Okay I am young and still very optimistic about finding the right girl. But as I am dating and thinking things are going good or should I say perfect, it sucks to get hurt, especially out of nowhere. Examples. My last two girls friends, I took them out all the time. Atleast once a week or sometimes twice. I bought them stuff. Told them how beautiful they were everyday. I got the first one a $600 ring just for being my girlfriend. Never yelled, fought, or argued. Cause I dont argue, aint nothing worth it. And on the flip side, they would tell me how perfect I was.. how nice I was, they even went as far as saying that they werent good enough for me. Yet I am still the one to get dumped. Now I know Ill eventually find the right girl. But man does it suck when you think you already have. Oh and I am not unattractive at all. And I dont go for drop dead gorgeous girls. As long as their cute its fine. I am not very shallow. I am nice and good lookin and always had a job. So dont assume..
2006-11-05 19:05:12 · 9 answers · asked by Cody B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nice guys do not finish last. It just takes us awhile to find your type. Don't change a thing or start playing mind games just to "give her a challenge". That's too much work. Stay true to yourself and the right one will come along. Just like girls have to kiss a few frogs to find a prince, you may have to do the same to find your princess. But remember, don't give your red carpet treatment to just anybody. Otherwise, how will the special one know that she's special to you? And by the way, the girls that dumped you, they'll regret it.
2006-11-05 19:23:04 · answer #1 · answered by 00jag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off stop listening to advice from women on what kind of man they want. They are telling you what kind of man they "think" they want and not what they are actually attracted too.
My first guess is that you have relatively low self confidence, which a lot of guys do and it shows thru in your relationships. Secondly, from your post it seems like you are too eager to please people and give them what they want. Well that's all good and nice up until the point those people start taking for granted.
You don't have to be an ahole or a jerk to get women. It very easy.
Be challenging, be cocky, be able to laugh at your self and others, make people work for the things you give them.
Just like you don't wake up every day being grateful for air your breathing in right now even thought you can't live with out it. People do not value the things which they didn't earn. Its very simple.
2006-11-05 20:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by guide 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not a challenge. You are not projecting an exciting image to these women. Yes, you treat them nicely, but they want excitement, mystery, and flirtatious fun. This sounds crazy, but they left you because you never fought or argued. Tension is a serious attractor with women. Not yelling, but teasing, flirtatious mockery, etc. You were a safe guy, but not a FUN, EXCITING guy. Be exciting, and the women will stay. Be mysterious, and the women will beat a path to your door.
2006-11-05 19:11:24 · answer #3 · answered by dante_cubit_3000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they tell you your too good for them, maybe back off because they have a guilty conscience or are subliminally saying they like you but are not sure your their ideal mate, but don't give up because time brings out more in relationships, but don't let them waist alot of your time either find your balance and dont sacrifice your integrity, no matter how vulnerable one might make you. know your limits to what you allow someone to put you through.
2006-11-05 19:15:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're commonly watching for the incorrect varieties of women. The varieties that might opt for unhealthy men. And except, I do not suppose great men conclude final, simply susceptible men. Nice men can also be powerful too.
2016-09-01 07:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well nice guy, if i werent married, i would be looking for a guy like you. you arent finishing last silly! you just havent found the right girl and that girl will be very lucky indeed. so yeah keep dating and dont change yourself. its only a matter of time
2006-11-05 19:09:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because nice guys are afraid to go for things and make moves. The other guy goes for it and thinks later. Personally, I like the nice guy.
2006-11-05 19:16:02 · answer #7 · answered by Christina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate when nice guys think they finish last. Just because you made a few wrong choices in women doesn't mean that we're all looking for jerks. Just keep looking. There will be one who will appreciate you.
2006-11-05 19:11:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not nice I know, and when you're young it can always feel that way...be patient, you'll get there, nice guys don't always finish last, and when they don't, you'll find it was worth all the let downs
2006-11-05 19:08:36 · answer #9 · answered by murphy51024 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋