i am a gal of 25yrs is it healthy i tell my boy about my past?

Question

do i tell him i have caused an abortion before and that i have slept around with several men.anyway am no more into it and i have not had sex with him and i intend not to until he marries me help me

Answer 1

I wouldnt if I was you, I know people say honesty is the best answer to everything, well I wouldnt listen to this, I told my BF about my ex sleeping partners and it was fine at the time, but then he threw it in my face about a year later.

And the people are always in his head when I am with them.

I dont think you should tell him about the abortion unless you are getting married and even then, Its not going to affect him, so why tell him??? I know he will say that it doesnt matter, but men are funny and it will always be in his head.

Good Luck, and plz learn a lesson from me, keep your cards very close to your chest.

BE CAREFUL

Answer 2

There are things that are better left unsaid. And then there is also a perfect timing for everything. Just dont stress yourself into spilling all the beans on your bf if your intention is to be rid of it (your secrets) at once. Just get to know your bf better, let your relationship mature into a level that the past doesnt bother either of you in anyway, understanding that what is now, the present, is the most important that both of you can share...
You will know if he is really serious for you if he can handle your past the same way you can handle his. No one is perfect...

Answer 3

Keep the past in the past.
But don't lie either.

Don't go volunteering any stories about wild orgies and threesomes. No man wants to hear that his lady was had by the whole town.

Answer 4

Well abena wat i feel is let the sleeping dogs lie. Don't open the Pandoras box as they will create troubles for u. Jst let tht be. If at all he asks u tell him a brief version. thts all. No need to go into any type of sordid deatils of it. You had fun thts it and obviously he's amle and he slao had his share of fun. So be in ur new life and let the past remain in d past.

GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS.

Answer 5

What is the idea in communicating such personal details unless asked for specifically. Virginity is not an asset in the West.

Answer 6

NO...NO.. NO...NO. My gf told me about her past and while that was great that she could trust me that much i wish a million times over that she either didnt tell me or just telll me the stuff that didnt involve other guys. Definately tell him the stuff that does NOT involve other guys. trust me on that one. It has been two years and i still think about what she has done with other guys.

Answer 7

well...it would be better if you tell him about your past before hand....lest he finds it out from somewhere else.....try to be open with him....tell him your past....and then say to him that you really love him a lot....may be his love for you will grow even more when he realizes that you are true to him and dsnt want to hide anything from him....may be he too has same kind of past.....but make sure you cry while breaking this news to him.....like be emotional and fell real sorry and guilt....hope you got it...now best of luck dear......cheers....

Answer 8

give it up! you gave it to everyone else, adn secrets come out over time, he is going to be pissed if you slept with dudes and not with him, and your gonna make him marry you without being truthfull?

Answer 9

your 25....of course you have a past....i dont think your current bf needs to hear about all of your sexual encounters....its not necessary....he should be interested in who you are today and in the future....leave the past where it belongs....