Bless his heart he is the type of child (he is 5) that just wants to play with everyone (kids) anf there are some kids that are just mean and nasty towards him but he still yet wants to play with them. There are a couple of kids that have hit him and he still goes around them and tells me they are his friends and i have told him friends don't hit friends but he is just so sensitive and just wants to play. How can i get him to stand up for himself if one calls him a name or hits him?
(I have talked to the parents of the ones that did hit him which they could care less as long as they are outside and out of their hair).
2006-11-05 18:16:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My father just gave me a raggedy old wood bat to carry around with the word "Killer" on it to defend myself from brothers. I still have that bat. In a more serious tone, though, I agree wholeheartedly with those above who said to try to keep your boy away from the tormentors. My son was just like yours, sweet and non-violent. The world needs more men like that. He's an attorney and politician today.
2006-11-05 18:32:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you around him the whole time? If not Then you should only let him be with them when you or someone you know that will stop these other children are around! When he is around the children and they are hitting him you need to just pull him away for awhile. When you pull him away you need to tell him that when another person (child) hits him it is okay for him to hit back, but only if they hit him first. Let him know that this is defending himself. That this is telling the others not to do it any more. Then you need to tell him he cannot play with the other children until he can defend himself and not let the others treat him that way! Then let him sit with you for a few min. and watch the other children having fun and not hitting each other. If when he does defend himself it becomes a fight then you need to go and stop the fight betweenthe two children, this he knows mom is there to protect him if it gets real bad. But Repeat the same thing every time he plays with any of the children, so that he will always defend himself. After a couple of times of him doing this the other children will stop. They will know he is not going to let them do that any more.
2006-11-05 18:48:30 · answer #2 · answered by no.#1 Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids will be kids. You need to teach him about play time manners and how to tell another child that he doesn't like something or the way he is being treated. Most preschools and kindergarten classes teach this type of thing. Ask his teachers what they do as far as bully prevention and self respect.
2006-11-05 18:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by me_laub 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is NOTHING you can do. Your son is going to have to learn on his own. (yes this too is a learning process). Trying to involve parents in the "natural order" of children isn't going to do you or your son any good. He will be teased and disrespected even more for having his "mommie" interfere. Leave him as well as the other children alone. He will have a far better chance standing on his own if you're not there holding him up.
2006-11-05 18:22:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. As for as possible dont interfere in to childrens matter.They will adjust over aperiod of time.
2.There may be initial troubles but you should still have enough patience.
3.Show your friendly face to his friend by smiling and talking nice with them.
4.Do not pay over attention to your kids activity,May be you are harming him.Have your own independent activity like coming to this yahoo answe forum and so on.Thank you.
I believe to day evening you are going to distribute chocklets to all his friends including him with a friendly smile on your face.
2006-11-05 18:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's best to have him recognize who a desirable friend is and who isn't. As adults, do we defend our every conflict? Only when necessary, otherwise we walk away and don't waste our time! If some kid hits him, he should find someone more fun who can reciprocate and appreciate his friendship.
2006-11-05 18:26:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep him away from the tormentors and find him another group of children or a supervised playgroup. You may want to put him a martial arts class or self-defense class that will teach him discipline, self control and how to defend himself.
2006-11-05 18:23:17 · answer #7 · answered by lynnguys 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend going through this with her son who's 5. There are a lot of books that deal with "bullies" like berenstein bears, etc. Go to your library and check it out. Don't forget that your son will reach his threshold and kick their a**es!!!
2006-11-06 07:44:56 · answer #8 · answered by doom92556 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahem. you could put him in a Marshal arts class. This class will let him defend him self.the class will also let him have fun and he Can met new friends at a Marshal arts class and they'll most likely be nice. :) good luck ;-)
2006-11-05 18:29:54 · answer #9 · answered by alaskan_wolf10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep your kid away from those kids in the first place. i know its hard but keep him away. you will save him a lot of troubles in life later on.
2006-11-05 18:19:40 · answer #10 · answered by GhandiDahandi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋