she says she cannot go against her parents wish and that i should leave her,but it impossible for me to do so, i cant live without her,she also loves me lot but just because her parents do not agree to our marriage she says she cant hurt them.what should i do?
2006-11-05 19:19:38 · 19 answers · asked by Pankudi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i think it is time for you and ur galfr to decide to see if ur relationship is really meant to be. As much as it hurts, u need to let her go , she has made that decision to honour her parents, and if you truly love her u need to value the things that makes her happi. Not everylove is meant to be. If you can convince her parents, do try. But after which, give in, be a gentleman..let her lead her life..and i am sure u will find in due time, a gal who truly accepts u for you.
2006-11-05 19:23:30 · answer #1 · answered by Maheswari M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I come from a similar background. I understand your worries. DO NOT get married to this man- he is trouble and seems to only bring more disaster with him everywhere. His family does not seem right, and perhaps police intervention will at least make this boy and his family realize that they cannot and should not continue doing this. Because you and your family respect tradition, I feel that you and your family should continue consulting with the caste elders and seek a solution that you all are comfortable with. You and your family are the victims here and nothing is your fault or your family's fault.
2016-03-19 04:07:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
meet her father or mother or the decision maker by fixing a time and place under some pretext..do not go to their house if u don't know them then it will create a seen. if u know any of their family members it is fine.
then the important.you must prove them you are really worth for their daughter all the ways irrespective of the caste. also tell them even if you are not marrying her you will really wish her the best.this will create a good feeling about u.all said and done the reality is they must be sure that changing caste should not create any problem for their grandchildren.also your assurance about the happiness of the girl both financially and physically .try .best of luck
2006-11-05 20:00:27 · answer #3 · answered by krishman1960 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let her go. If she really loves you she will come to you and if she does not she never was.
Friend life goes on. You have to move on. Its not like she does not love you but she is doing this for her parents be proud of her and make it easy for her. For you its just that your girlfriend has left you and you can even hate her but look at her state she will be living with this guilt of selecting her parents over you. I know its not easy believe me i know i have been through it but look life goes on. Its been 21/2 years and now i am fine.
Good luck and god bless
2006-11-05 20:06:27 · answer #4 · answered by Blueberry 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She has chosen to be on her parents' side. One cannot ride in two boats. So, even if she comes to you, she will not be yours, wholly. Her mind will always be with her parents. This will come to your way every now and then, and it will affect a peaceful life. You love her, alright. But this your life buddy. Instead of spending your life in her tears, respect her decision and lead your life your way. Remember the saying in Hindi ' jo hota hai, achcha hi hota hai '.
2006-11-05 19:47:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess you should try to convince her that she's the one getting married, and as much as she loves her parents, she's the one who'll spend forever with this guy...If it doesn't work, well, as sad as it is, you just have to let her go. It doesn't seem possible right now, but time will make it easier and you'll find someone perfect for you as well. Take care!
2006-11-05 20:15:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i really think you should hold on to her very tight. dont let her go.because its your and her life we are talking about, not her parents'. but then she has to support you. the only one u need to convince is her. if she is convinced , the world's opinion doesn't matter. and remind her, not to take a decision under pressure which she will regret her whole life, i.e. if she will regret. so the whole point is , if she does want to be with you, she should be a little more brave. be selfish man. why care about her parents' feeling when they apparently dont care about your.do any thing and dont let her go.
2006-11-06 08:46:50 · answer #7 · answered by ballack 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You to have to decide whether your relationship is worth going against her parents. There is nothing that you can really do because its her parents, her marriage, and her family. Just talk to her tell her how you feel. One thing you can mention to her is that she has to listen to her heart and live her own life.
2006-11-05 19:38:26 · answer #8 · answered by Oops! 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should go upto her parents and ask them for hteir daughter's hand.If you are good enough for their daughter they certainly will agree.right now even the one you love is not supporting you.Ask HER first to talk to her parents.Ask her to tell her parents to hold off these things for a while.Ask her to tell her parents to give you a chance.And after all this also they reject you and she doesnt stand for you and marries the guy she doesnt love then let her be.Maybe it wasnt meant to be.TRY and ask her also to TRY.It depends on YOU both now.She has to talk to her folks.
and remember, marry not the one YOU love but the one who loves YOU !! because they will always keep you happy !!
2006-11-06 13:15:11 · answer #9 · answered by swankynix 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is a saying in hindi JO HOTA HAI ACHE KE LIYE HOTA HAI so do not worry may be there is some very good girl waiting for you in the near future.
2006-11-06 21:42:45 · answer #10 · answered by tejas 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋