I AM GETTING MARRIED AND IVE ALWAYS WANTED MY FAVORITE COUSIN TO BE IN MY WEDDING SINCE I WAS A LITTLE GIRL. SHE RECENTLY GOT MAD AT ME FOR SOME REASON. I DONT EVEN KNOW WHY SHE'S MAD. SHE TOLD ME THAT SHE DIDNT WANT TO BE IN THE WEDDING ANYMORE BUT SHE DIDNT SAY WHAT THE PROBLEM WAS. SHE JUST KEEPS SAYING THAT SHE'S ALRIGHT, AND THAT IF I NEEDED ANYTHING, SHE'S THERE TO HELP BUT SHE JUST DOESNT WANT TO BE IN IT ANYMORE. WHAT SHOULD I DO?I REALLY WANT FOR HER TO BE A PART OF THIS SPECIAL DAY.
2006-11-05 18:15:51 · 8 answers · asked by misskashmere 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
BY THE WAY, SHE'S ALREADY MARRIED SO I DONT THINK THAT HAS ANYTHING TO DO WITH IT. AND SHE'S STILL BEING POLITE TO ME SO I REALLY CAN'T TELL IF IT'S REALLY ME THAT SHE'S UPSET WITH OR IF IT'S ANOTHER FAMILY MEMBER THAT I DEAL WITH AND SHE DOESN'T LIKE THAT PERSON. THIS IS DRIVING ME CRAZY CUZ I DONT KNOW WHAT THE PROBLEM IS.
2006-11-08 09:57:35 · update #1
First of all I would send her a small card saying that she is your favourite cousin and that you want her to be in the wedding party. Then I think that you should arrange to meet her and talk things out with her, as she obviously upset about something. Tell her that you of course would love for her to help you with all the arrangements but you’d love it if she could be a part of it. Explain that it is all that you have ever wanted. You need to ask her why she won’t do it but at the end of the day if she doesn’t want to do it you have to be prepared for this because she probably does have her reasons. But you need to try and get her to open up to you
2006-11-05 22:04:12 · answer #1 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to schedule a special private time when you and she can sit down without any interruptions and ask her what is the real problem. Tell her that if you have done something to offend or hurt her, you are very sorry and ask for her forgiveness. Tell her how you feel about her and that you would sincerely like for her to be a part of the most important day of your life. Tell her that family is very important to you and that you would not ever do anything intentionally to hurt her or anyone, and you are very upset that something has come between the two of you, and that you really want to resolve it foremost, and if you can, you would still want her to be a part of your wedding. But, let her know that even if she decides not to be in the wedding, you still want to fix your relationship with her.
2006-11-08 06:47:20 · answer #2 · answered by lildragonlexi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess what you can do is tell her that you would appreciate it if you knew what was wrong so you could understand and apologize, but tell her that she can say it in her own time when she's ready, but for now, all you want is for her to go to your wedding at least for all the past moments that you've shared and as a sign that things will get patched up someday. Tell her everything you've shared is important to you and that it would really mean so much if she came. If she says no, there's nothing much that we can do.
2006-11-06 04:30:59 · answer #3 · answered by stormsandblues 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like your cousin is jealous.... u mentioned how you were close since your were little girls, maybe she wanted both of you to get married around the same time but it is only you and not her. Or, maybe she will think your life as a married person will seperate you two and you wont be around as much for her.
Hopefully she comes around before the weddin and realizes how dumb she is acting.
2006-11-06 05:50:36 · answer #4 · answered by Veronica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would seem to me...that all of a sudden?...your getting married...and she is upset?
If she knew you always wanted her in the wedding party, then she has planned this, for whatever reason.
If she is not married...you may have your answer.Often, people act out under stress...She may never tell you.
So this is what you do!
Leave her alone, and get on with the wedding...really!
If she does come-around, good for her!...but its YOUR day, and you must be focused o.k. so it all go's o.k.
All the very best....Have a great day!
2006-11-06 03:11:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
have a frank discussion with her. is she jealous of u. just take time to talk it all out with her. did u steal her guy or something. just ask her to be frank and that both of u could sort out the problems whatever it was. good luck.
2006-11-06 02:21:09 · answer #6 · answered by wow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cant force any one ,so leave her.she will cm .if nt doesnt matter.be realistic nt emotional.best wishes.
2006-11-06 03:29:57 · answer #7 · answered by Iffat A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she can't afford to be a bride's maid. maybe you can ask her if she would like to be a hostess.
2006-11-06 02:54:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋