We were each other's 1st loves. Everything happened quickly & ended fast. It's hard to make sense of why we ended. His reasoning for ending it was vague. A few fights; we didn't know how to have a relationship outside of the college world. Together 24/7 at school & when we went home for the summer everything changed. There was never time for us. We lost a sense of ourselves.
It was our first serious relationship. Now I know how to make it work. He is everything to me. I think I lost him.
He broke my heart 15 months ago. He said no one would ever compare to me. That he could see himself marrying me after we have experienced life alone and mature. We tried to be friends, but it was too hard. We still had feelings, but he would not follow his heart. Only his logic. Now he has a new girl.
He may hate me. Think I'm immature & not confident. Should I contact him. Why did he get to break my heart & be happy with someone else? I just wanted to love him & no one compares.
2006-11-05 17:54:03 · 16 answers · asked by nicoleanig 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's too bad :( Life stinks that way. There is a song out there. I think its a Country western song called unanswered prayers.. It really speaks to broken hearts like yours.
I want you to move forward, not to dwell or look back with hurt. Don't call him. I say this because my mother dwelt on her first love...she is now 75 and never moved on. I am adopted because she had not children she had no life,. She dwelt.
Look at the experience of love with him as a growing one. Think about how to move on. You might miss the right person right under your nose, if you keep looking back.
blessings
2006-11-05 18:01:57 · answer #1 · answered by rebeccalynn_dj 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not all loves are good or healthy for us. You can't control another person's feelings. He just didn't love you, and that hurts. I truly believe that once you really love someone, you will continue to love them for the rest of your life; however not all love relationships are meant to last a lifetime. You have been lucky to have loved, many people go through an entire lifetime, and don't know what it is like to truly love another person. You will one day hopefully find love again, but that doesn't mean that you will love to this same degree. There are many kinds of love. This hurt that you are feeling now will diminish, but it may never completely go away. That doesn't mean that you should dwell on this pain, and not move on. You need to concentrate on taking care of you, improving your self-esteem and self-confidence that was affected by the pain of your past relationship. By taking care of yourself and making any necessary improvements you can insure that you will one day be ready when the real Mr. Right comes along. Take care of you.
2006-11-05 18:17:28 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love hurts i am sorry your heart has been broken it makes me think of that song Time wont heal my broken heart sometimes people never get over the one they truly love all i can tell you is do the best you can to be happy with out him i think if you were to call him it might hurt you even more and i don't think anyone should be hurt over love but if you are willing to take the chance of more pain call him maybe it would be some kind of closure for you i think it would be like pouring salt on a open wound it has been 15 months and if it hasn't gotten any better for you who knows when it will i wish the best for you God Bless you
2006-11-05 18:09:15 · answer #3 · answered by jamnjims 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the honest truth, time will tell in a situation such as this. If you 2 were are really meant to be together then so it will be but if not and then I'm sure that you will meet soemone who will be really special to you. Remember that Sometimes the only way to mend a broken heart is to move on. Do not get stuck in a moment in which you can't get out of. Move on and look for love and allow it to find you. If you do this and he finds you again and then you were truely meant for each other.
Good luck!
2006-11-05 18:02:47 · answer #4 · answered by John B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should let him go even though he is your first love. There are a lot of good guys in this world and you will find someone who will treat you better
Let time bring away your sorrows and you must carry on with your life and show him that you can live happily without him too.
Dun give up a forest bcoz of a tree
2006-11-05 20:11:20 · answer #5 · answered by Forgettable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very interesting issue. But trust me he still had feeling for you cause i'm a guy, i knew what is his feelings. Even though he had a new gf does mean he happy with her or had the same ffeling with you before. My advice why not give him a call and ask him out for coffee or lunch trust me he will definately answer you. No harm trying right. Good luck girl.
2006-11-05 18:23:11 · answer #6 · answered by hafidz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety...there are plenty of guys out there and once you find someone else everything will be awesome. Trust me you will find a new love just give it time. Being single can be aweome...a time to find your true self. Love yourself first then the right guy will come along!
2006-11-05 17:57:20 · answer #7 · answered by LenaRose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look like you love him so much..i can understand ur pain the same happened with me....all of sudden he broke with me...i was lost completely..i tried to call him..he was not picking his phone..nt taking my calls..even you know we didnt have any fight ...he just gone..i was in shock why he has gone...i reliazed if i have to live then i shud learn to live without him...this is wat i did....i started living without him..but there was lots of pain inside me..i cried like hell....then my hubby came into my life...he loved me so much that every pain has gone...now i m married to him...happily married and believe me i love him more than my ex so dear my suggestion is move on....the person who can leave u once with all unanswered questions can leave u again also ...my ex told me later he left me coz he got a better opportunity to raise in career..n he thought i might be someone who hold him back .... i know its hard but u have to live with this...n dear u said he had new girl in his life........ now there is no place for you..so moved on
2006-11-05 18:07:48 · answer #8 · answered by Angela 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your doctor and ask him for an anti depressent that you can take for a few months. When I was going through my divorce, I went to my doctor and cried my eyes out because I was so sad it was over. He gave me an anti depresent and told me that when tragic things happen, sometimes a our brain over produces a chemical that makes us too sad and sometimes so sad we can't move on. Taking an anti depressant will help you to be able to see things differently once this over active chemical is under control. I am not a crazy person, please just talk to your doctor so you can move on with your life. You will still think of him, and be sad, but you will be able to function and move on. God bless.
2006-11-05 18:02:52 · answer #9 · answered by Corona 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only reason why he is still alive inside of you is because you allow him to do so; in fact you are probably encouraging such thoughts of him within yourself.
he is trying hard to move on (if you say he is denying feelings for you)- he wont bother finding or being with another girl if he wasnt doing that.
2006-11-05 17:58:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anna D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋