me and my boyfriend have been going out for 1 month 1 week and 2 days and now he is like all distant from me and i really need him right now because my parents are seperating and it is puting a lot of stress on me but now he doesnt even really want o hold like last weekend and it bugs me because when he notices that i am a like what ever and **** he goes and says " i love you " and i just say " i love you 2 " then he is lie " ok good " i just dont know what to do half the time now when we pass each other he basicly walks right through me i just want things to go back the way they were he says the i meen more to him then life itself but does he mean it?? please help me!!
2006-11-05 18:13:16 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is just being a guy! Classic girl / guy differences. At 1 month , 1 week , and 2 days you are counting, and I bet you he does not have a clue how long it has been. That is just being a guy. The best advice for girlfriends is to give your guy space. Give him space!!! If you are married and perhaps for twenty years you have the right to expect or demand certain types of support but not at 1 month, 1 week and 2 days.
Quite likely he is going through things as tragic as you are right now, but guys usually shoulder it and do not talk about it , they get quiet and distant and do not want to talk about it until they have conquered it. Your significant other in your life is there to enrich it and share it, not solve your problems or make you happy. Think what would you do and how would you handle your present problems if he was not there, if you had no boyfriend right now? That is how you should handle it then, and if and when he ask you what is going on, let him know what you are taking care of. If he offers help then great but if he does not at 1 month, 1 week, and 2 days do not get offended many would feel awkward getting involved in family affairs of that magnitude that early into a relationship. Oh and if you do get in to a discussion about it, remember TMI, too much information, say what needs to be said but without TMI. Add to this as little "drama" as possible and by all means run from the appearance of being high maintenance. And you may be able to reward your self with a one year anniversary in about 10 months, 3 weeks and 5 days.
Good Luck and remember this to shall pass.
2006-11-05 18:30:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you need to let him go. You don't need him, you need to be stronge for yourself. And for your parents. I know your going through alot right now but the last thing you need is a bf of any kind. Let things settle down at the home front. Guys don't like getting in the middle of family problems because it's none of their business. He doesn't feel comfortabe any more because your leaning on him too much. If he were in your shoes he'd suck it up and deal with it and not expect anyone to be in the middle and if he did; it would be maybe and thats a big maybe ; a few very close friends. His not going to tell his gf. You need to understand, guys don't talk about their feelings like girls do. They don't expect you to pick them up when their down. Their boys and boys learn to be tough growing up and not show their feelings. Girls are too emotional , as you grow up when you fall your dad picks you up and gives you love and attention and it all go's away. But when a boy falls their dads tell " them get up your alright" and they do and they are. So they learn differently from girls. Get it? He doesn't want to be in the middle and give you the idea that you can lean on him for emotional support, he doesn't know how to give it to you. And you don't need to expect it from him. Find it inside yourself and learn to handle the hard times on your own. Show him your OK with what's going on and that your a stronge person don't let him think or see you as weak.
2006-11-05 18:35:13 · answer #2 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 07:59:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can help yourself here. Be glad you are rid of him. Have patience and ignore the dirtbag. He lied to you about loving you, he's a jerk! Don't ever want to go back to when he is saying that again because it would mean he wants to use you again. Spend effort on your parents instead and wait for good friends. Improve yourself, tell yourself you can wait, because you can. You have to.
2006-11-05 18:19:03 · answer #4 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know wut my babes, when u r going thru difficult tyms .. U feel like noone cares ... I donow ur bf , but i think he luvs u and it's juss that u can't tell ry8 now coz u need more of him as ur parents r going thru a divorce .. juss be patient n if he continues with his behaviour then leave him . U will meet someone who is caring .Wish u luck
2006-11-05 18:22:14 · answer #5 · answered by mommy2be 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don;t know what to say, but ur question of how u can know if ur boyfriend is getting sick of u, well he ignored you, he doesn;t say i love you, he acts different, he just don't wanna kiss ya!!
2006-11-05 18:27:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop stressing either breakup with him or stop letting things bother you and let the relationship take it's course
2006-11-05 18:18:04 · answer #7 · answered by steffi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? Your not getting the divorce,your parents are.If your having problems,then go fix them.
2006-11-05 18:18:04 · answer #8 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its over, find someone who has some sensitivity!
2006-11-05 18:14:44 · answer #9 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like hes losing interest in you
2006-11-05 18:17:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋