I want too but she isn't sure....What is a person to do?
2006-11-05 17:14:40 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Wow, some of these answers are really ridiculous! The bottom line is, you need to patiently wait until she is sure that she's ready. That's really all you can do. Pressuring her will just backfire. This is a couple's decision, and I'd say the same thing to her if it were you who were not ready. Besides, your children deserve TWO attentive parents. And someone who isn't ready for parenthood is bound to build up resentment and take it out on you, the children, or both.
2006-11-05 17:35:12 · answer #1 · answered by chelleedub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait. My husband and I agreed on 3, maybe 4. After the third he was done. It took four years to convince him that I really only want 1 more and I'm not gonna turn him into a baby factory. We are now possibly preggy with the 4th and both happy about it. Sometimes waiting is best. I brought it up every 6 months or so, but never drove him crazy with it. Eventually he saw how much I wanted that 4th baby and our finances caught up with our family size. So give her time and see what happens.
2006-11-05 17:23:46 · answer #2 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is how I look at it. My husband is the man - and his decision is final. So when he said it was time to stop - I'm like okay - well we have 3 now so I'm not complaining. On the other hand if it's the woman who doesn't want more - you really should respect her wishes. After all, she's the one who has to go through pregnancy labor and delivery - then breastfeeding and motherhood. Have mercy!
However, you don't really know if you'll even get pregnant again because there is no guarantee that you will. Planning for a certain # of kids generally doesn't work for this reason. It's not something to stress out about. Be glad for what you've got!
2006-11-05 17:19:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk about it, why doesn't she want to have another one? Does she feel that she is the only one caring for your current children and that you just have fun time with them instead of helping with the work side of things?
You could assure her that you will make a greater effort if this is the case, and then be sure to do so.
The other thing that you could both do, is just leave it up to fate and see what happens....if it's meant to be, there will be more.
2006-11-06 00:12:04 · answer #4 · answered by Netto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have had a discussion about how many children you wanted BEFORE you ever got married. Suck up and deal with it, since SHE is the one who would carry the pregnancy it is HER right to decide whether to get pregnant or not. YOU want another baby then fine YOU get pregnant YOU carry that pregnancy to term and YOU give birth NATURALLY.
2006-11-05 17:19:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about the pros and cons. Are you financially ready? Are you ready to wake up at 3am for feedings and change millions of diapers until the kid is potty-trained? Baby's are great, but she might not be ready. Talk to her about why she isn't sure.
2006-11-05 17:23:28 · answer #6 · answered by jensw23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have one more baby if u really want to,babies are the gift of god so one should never avoid.Dont think so much,just go for it.
2006-11-05 17:23:04 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋