps you all need to draw up lists of what you want from each other. This will help identify potential flash points and help you all to cope with your changing roles with each other. You sound upset and I think that you do not really want to leave home so try to find middle ground with your parents and stay at out until you are financially and emotionally able to cope with the big bad world.

Answer 4

Look closely at what starts the arguments if it's you breaking house rules then try stopping and respect your parents home after all they're providing you with the best start to your adult life.. Don't just quit on them if you love them and they've been good parents or that will turn into resentment and if you can't talk to your parents anymore get some mediation from a professional councillor or someone like that who knows nothing about yourself or your parents to act as go between and find some common ground

Answer 5

well first off can you support yourself? i am guessing not. I think it is natural to rebel against your parents to a degree it comes with growing up. what also comes with growing up is doing what is right instead of just what you want to do. last but not least an adult discusses differences and tries to come up with a solution. i think if you are arguing then you may need to take a step back, then think on what ever the difference of opinion is explain your feelings in a calm and rational manner then let your parents explain there side of the issue and you both work on the best way to make both sides happy.

Answer 6

am in the same boat my friend, am 19 and i have been arguing with my parents for years, its only now just starting to carm down slightly. it is your age it just happens but i don't think moving out is the best idea you will realise how much they actually do for you. Hang on to that idea for a few years i still want to move but at the minute id rather save the money and enjoy my self.

Good luck.

Answer 7

stay there for as long as you can. would you be able to afford a place of your own anyway. they are probably just trying to do what they think is right for you. I moved out of my mothers age 13 and looking back i shouldnt have, i think teenagers just think they know better at the time but in the long run they dont. you should also try and sit them down and have a chat about what is bugging you, i bet they are wondering what they are doing wrong and ould like to fix it. good luck

Answer 8

Not a great idea, nope. Sorry, you prolly don't want to hear that. It's not easy to be on your own. Best to wait until you have a good enough job that will cover your rent, pay your bills, buy food for the whole month, and enuff $ to set aside each month for things you need and emergencies. To do all that, it's best to finish school and get a few years of college under your belt before you move out.

You'll have your parents the rest of their life, may as well try to get along with them now. Arguing with them isn't going to get you anywhere, try to listen to what they are saying. You listen to them, they'll listen to you. Talk with them about your hopes, your dreams, what you want out of life.

Your parents need to understand that you are in a transition from teenager into a young adult. You are likely wanting to stretch your wings, probably FEEL like you are ready to be on your own, but you still have a few more years 'practice' at flexing your wings a bit before you fly the coop, so to speak. You won't get 'independent' overnight, it's a process. Act like the young adult you are becoming, and your parents will likely treat you more like a young adult. If they don't, then gently remind them that you are nearly grown, it's time they start 'letting go'. It's not just a process for you, it's also one for them too. They need to have some patience with you, and you'll need to have some patience with them. It works both ways hun.

The good news is that in a few years you'll probably be ready to be on your own, and your parents by then (hopefully) will be ready to let you go.

My oldest son just turned 26. He left home a bit too early and bounced back in. lol.. After a few years he tried it again and that time it worked, he's doing great on his own. My youngest son just turned 22, he watched his older brother and learned from him. He waited til he was totally ready to move out, had a good job, a nice car, had been slowly collecting stuff he wanted in his apt., money in the bank, and got a few years college under his belt. He's doing great on his own and hasn't bounced back in. (Not yet anyway).. ;)

There will always be stuff you and your parents won't agree on. That's normal. Might as well learn sooner than later that life isn't all about you, it isn't all about your parents. It's a give and take world, and you can start practicing that now, if you aren't already. Learn to get along with your parents even tho you won't agree on everything, and that will help you later to get along with others in your life too. Like your teachers, boss, co-workers, partner.

I know it's hard. Take a deep breath and go for it, you can get thru this.

Myst

Answer 9

I would stay with your parents. Take it from me who left at 17 and had an extremely hard time. You willl mature and they will start to accept the fact that you are getting older. Please don't leave your parents. Go to college get a good job and then move out.

Answer 10

Thats life, thats what teenagers do! Im 21 and still argue with my mum and dad but I would never think of moving out! Dont worry! My bestfriend moved out coz she was always arguing with her mum and she said its the worst thing she has ever done in her life! She really regrets it now! x

Answer 11

If you can support yourself by all means move, but if you can't then stay at home and try talking and getting through with your parents. We all fight and argue at that age, it will pass.