ok i need some major help and fast i'm with this guy and we've been together for 10 months but he doesn't buy me anything even tho i spend all my money on things he wants and we fight all the time over stupid things then theres this other guy who likes me and he is really sweet and we get along great and i knoe he'll spoil me rotten so which one should i be with? should i stay with my current man or go for the other guy who i know wants me?
2006-11-05 17:28:54 · 16 answers · asked by mandy_brister2004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok i see alot of ppl saying i'm a gold digger and a ho but i'm not its not the money i've never had any guy spend money on me and we got along great but the guy i'm with now spends money on drinking and other girls and it pisses me off bc he will ask me and my family for everything and never do anything in return. ever since i've been with him he has been stressing me out and it has been messing with my period. i'm not happy with him i never smile anymore and i'm the type a person who loves to laugh and hang out with family and friends but he has me to stressed out to even have fun. so if any1 needs to call me a gold digger r a ho then don't try and help move on to the next person u can put down to make urself feel better
2006-11-05 18:51:22 · update #1
Does he really want you? Will he continue to shower you with affection after he has got you?
Is the guy you are with asking for the things you are spending your money on or are you just buying them assumng that he wants them?
The fighting is another issue. Does he prefer saving money for the future? New car or house? If so, you cannot fault him for that.
The important thing to remember is that being spoiled rotten with gifts is not love and in the end will not make you completely happy. It seems like you need to do a little soul searching.
2006-11-05 17:34:57 · answer #1 · answered by Wade M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two choices for you. one, be with the one how make you happy,I think money isn't ever thing. Every time he's around you should be smiling not fighting. With the men your with now you already know what to expect with him. You should tell him how you feel and see his reaction.
Two. You can have all the riches in the world and not be happy. Men on the side seem nice but you really don't Know. When starting a relationship everything is always nice at first. Then the L word get used and people go little scary. I think you should take the time to explore the new. Life may be short but work it to the fullest.
Relationship are hard but your heart should show you the way. With not knowing the boys it's hard to make a choice, number two may be Mr. right.
2006-11-06 02:02:31 · answer #2 · answered by JADedMis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he wants you? Most men put up an act just to get a girl and then it's over. And do you really want to be spoiled rotten or do you want to be loved? That's how I would look at it. Because what will happen when his money runs out? Are you still going to like him? Take it at a different perspective....and if you can't decide, ditch both of them. Then at least you won't always be wondering what might have been.
2006-11-06 01:33:12 · answer #3 · answered by ~p♥kes~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have spent 8 yrs. with someone who has made me miserable for the last 6 yrs. He didn't do much for me either. I finally gave up. It was hell for a little while, because I had nobody. But, one day somebody came along, and I think I have fell in love all over again. So, the answer to your question is, if you are not happy, don't be afraid to move along. Just don't break his heart too bad. If you don't go forward, what are you going to do? Keep going back to something that doesn't make you happy?
2006-11-06 01:37:47 · answer #4 · answered by blondie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't think your bf wants you because he doesn't buy you things? If you are spending all your money on things and he never contributes and you are arguing over silly things, I think this can be talked out. If you are truly not happy and want to break up with him then do it but remember, the grass is not always greener on the other side.
2006-11-06 01:33:15 · answer #5 · answered by shellese2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your current guy just needs a little wake up talk, sit down and see what he dislikes about the relationship and what he likes. Make it a 2 person talk not just one of you talking. Also the grass isn't always greener on the other side.
2006-11-06 01:31:24 · answer #6 · answered by cubsfreak2001 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, giving gifts is not the only way to express one's love or interest. Other ways might be: being there for them, listening, helping them out or giving suggestions, expressing interest in knowing them better. Does your current bf express himself in other ways?
2006-11-06 01:35:01 · answer #7 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Duh! Why stay with someone that stresses you out. Ask yourself this. Who are you thinking about more. What other characteristics attract you to the other guy? That the current doesn't have. Do you hesitate in calling or answering the current phone calls or meeting up with him?
2006-11-06 01:36:00 · answer #8 · answered by Moca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
arite different guys have different characters...u cant compare 2 guys...d major qs is who do u wanna b with?...do u really lov ur guy and wanna b with him?or do u jus want some1 who spoils and pampers u?hey i used to do d same...but later on i realised it and started buying my gurl things and started pampering her alot....it jus takes a little time esp for freshers......hey but if u really like d other guy go ahead....but u may never know..u have jus seen d other guys gud side and not his negative side...so think properly b4 u choose ........tc
P.S:-now dat u have another guy waiting...mite as well tal to dis guy and tell him wat u feel.....den decide.;)
2006-11-06 01:38:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you love the guy you are with now then stay with him....if the feelings arent that strong then go for the other one!! whatever choice you make though make sure you really love whoever you are with!
2006-11-06 01:47:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋