What would you do? I'm the girl, and I am not conceited. I get guys all the time, graduated with a Masters and have lots of friends. I always have a good time when I am out. And w/this guy, we always laugh and just enjoy each other's company and the sex is off the wall!! But he works such long hours, weekends, 6 days a week, 14+ hrs a day!! We are on and off, but most of the time, I think he wants space. I messed it up. I know he liked (LIKED) me a lot, introduced me to his bestfriends and his dad (when he was visiting). What do I do now? Our last talk, he said, "I am selfish, it would be wrong for me to be with you now, not fair for you and for me. I have no time for you and I wish you the best.." As stupid as this sounds, think I would have a chance to repair this for the future? My last question to him was, "Did you ever liked me?" His answer, "Yes, Gina, I did. Had you played your cards right, things would've been different.." What should I do? Can this be turned around? Help!
2006-11-05 17:57:40 · 6 answers · asked by Gina C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1. Tell the jerk that it is not a matter of playing your cards right. Cards is a game, relationships are for real.
2. Tell him that you are pretty sharp, masters degree, etc, and that you had a life before you met him and you will have a life after he is gone. The question was wither or not the life together was worth the effort to cultivate.
3. If he works 14 hours a day, 6 days a week, he isn't going to find anyone to put up with that crap. There will come a day when he wakes up and find out the the world has passed him by.
4. Half of love is being selfish. You want the other person because he addresses enough of your needs to make you happy. The unselfish part is letting the other person in on the decision making.
5. Any relationship takes effort, if the effort is coming for you to change and not him, them what is the deal? Does he really think you can't handle it?
6. You would take care of his needs, make sure he would have a long happy life. If he wants some gold digger to bang on the side and help him into an early grave so she live happily with the next guy on his insurance money, then he can be happy with someone else.
2006-11-05 18:21:18 · answer #1 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, that guy's an asshole, and an emotionally abusive one at that. For him to pour salt in the wound by telling you it's your fault that he's dumping you should tell you that he's not really worth being with in the first place.
At the same time, if you feel that you might be clingy, then when you get another guy (which shouldn't take long if you're as attractive and cool as you say) then just back off a little bit. Don't call so much, don't insist on him spending all his free time with you. Chances are your playing hard (or at least harder) to get will make him want you even more.
2006-11-05 18:05:10 · answer #2 · answered by Guelph 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 08:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm... ask him to explain what he meant by saying "playing your cards RIGHT!" since you seem to like him a lot, i suggest you talk to him and learn how he feels abt you and him... then if he really won't accept you back, leave it as it is and forget him or keep him as a friend only... move on, because you'll find plenty guys (or they'll find you) since you said you were hot :)
2006-11-05 18:32:40 · answer #4 · answered by wat_more_can_i_say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you mess it up? What did you do?
2006-11-05 18:02:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dunno, but you sound pretty good. Hang in there! You can find someone better.
2006-11-05 17:59:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋