As a Christian, could you ever be with someone who is not?

Question

The guy I am dating is extremely into Christianty. I believe in a God, but not in Jesus. He has asked me about it a couple times, I think it may bother him. For you Christians, is this a real problem? I am a caring, giving, loving person (in all honesty, more than he is).

Answer 1

My Husband feels the way I do
As far as being with someone who did not feel the way I did?
I honestly don't know
But I do know that the Bible speaks of unequally yoked

Answer 2

My husband was atheist when we met, and I was leaning towards Christianity. Now, I am FULLY a Christian (though not perfect, lol, and certainly no better than anyone else!), and he's agnostic.
I respect his beliefs more than it seems he respects mine. Since I've started going to church, and volunteering for mission trips, and taking part in more than one Bible study a week, he has been giving me a REALLY hard time. But I think it puzzles him more than anything. He sees God working in me.
If your guy is truly into Christianity, you will see God working in him. Just know this: No matter what, if he is a Christian, GOD comes first. Period.
I love my husband with all my heart, and I don't want to ever live without him, but God takes precedence in my life.
Be prepared for that. Be honest with him that you're not a Christian. Tell him you have your doubts. Maybe he can answer your questions.
It does bother me that my husband's not a Christian...because it's harder to go to church without him by my side. I want him to know the joy and contentment I know. But I love him, and I know God loves him, and that we were placed in each others' lives for a reason. Our meeting and falling in love was not an accident.
Neither is you meeting that guy, or him meeting you.

Answer 3

I am a born again christian and my husband does not believe.
I pray for him every day and i believe that God will bring him over
That my husband will hear Jesus knocking and answer the call.
I love my husband and just because he does not believe does not mean i am going to pack up and leave him.
But i believe it should not make much any different if you really love a person. But then i can not speak for your boy friend


May god bless you and i hope all works out well with your guy

Answer 4

The Bible says, "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people.” (2 Corinthians 6:14-16) I am so sorry, but God considers anyone who does not follow Him an unbeliever. I know this verse may sound harsh to an unbeliever, but it's true. But do you know what? We believers have been every bit as wicked as the rest of the world. "The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?" (Jeremiah 17:9) But the difference is that we have accepted Christ's gift to us and follow Him, and though we are not perfect, we strive to be like Him. When we sin we can be forgiven. The Bible says "My little children, I am writing these things to you so that you may not sin. And if anyone sins, we have an Advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous" (1 John 2:1-2) This is saying that He will forgive us if we sin. That kind of explains things when comparing a believer to an unbeliever. I hope this clarifies things a bit.

Answer 5

well the word of God says that we should not be unequally yolked.. not dating non believers. not because they are bad, but because God knows it will only end in heartache. coz if a person is a Christian and loves God, usually, God is number one in there life, its in God that they find there purpose and in the word where they make there decisions, so being with someone that doesnt have the same desires and beliefs is a recipie for strife, you will end up so unhappy because of your differences of opinions. its unhealthy and unwise.

you can be caring, giving, loving etc.. but when a big thing like a difference in beliefs comes into the picture, its not enough. you will both be hurting coz he will be like "i wish she would just accept Jesus and learn the truth" and you will be like "i wish he would just leave me alone, and drop it and stop spending so much time in church". God knows its a bad idea.

You believe in a god. He believes in GOD. there is a huge difference. Maybe you could just hear him out. listen to each other. tell him what you believe...and why, then let him tell you what he believes and why. go along to his church and check it out. If you both cant come to a common agreement or something, it will end in disaster and your better off dropping it.

yes, as a Christian, from regretful experience, i can say, its a huge problem.

Answer 6

The core moral values which guide our decisions & choices get engrained in us due to our religious upbringing. Hence compatability in choices might become a problem later when you share another's life 24hrs a day almost -unless ofcourse both partners are 'englightened & mature enough' to respect the personal space of each other and also adopt a give and take policy.

This is the reason why generally compatibility in faith, background, economic status, personality traints etc., is recommended. Ultimately the God in you figures in him as Christ.

Answer 7

In old testament God told the children to avoid folks in other tribes because there ways would lead others astry, and for your infomation In Isa. 9:6 and in John 1 the first few verses Jesus IS GOD, Jesus refured Himself as I AM which is the same name given to Moses to tell the leader to let my people go, from egypt, Jesus IS The Second member of The Godhead. free bible lessons learn more, www.itiswritten.com Jesus is your ONLY EXIT, so keep that exit clear of anything and DO NOT put anything of more importance in frount of it, boyfriend included, hay your living in a world that has a total death rate, you like the thiefs on the cross are as good as dead now, so why do you need a boyfriend, a dead person needs JESUS not a boyfriend, SEEK FIRST Jesus Christ and His Kingdom THEN all that you need God will provide but put first things first, bible lessons www.itiswritten.com EMAIL me also [e-mail] God bless

Answer 8

I'm Catholic, a lazy one but I'm nothing else anyway. So, are you Jewish and he's a rabid Christian? If so, it won't work out. Very strict 'anything' doesn't work with an easygoing 'anything'.

Eventually, it could be a reason he controls you with criticism. And who really knows which is right? Nobody. Not him for sure. And did you say he wasn't all that caring, giving or loving. There must be somebody nicer out there for you.

Answer 9

This may help

The Bible says

2 Corinthians 6

14. Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers:

HOWEVER

1corinthians 7:

12. But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
13. And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
14. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
15. But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
16. For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?

It is not God's perfect will for his people not to be likeminded and of the same heart,

The bible says in Amos 3:

3. Can two walk together, except they be agreed?

two different views causes strife

Answer 10

I actually prefer to date people who don't agree with me on much. It gives us more to talk about. Also, if he really cares about you and you really care about him, you'll find a way to work out your differences and learn to accept each other. Maybe there's a solution to the "culture war" here. Let's all partner with people of other beliefs and create a super race of tolerant people. I'm willing to do my part.