Ok-so I met a guy...very cute, about 3 weeks ago when I was out with some mutual friends of ours. I had heard of him before, but neither of us had actually ever met. We ended up talking like crazy that night, and by the time I got home, he found me (throug friends) online and started contacting me. A week later he invited me out with he and his friend. I didn't think much of it initially because he is VERY attractive and is older than I (7 years). After hanging out with him and his friend, we started "hanging out" at least two or three times a week the past 3 weeks. I was sick with mono the last few weeks (he knows), but he has continued to show interest in getting to know me. We have a great time together, go get coffee, talk for hours, go over each others places. A week or so ago he started hugging me goodbye...but I worry he isn't into me because we haven't kissed. I have been sick and hope thats why. He has talked to his friends about me, but I don't know whats been said. Ideas?!
2006-11-05 19:08:55 · 25 answers · asked by ItsAllinTheEyes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok- so there is more to it I guess? I am 20 he is 27. He calls, texts, contacts me in some way shape or form everyday. He brings me hot chocolate (my fav) or ice cream, whatever everytime he comes over just because. This past weekend he went out of town for a wedding he was playing at and sent me a message saying he's already talked about me to some of his best friends. He was drinking, but nonetheless. He spends hours talking to me, and while we are both super busy, manage to work each other into the scheduling. His last girlfriend didnt understand how busy he was...but he and I are definately on the same page with all of that. We have talked about past relationships and hinted at a relationship together today. Fingers are crossed...I really like him!
2006-11-05 19:20:04 · update #1
Thanks in advance for all of your responses :) I truly appreciate you taking the time to answer :). I have dated my fair share of idiots, liars, jerks, you name them...and this guy-i haven't gotten him out of my head since the night we actually met...so thanks for the help!! :)
2006-11-05 19:28:31 · update #2
maybe he's just being nervous...make the move yourself...or are you too nervous? ;P
2006-11-05 19:11:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good quesiton sister gal, you tend to think just because he did not kiss you, he is not really interested in you. But the fact that he is taking you out and talking about you is enough convince you that he likes you. If you come from the part of the world where kisses are very normal for every two day relationship then there must be something wrong somewhere if he does not do so. Seven years older than you means he is more mature, has passed through a lot. But i tend to think kisses should not be for aquintances. If he is a man of character and integrity (virtues not commonly up held in developed countries)he may not want to injure your feeling and so he is taking things slowly until he is sure if he likes you or you like him. It would be very bad for him to kiss you today and 2morrow you see him kiss another lady, i think you are not ready for that. The fact that he is hugging you is enough to tell you that he is not nervous, you can check his heartbeat if you like and you will see its normal when he is hugging you. Good luck sister
2006-11-05 19:29:58 · answer #2 · answered by wwjd_man_isa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing to realize is that he does like you. So take a deep breath with me now! Woo hoo! That is DEFINITELY great news, if you like him too! Why would he continue to hang out with you if he didn't? Not only that but he has told his friends about you ... probably in a positive light (as shown through his continuous hang out sessions with you), so that's a great sign too. As far as the kissing, a few things can be hindering his moves. First of all, you were sick. Secondly, he could just be trying to show you that he is not a pompous pig and enjoys your company.. and that you're not just a piece of you know what. This definitely shows he respects you, which is a GREAT thing. Lastly, it could just be that he is waiting for you to make the move. SO. here's what you do. You drop all these thoughts and next time you hang out with him, just plant one on him!
Good luck!!!!!!
2006-11-05 19:23:35 · answer #3 · answered by cutebastardette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's lovely. Where I am..you're just considered shy or stupid for not kissing on a first date. I say go for it. Don't plan it. Wait until it feels right, or even if he's talking or saying something. And do it properly :)
2016-05-22 03:10:06 · answer #4 · answered by Patricia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's still not established that you're boyfriend and girlfriend it's no surprise he hasn't kissed you.
How old are you if he is 7 years older?
He may not have kissed you yet because of the Mono and because he wants you to know he isn't all about that.
If you feel it's time, you could always get bold and initiate it.
2006-11-05 19:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really exactly cant understand what you want to do? but if he dont kiss you that does not mean that guy is not loving you and one more thing is that the guy is younger than you then both of you should clarify the things about the relationship seriously. any other help or suggestion call 9967414074
2006-11-05 19:16:41 · answer #6 · answered by Raj J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depending on your age, I would say 7 years older could be a problem.
If your under 20 he might be scared of what might happen if he just goes and kisses you?
If your old enough, go for it girl. Kiss the living lights out of him. If he likes you, you'll definitely know after you've made the first move!!
GO FOR IT GIRL!!
2006-11-05 19:23:30 · answer #7 · answered by Stormy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he finds you interesting but is unsure because the age difference between both of you. Try to ask him indirectly if age matters to him. You may get some hint.
2006-11-05 19:16:29 · answer #8 · answered by miss_magic047 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say from a guys point of view that he is interested but is probably shy or even scared, so maybe you should make the first move n let him know that is what you want
2006-11-05 19:14:27 · answer #9 · answered by Duffsta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry abt that he hasnt expressed his love through kissing u.Thats not the issue to discuss.firstly u shud see in ur relationship there is no communication regarding getting involved in love.so,first thing is u shud propose him or wait for him to propose.After that only u wud be able to proceed for kiss.He likes u is for sure otherwise y wud he be caring for u.Give sometime to ur relation to grow .Dont be in hurry to achieve anything.
2006-11-05 19:39:48 · answer #10 · answered by Ishh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have/had mono, then he could be worried about catching it. It was once referred to as the kissing disease. If the doc says you are not contagious, then you need to let him know. If he wasn't into you, he would not be taking you out.
2006-11-05 19:16:59 · answer #11 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋