We met around 4 months back. since then, we have just chatted over the phone. But, recently i proposed her and she accepted (Its, our wish, please no objectiosn to that). Now we were planning to meet, but she is not feeling comfortable in facing me. Why is this so? (please girls answer)
Also we love each other and maybe this will be last time in the year that we might meet, Our parents know about us. I really want to meet her. So how do i help her overcome this fear? She has a fear, that we might land up in a situation that we would like to meet again and again and being in college, she doesn't want to be crazy about me. Already we are so crazy that we can't live without listening to each others voice.
Please help me guys and gals....
2006-11-05 20:39:55 · 19 answers · asked by AB 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she is very lucky to have a boy friend like you. As you always respect her feeling and understand her situation. hope you both are well matured i found it from your questions and i think you are not teenagers , to be childish , a girl will have a shy its natural ,so its suggestable to you to make a move from you side if she really loves you she accept and respect your feelings.i think she too respect your feelings.
Be friendly with her , be a good friend , good lover , and good husband.
wish you best of Luck.
2006-11-06 23:56:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK so you met her through net or something.
I'm not sure why you proposed...marrying someone you've never met is...kinda crazy...
Or would this mean only for being bf and gf, to start a relationship? This, I understand.
She should be feeling scared that you might don't like you if you met together as a person. Maybe a huge uncomfort in her looks.
Let her send pictures, a lot of pictures, and make her comfortable that you love her outlooks, and she would not loose you by not seeing you, but you will be very upset if you can't see her in person at all...I mean how are you guys gonna go out if you've never seen each other?!
Tell her you want to take her to great places like your favourite restarurant, holiday together, theme park, zoo, whatever.
2006-11-05 20:51:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi - I think it's great you both fell in love from talking to each other instead of judging one another on appearence! I'm a girl and I think she may be very nervous at finally meeting someone she is destined to be with forever incase you may judge her on what she looks like! My advice is to reasure her that you've fallen in love with her heart and soul, and can't wait to love her smile, and everything else about her - that should help her confindence! Why shouldn't you meet up more often, you're gettig married aren't you?
And of course if she already loves you as a person she'll crave you more once she's seen you - just go with it, you'll always be hot for each other at least!
2006-11-05 20:56:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is pregnant and she wouldn't like you to see her womb right now.
Or
You just need to be more patient with her. She should be encouraged to see you and overcome that fear-- which soon enough will keep you distant not just physically but emotionally (You mentioned that you love each other and this may be the last time you'll see each other).
Imagine, she wouldn't grab the opportunity to see you one last time.
Just a thought: The problem is either her (she just don't want to see you) or something between you ( a not-so- promising relationship).
Good luck!
2006-11-05 20:50:00 · answer #4 · answered by Lindsey Azriel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is ugly. or extremely obnoxiously overweight. or she fears that you are ugly. or she is actually a man with a female voice. or she is married. or a prostitute. or a wanted criminal. or she promises several people this way but never meets any. or has already seen you without your knowledge and didnt like what she saw. or has autism and cannot make an eye to eye contact. or she faked all her details and is afraid they will be revealed soon.
dont trust her so much, just becoz she is a girl. you are risking yourself by falliing for strangers on the net. go out and make real friends.
2006-11-05 21:38:37 · answer #5 · answered by GAWD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u realize what u said? she doesn't want to be crazy about u--- but yet she accepted your proposal, that really doesn't make any sense to me.
first of all...u don't fall in love that quick, it takes alot of time to do that, u may be infatuated with one another but its not true love. not to say it can't turn into that. but i would give it alot of time before u really make commitments to each other.
and one of the reasons she probably has this fear is she may have lied to u and when u meet u may discover her lies, or maybe she is afraid u just won't like what u see. so just be reassuring to her and give her time. and thats about all i can tell u to do the rest is up to her
2006-11-05 20:49:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may really only open up when it best suits her and not you.
This may be because she is in danger or in trouble about something and may not know how to deal with that.
She has to have all the details/facts about everything about it and then she may feel comfortable. Or else she will really feel left out, betrayed and used around.
If that was me i would really not trust that person at all. Because i am the she in this issue i would really just be myself even if i am a shy one.
2006-11-05 20:59:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm...well i say jus give it time....if u two have such strong feelings for eachother then evathang will workout....u said she's in college...well maybe she jus wants to finish and get dat out of the way before goin anyfurther....i for once have met somone off the internet before and let meh tell u i had soo many doubts but once i wus there and in a comfortable settin like my church evathang jus clicked...so i can undastand why she is shy bout wantin to meh u...maybe she's nurvus u mite not like how she looks or maybe there is more to her background than u know....all i can say though from exsperiance is give her time....suport her comfort her and let her know how much she means to u and how much ud jus love to be with her in real....she will sooner or later get up enough curage and meet u face to face...goodluck sug....
2006-11-05 21:02:45 · answer #8 · answered by kimmy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may sound lame, but sell Tupperware, or some other home party based business. Getting up in front of ppl in home settings can really help you get over your fears of being shy.
2016-05-22 03:15:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should meet up first. Thwen i think that you should
respect her wishes. during your meeting , you should dicusss the future of your relationship and then maybe you can work out some sort of timetable or something when you can meet without interrsupting her school work.
2006-11-05 21:30:30 · answer #10 · answered by Iriskent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋