Hi,
I started seeing this guy a month ago. After a week he told me that he was talking to this girl he used to really like again. I asked him if he loved her and he said, 'I think so'. He said he had to think about things but the next day he told me he would rather be with me and they're just friends. But why did he say he thought he loved her?
I don't think he cheated on me because I've been with him every night almost and tonight I even met his parents. But we were talking about birth control and he said his room mate is on depo and how she's a wimp because it hurts her when he slaps her ***. I said, 'Why would you slap her ***?' Well, he says they used to be together! I didn't know that! Isn't it weird for my boyfriend to live with a girl he used to 'sleep with'? I even met her once and now it pisses me off to know that they were together and the gross thing is, she isn't even attractive at all.
I was thinking about breaking up with him, is that a good reason to? Should I?
2006-11-05 17:19:57 · 24 answers · asked by kelly c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree with the answers so far but, he says they are just friends and don't see eachother in 'that way'. Is that possible? I think she is kind of slutty but he said she has a boyfriend...
2006-11-05 17:27:09 · update #1
Dont worry about it, so he used to sleep with his current roomate, BIG DEAL He probally still does ,WHATEVER. He probally does every night ,SO WHAT suck it up soldier.
2006-11-05 17:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by Elliot C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that by itself is a good reason to break up, not after only a month. If you think they're still sleeping together then yes, or if you think it's gonna bother you forever. I had a roommate that I dated first, and we really just made much better friends than we did a couple. So I know that part can be true, but if it's gonna bother you too much for you to treat him like you would if you had never known, you should probably think about whether or not you can handle that kind of a relationship while it's still fairly new.
2006-11-05 17:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by crankyissues 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds a little shady...but it could be nothing. Still tho, that's weird taht he lives with an ex, i wouldnt be able to deal...guys never lose the desire to sleep with an ex, and if shes right there and avialable, then i would be paranoid all the time. I think you should just cool it for a while, not totally break up, but just get some space. dont answer everytime he calls, get busy with friends or school for a bit, and let him know it seems like he has a few extra women in his life and he needs to decide who he wants to be with. If he wants to be with you, he will make the necessary changes.
2006-11-05 17:25:29 · answer #3 · answered by EllisFan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if he says he doesn't love her then maybe he took some time to evaluate the situation. if he really loved her he would not have taken you to meet his parents. but the fact that his roommate is an ex girlfriend, i would have a problem with that. it would make me sick to look at her and the things they could still be doing in private, kinda like a friends with benefits situation. i would break up with him for that. maybe talk to him and tell him that you don't feel comfortable about the fact that he lives with an ex. could this girl be the same girl that he thinks he might still love, afterall they do still live together. i would break up with him until he no longer lives with an ex, and is sure he is ready to move on. you don't want to risk falling in love with him just to find out he's not ready to be in a serious relationship. good luck on your decision.
2006-11-05 18:17:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think you have some good reasons. Whether you should or not is up to you. How do you really feel about him? It sounds kind of like you may want to move on anyway. I don't think it would be a bad idea. He seems a little flaky.
2006-11-05 17:23:17 · answer #5 · answered by lucy02 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing, it is cool that he is open and honest with you. Maybe he is using that as some sort of way to open up your mind or make you jealous. However, I don't think I could handle knowing that my boyfriend was living with someone who he has been with. I would make him make a choice. It all depends on what you want.
2006-11-05 17:26:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he's a wimp who tries to provoke you to be jealous, and he probably was with all those chicks and keeps them around as backups and fallbacks, but all in all he's just seeking recognition because he's a weak and insecure little boy looking for mommy. But why would he do that on your nerves & your time?
2006-11-05 17:24:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump his ***!! Seriously, he's living with an ex, still slaps her ***, said he "loved" another girl while y'all were together. He is totally playing you and you need to lose him quick!!
He isn't serious and you deserve better!
2006-11-05 17:23:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is the best reason men are a dime a dozen hunny and you have a bad fish say goodbye and move on
2006-11-05 17:22:55 · answer #9 · answered by Babygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say Yes! and find yourself a better boyfriend than that jerk. Nobody needs to be treated like that. That is awful. Good luck.
2006-11-05 17:26:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok you aren't concerned about the biggest issue here - he slaps her a** - what is that about, aren't you worried he might be into that!
Yes, break up with him, having an ex as a room mate is nothing but trouble.
2006-11-05 17:24:20 · answer #11 · answered by chris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋