I have been dating this guy for a year I just found out when we had been dating for like a month he dated another girl for like 2 weeks he never told me and I heard about it and asked him he said it never happened but now I know differently I wont get to see him or talk to him till thursday should I break up with him or stay with him what should I say to him.
2006-11-05 18:41:05 · 15 answers · asked by SunShineBabe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think the problem is that he dated someone during the first month. Most people when they start dating don't have an understanding that they will be exclusive right away. Usually that builds over time and culminates in a "lets be exclusive" conversation. What is something you should be worried about is his lying about it. If someone lies, you can't put trust in them. You should have a serious discussion with him about this. Ultimately, only you can decide if you can learn to trust him again. If you think you can (and he shows himself to be trustworthy in everything else) then maybe give him another chance. If not, then get out now.
2006-11-05 18:48:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the first question you need to ask yourself is, "When we began dating, were we clear that the relationship would be exclusive?" Were you two both clear that you would not see other people. The second question is, "do I trust him?" Trust is very important is an relationship. If he said it never happened and you trust him then you need to trust him and let it go. Being able to share everything with one another and know that he/she is going to be there is a necessity. If he really did date another girl while he was with you and before both of you had determined you were only going to see each other, then he messed up. And that is sad. It's always hard to find out from someone else about something like that. Hopefully, he did not really date another girl. Try and talk to him before Thursday and be clear about your feelings and what you want from the relationship. And if he is not comfortable with that then you should reconsider some things. But talk to him. Communication is the key to a healthy relationship! Goodluck!
2006-11-06 02:50:14 · answer #2 · answered by Panda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he done anything else to make you question his honesty and loyalty after that 2 week stint in the first month of your relationship?
If you feel like you can't trust him then you shouldn't be with him...But if he hasn't done anything else to make you question the strength of your relationship. Then as another woman I say be glad that little bit of time happened in the beginning when things weren't as serious and deep as they are now.Its hurtful in the beginning because you were building the foundation of the relationship.But imagine if he did it now when the foundation is solid.And obviously he made a choice to stay with you.Although he shoulda been truthful and admitted the mistake from the beginning.
Say whats on your mind be truthful this is a serious emotional dilemma and you can't just act like it didn't happen.Tell him this effects the relationship in a small way its a small crack or dent in the foundation.And its enough for you to question his honesty for quite some time.Then do what feels right to you.If you're looking for an "OUT" from this relationship then use it.If you're not then you have to be able to move forward without throwing it in his face when you're angry.But if you can't NOT throw it in his face when you get angry then best to definately take the "out".
Malia G
2006-11-06 02:53:07 · answer #3 · answered by Malia G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
regardless of what happened at the beginning of your relationship, he's lying to you now. Doesn't sound like you can trust this person. Maybe you shouldn't be with him if trust is an issue. If you've been in a relationship with someone for a year you should be able to communicate openly. But only you can make that choice based on your circumstances.
2006-11-06 02:46:29 · answer #4 · answered by idontknowjustgivemeaname 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you knew that he is two timing you and is dating another girl
that was the time to tell him to get lost. You girls allow every thing to happen and then you cry foul. Tell me is it so so hard to meet other guys. Where you live there must be many people you can meet
2006-11-06 02:48:15 · answer #5 · answered by R C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hay babes.
The fact that you have to ask whether to leave a guy is proof that you should indeed!!
If he lies about something this serious how will you ever be able to trust him with personal things?
I'd suggest you tell him to hit the road. He's not worth your time and you deserve better!!
2006-11-06 02:48:40 · answer #6 · answered by Stormy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you cant trust him, it might be an idea to break up, but its totally your choice. If you really like him, maybe you can give him another chance orgive it some time. But as i said it up to you, not me concidering i dont even know him
2006-11-06 02:45:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's totally up to you. Just listen to yourself whether you love him enough to forgive him or not. Or you love yourself best. You will know yourself best when you have had enough of him. If you are not ready to leave him, you won't be ready. If you are ready, you won't look back and regret. Take care of your heart!
2006-11-06 03:25:06 · answer #8 · answered by Sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should break- up with him, because what if he hurts you even more ??
And what a CHEAT !!!
I think that you trusted him alot, and he he wasn't even honest with you in the beginning of your relationship.
2006-11-06 02:47:46 · answer #9 · answered by Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would break up with him. Not only did he cheat on you, but more importantly, he has been dishonest with you. Will you ever feel like you can trust him again?
2006-11-06 02:44:46 · answer #10 · answered by Elaine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋