When my boyfriend and i started dating his ex-wife was always calling because this or that was broken or she wanted this or that repaired.It was so bad, he would call, i am coming over. He does not show up, an hour later calls. I asked, where are you? well my ex called, she wanted me to come down and check on this or that.I will be there Or, he would come over, we had plans and i would say. should'nt we be getting ready? Well, yes but, my ex called and i need to go down and see what her problem is. It was constant. Finally i told him, why don't you go live with her? All you do is run to her becon call? She treatened to keep their 14 year old son from him. She says she cannot afford to hire a plumber or anyone else yet goes on road trips every week-end and sometimes through the week, out of state trips. I would not mind him helping her once in awhile but when it is constant and then to play the kid card if feel is wrong. Per court order he pays he good money. She needs to manage better.
2006-11-05 21:08:07 · 7 answers · asked by shyone 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Life can be unfair...so what is your question?
2006-11-05 21:11:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anastasia 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Something is not right here, the child support issue involving the other child from the previous relationship, should be addressed as soon as possible. You better have your boyfriend get this matter situated or he will end up with child support due for a child that is not his. Also sounds as if she possibly his driving record is really bad or he has had drunk drivings and may be concerned if there child is in a vehicle with him. But it doesn't matter, that is your vehicle, and not his, he could be anyone's vehicle and possibly drive it. I agree with Ann S. The courts will let him know if that information is really necessary, and then he can submit it himself if that is the case. None of your information is anyone's business unless the courts deem it necessary, which I seriously doubt until you marry the man.
2016-05-22 03:16:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do with ex's is to stay out of it. What would you want if you were forced to deal with an ex of yours. Remember his child is involved and its not just about her. Be supportive and understanding up to a point. If he's at that point then let him know you can no longer accept his running to her every time she calls. And that unless he decides on his priorities soon then you will find someone without his baggage,
2006-11-05 21:33:54 · answer #3 · answered by 65Cobra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is actually threatening his visitation to get him to do whatever she needs he needs to start righting it down (dates, threats, her reaction if he says no, what all was said, and maybe have the child witness if the son has heard all this) report this to SRS. I think it actually illegal for a mother to use the child visits as blackmail... you might check it out. If she isn't actually threatening and there is some cheating going on he will get very angry probably... or insist that he will make the call or visit to report it on his own, then never do it. anyways, hope it isn't the cheating option that is happening.
2006-11-05 21:19:25 · answer #4 · answered by Country 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should go meet the ex-wife and the kid and see what they're like.....
or
do u really like this guy coz obviously the ex-wife will be hanging round for a while. if you don't like it then don't just say something about it.......do something about it. or if you don't like this guy then maybe you should just let him go......theres plently more fish out in the sea
2006-11-05 21:16:37 · answer #5 · answered by Chocoholic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he is up on his support and they have court aranged custody then there is nothing she can do to keep his kid from him and if she trys he can take her to court. simply tell him that it is really affecting your relationship. don't give an ultimatum though men hate that
2006-11-05 21:14:57 · answer #6 · answered by insane illusions 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he loves you is the main thing, it does not matter if he talk with ex. give him some freedom to relax, he loves you
2006-11-05 21:14:47 · answer #7 · answered by Neighbour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋