i feel that nobody will be serious to me if they found that i am not virgin...
i am afraid to be in a relationship because i am thingking that if my partner will know that i feel he will leave me crying or he will only use me..
any advice
2006-11-05 17:51:26 · 18 answers · asked by Lonely girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most guys just wanna get laid, and virginity is not a factor to them. I don't think I'd worry about it if I were you.
But personally, I find virginity to be very important.
2006-11-05 17:54:53 · answer #1 · answered by Common Sense 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Whoa...easy on yourself, first off don't tell him unless he asks. If he does ask tell him your not....but don't look @ your shoes when you do tell him, or begin with an apology. Odds are he's not a virgin either. If that is important to him then so be it, move on....good sex is an important part of the many combined factors of a long term relationship. I always wonder about the girls that wait till they are married and find out on their wedding night that their new husband is lousy in bed.(could also go the other way too)...wow, what a bummer that would be.!
2006-11-06 02:11:22 · answer #2 · answered by T-Bone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, there is so much more to life than being a virgin. Think about us older people who have been in and out of relationships, have had children...and some of us can't even have anymore kids...but the world moves on. Sex is not all about weather or not you are a virgin. I mean, we ALL wish we could go back, but it's not possible. Sex is about enjoyment. Get your heart full.
2006-11-06 01:58:01 · answer #3 · answered by blondie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would be more hesitant to get in a relationship with a woman who was a virgin than one who was not. Firstly, being a woman's first time places an enormous amount of pressure on a man (if he's worth dating in the first place, that is). Second, virgins tend to be pretty bad in bed, if only because they have no experience. They're usually extremely nervous about it.
Anyway, if this guy's worth having in your life, he'll be fine with your not being a virgin. If he dumps you just because you've had sex with someone besides him before, you're well rid of him.
2006-11-06 01:57:11 · answer #4 · answered by Guelph 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it is important, but it is not everything. Everyone makes mistakes, we learn from them and move on. The advice -- save the worst for last. Don't tell him right away. Why dampen his spirits early, especially if he doesn't ask, and he probably won't? When you are ready to accept his reaction, then you might tell him. Lots of guys have made this mistake too and want forgiveness.
2006-11-06 01:57:35 · answer #5 · answered by Robert B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say that not right from my side ,but YES it is important ,when i go on in a relationship that i am sure it will last for the end of my life i got be sure that the girl or woman am gonna marry is never been touched by a man, that what i think and i don't care what other people think,and i am as a man don't think that the woman is a tool man should play with her freely until he is married to her..............thx, ddd
2006-11-06 02:24:47 · answer #6 · answered by bluecavyrider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your values are your values. Stop thinking so much about others. Anyone I've had strong feelings for, for me, I didn't even think about whether she was a virgin or not. What matters is love. Good sex will come with time, patience, and, of course, practice.....lots and lots of practice.
2006-11-06 01:59:01 · answer #7 · answered by Huguenot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GIRL! This should not be an issue. Date guys that will respect you for your heart and personality not for what you can "give"them. It should be your choice if you have sex...never feel pressured. You should love yourself enough NOT to be with guys that are only interested in sex. Just love yourself...self respect is the most important thing!
2006-11-06 01:55:41 · answer #8 · answered by LenaRose 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he truly loves you for you it shouldn't matter. I speak from experience. My husband knew I came from a very sexually active past. I was clean, and I had been celibate for over a year. He accepted me for who I am, and didn't judge me on my past.
An old saying: It's good to be someone's first, but it's better to be someone's last.
My husband may not have been my first, but he will be my last.
2006-11-06 01:59:49 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its best if your not a virgin, most guys will not date you because they dont want to just have another friend, and virgins are way too much work. for no pleasure.
2006-11-06 02:13:05 · answer #10 · answered by wizzard 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋