i have been with my boyfriend for a year and we lack privacy because of room mates and such, i generally have a higher libido, and he seems to have great self control, he didnt have sex for 3 consecutive years because he was too busy working, no he's not a workaholic, and we talked about our sexual aspect and it seems to be going in circles. he gives up on sex too easy, and he doesnt ask for it. i know he's being respective,but he's not all that demanding either. he was physically abused as a childcould this be the reason? help... it's depressing me!
2006-11-05 17:15:29 · 3 answers · asked by evildoodleeer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The abuse is probably a very likely issue. Brings up bad issues, especially if it was sexual. Sometimes that ends up in promiscuity though.
If you really just have different sex drives, however, there are alternatives. Sex toys, masterbation, pornography (together etc.), cyber sex...u get the picture. You may have to take care of yourself. Good luck.
2006-11-05 17:22:26 · answer #1 · answered by Huguenot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"...he was physically abused as a child could this be the reason?"
Ummm...yeah. Could be a good place to start, don't you think? Pre-marital counseling on this one before you get too serious about this one.
Flashing yellow lights. Don't ignore them.
2006-11-06 01:18:46 · answer #2 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, some people just have no libido. stop struggling with him and start find ing someone else
2006-11-07 17:03:52 · answer #3 · answered by ♥perishedmemories♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋