My frnd is 21 yr old and in relation with a 44 yr old man from the past 8 yrs and also she had sex many times and they love each other madly and this guy also loves her a lot and is not only after sex but still she keeps on luking other guys and recently she has got a guy who she thnks really loves her a lot and she is really confused and he is 20 yrs old bt she thinks that she cant leave her 8yrs old relationship as both the guys are madly in love with her, please help, also that guy who is 44 yrs old is married and having kids.
Please suggest her whom to choose and which guy will be right for her as she thinks she cant leave both of them and now she is getting mad of thinking this over and over again
2006-11-05 17:35:57 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she needs to pull out and date guys who aren't taken
2006-11-05 17:38:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's the only person who can make the decision. However, it seems to me that being single would be a good option for her, at least until she can sort out what is most important to her in a relationship. It's my guess that the 44-year-old man doesn't truly love her, because if he did, he wouldn't stay married to another woman, especially if they've been together for as long as 8 years. And if the 20-year-old knows that she is in another relationship, then he isn't being fair to her or himself by sharing her with another man. Perhaps she just needs time to reflect on the 8 years she's spent with the 44-year-old to determine whether or not it has been worth her time and sacrifice. If he hasn't put as much effort into the relationship as she has, then maybe he's not worth keeping around. I don't know all of the details of the situation, but that's how I see it. I hope things work out for her...best of luck.
2006-11-05 17:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by Persephone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that 44 yo being married isn't fair to his wife if she choses him. Wouldn't hurt to give the other guy a honest shot. 8 years is a lot and that one guy is still married, well he's just pussy footing around looking for tail when he can get away from the wife. Go with the 20 yo.
2006-11-05 17:41:43 · answer #3 · answered by nuckles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a 21 yo had sex with someone 8 years ago, that is child molestation in most states. The fact that he is married and a father is more reason to run from him.
She should like she is buying love with sex. I don't know if she should really consider any other relationship so soon.
2006-11-05 17:42:33 · answer #4 · answered by San Diego Art Nut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all this girl has no business with this guy because he is just way too old for her and to topit off he is married with kids. she is confused because he has probably been brainwashing for the last 8 years so that he can have his cake and eat it too. sheneeds to leave him no matter what her decisions are about this new guy. this guy cant love her if he is still with his wife. grow up and move on is what she should do and stop letting this old man ditate her life to her while he leads a double one.
2006-11-05 17:44:20 · answer #5 · answered by dasure2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 44 year old needs his butt kicked for fooling around with her when she is so young and he's married with kids....thats bad bad bad....Tell her to dump her old man and see what it's like with a younger guy. After 8 years she needs to spread her wings and break free.
2006-11-05 17:41:36 · answer #6 · answered by Tanya M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm old enough to know that a man who is married and having sex with another young woman isn't in love with her despite what he says. Do you really think he's going to leave his wife to be with someone young enough to be his daughter? He'll fantasize about it all day long, but in the end, it just won't happen.
2006-11-05 17:44:17 · answer #7 · answered by cynical 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
21-8=13 44-8=36 that's nasty that 44 yr old guy prolly isn't into her any more any way it seems like he likes them young and no one has said any thing yet they must didn't do the math
2006-11-05 17:41:21 · answer #8 · answered by redster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 21 year old does not know what she really wants yet.
I would advise her to ditch the married man. There is no future in that.
She has her decisions to make, but the fact is that the 20 y.o. really does not know what he wants in life either. She should not realistically expect either relationship to last forever.
2006-11-05 17:39:35 · answer #9 · answered by Wade M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will say she must end her 8 year relationship with the 44y old married man, and begin a new relationship with the 20y old boy, and just have lots of fun together!
2006-11-05 17:49:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if he is married, then she shouldn't even be with this guy that she has been with. That is called committing adultery, and it's just not fair to his wife. And what about the children? If she is not sure, she should not be wrecking their home. If he wants to be an A** let him do it somewhere else. Tell her to move on!
2006-11-05 17:48:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋