My daughter's father has been dating a girl for around a year. I have always found her very odd. All of this time she has made it a point to avoid me. She will not meet me and when they come to pick my daughter up for visits she sits in the car. In recent months she has began causing trouble in the form of posting things about me online. When I try to contact her I get angry phone calls and letters from my daughter's father. The most recent incident was that she basically accused me of being a slut and teach my daughter to dress like a "skank". She also said that my husband and I are teaching her messed up values that are screwing with her head and damaging her mentally. In the past she has called my daughter as a monster and threw a fit over my daughter's father spending time with my daughter instead of her. They moved in together so I can't keep my daughter way from her. Should I not let my daughter visit her dad? Her dad is not a good person either and won't keep this girl away.
2006-11-05 21:04:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It sounds like she feels threatened by you. Why else would she not get out of the car? It doesnt sound like the relationship between her and your ex is very stable either? Obviously you are a huge issue for her - otherwise she wouldnt be posting things about you online!
However the most important person in this scenario is your daughter. Unfortunately she is legally going to have to spend time with your ex and his odd girlfriend. If I were you I would make sure that I was the perfect role-model for my daughter. Teach her all the things a girl needs to know - especially self-respect and how to keep your head held high no matter what.
The difference between you - acting maturely - and the girlfriend - behaving poorly - will soon be obvious to all. Be the best rolemodel you can possibly be.
2006-11-05 23:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does the dad pay maintenence or child support to your daughter? If not then no as he has no rights. But does your daughter want to see her dad? If so then you cannot stand in the way of this and at least your daughter won't resent you for stopping her having a loving relationship...You can also look into it legally so the only reason you and your daughters dad would have for talking is concerning your daughter, as you are your daughters main carer, try and talk to the pair of them and explain in a calm way that what is happening is not solving any problems and that she should not grow up listening to this! You obviously have your child's best interests at heart and tell them instead of arguing they should too! good luck!
2006-11-05 21:17:57 · answer #2 · answered by xx_lush_xx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your daughter actually WANT to visit her dad?
If so, then you need to look at it from a legal perspective. I'm not sure where you live, so I am unsure of the law where you live, but if the father is legally entitled to have access to his daughter, then there's not much you can do about it.
You could always try family counselling. Even though you are seperated, you still have family ties, so it's worth considering.
Good luck!
2006-11-05 21:08:25 · answer #3 · answered by shoby_shoby2003 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think what you need to do is- to put away all these matters as girlfriend and father's character, and just ask your daughter- what she wants. If she wants to meet her father and she feels comfortable with him- let her do it. Every child needs a father.
2006-11-05 21:16:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can talk to your daughter how she feels being with her father and discuss the good and bad points. You can then have a consensus why it is not good to be with him and her girlfriend
at this point in time.
2006-11-05 21:20:35 · answer #5 · answered by dodadz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're able to truly confer together with her dad. She could be inspired to stay and paintings in the process the themes she's having. perhaps attempt to verify what is going on precise now. it is plenty for a sprint lady to soak up without warning. exceedingly together with her dad no longer being together with her that first week. yet I do in basic terms no longer think of you're able to enable her come domicile without attempting to verify lots of the themes over there. in any different case she won't bond together with her dad or her different siblings interior the destiny. stable success!
2016-10-03 08:13:29 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is her father, he has every right to see her, and if you keep her away from him, it will come back to bite you.
Dont give him any reason to take you to court, let him see her, and if they are as bad as you say, then they will dig their own grave, as your daughter will realise in due time.
2006-11-05 21:14:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your daughter if she wants to visit her dad first.Than find out if she should.
2006-11-05 22:30:48 · answer #8 · answered by Bella 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he has rights there is nothing you can do without going to court.
2006-11-05 21:07:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋