Noottt that this situation is happening to me, but I have known quite a few people who have been in this situation.. and I was just sort of wondering how they should have handled it?
2006-11-05 20:04:15 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell their friends & family wut they said, then break up w/ them as nicely as possible w/ a well thought out explanation, then make a clean break. no calls no stoppin by no hangin out, nothin. let friends n family help them deal w it and move on.
2006-11-05 20:09:14 · answer #1 · answered by jezabella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. How to answer this question. I have kind of been this guy. I knew that I couldnt live with out my girlfriend and I didnt know what was going to happen when we took a break. I didnt threaten her but i tried to end it and by the grace of god it didnt work. I am now with my girlfriend again and since then i have bought her a diamond ring. I am still 18 so marriage won't be for a while....if it ends up that way. But ayway, I would tell the guy that by commiting suicide he would be completely stupid. Tell him if they are going to stay together then he needs to make some changes. If that absolutely doesnt work or you want to end it completely at least let him think that there will be something in the future so he has that little spark of hope and let him know that if he ends it he will not be able to ever get her back. I really doubt anyone would seriously kill themselves over it. I think it is more used as a scare tactic but dont take my word as absolute.
2006-11-05 20:12:12 · answer #2 · answered by geoffzaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him or her that the reason you want to break up is their immaturity and emotional insecurity that they exhibit all the time. You need an emotionally secure person in your life. Just do not take their calls and miss communication for sometime. Then, may be talk to them and say that they are so stupid that these blackmails actually makes you hate them more. For some time, keep it randomly speaking, but never once encourage them. Stick to the decision. After six months, drop it completely.
2006-11-05 20:26:05 · answer #3 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just kids being stupid drama queens most of the time. Need to have their emo records taken away and some sense slapped into them.
If it was a situation where you really believed them, break up with them anyway but first tell family members they are suicidal. They need a psychiatrist, not a boyfriend/girlfriend and it's unfair to the other person to be forced into that role. Most likely they will just drag you down with them.
fwiw: I am not 100% sure my ex-girlfriend is still alive.
2006-11-05 20:24:52 · answer #4 · answered by randomstupidhandle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whew! I am so glad this situation is not happening to you. Whenever someone says they are going to kill themselves--people do not have the luxury of ignoring it... they must tell closest family members of the one who is threatening this action.
and...
if they were just saying it for emotional blackmail... they will NEVER do it again and if they are having a real crisis --they will get the help they need.
2006-11-05 20:07:36 · answer #5 · answered by samantha h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been in that situation before and i believe that you must leave that person if you want to regardless of the emotional blackmail they are trying to pull on you. do what you have to do for your sake. please be carefull after you have done it; keep away from them because they can be dangerous. make sure you make it a point that you are breaking up for real and keep away.
its been ten months since i broke up with my ex who used to take advantage of my good nature put me on a guilt trip all the time (in fact since the start of the relationship). im glad that its over and i have been able to move on and find what i've been looking for all this time.
2006-11-05 20:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot let someone influence your end decision as this will only re inforce a very negative behaviour. but, if you think they may be serious- it will represent underlying psychological problems that need to be helped. either tell them to see a dr or tell someone else who can influence them to seek help.
staying with the person is not an option.
2006-11-05 20:11:05 · answer #7 · answered by maxwellgp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most times they just say that to make you feel guilty. But if you really suspect that they may, you might want to get them some help before the split.
2006-11-05 20:07:26 · answer #8 · answered by kayjay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drug overdose might look painless, yet what incredibly occurs is the physique tries to purge itself of the poison and you will possibly have very undesirable muscle and abdomen cramps and vomiting. i do no longer think of there's a single thank you to die that does no longer contain soreness.
2016-11-27 21:51:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional blackmail. Trying to make u feel guilty, and make u think they need u, cant live without u. Break up with them, then inform someone close to them ( in-case they do something stupid)
2006-11-05 20:13:00 · answer #10 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think "Christina" is right, been there too and trust me only way to end this to let him understand that if he will do, that will not mean anything to you, this will calm him down, he'll think that his life is not worth giving up for person who doesn't even care if he's dead or alife.
2006-11-05 20:20:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋