I've been hospitalized, medicated, therapy, I don't know what else to do. I feel like no one can help me anymore. I know I need to help myself but I'm to weak to do it. I know most of my depression is coming from an ex-bf and getting over him is unbearable, he had so much control over me, and he was mentally abusive. I feel like there is nothing left. what else can I do I have a 6 yr old but I can't care for her like this, she doesn't deserve it. I want to die please help.
2006-11-05 17:13:58 · 9 answers · asked by single mami 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Hey, cheer up.. Cheer up cheer up cheer up....
Christmas is coming.. There is so much you can do and live for..
Think about the things you can do with your family and friends.. the goods things you can enjoy.. etc..
Don't think about what's past.. Get over it.. Look forward to the future... Doesn't the future looks bright?
2006-11-05 17:20:28 · answer #1 · answered by ♡ Choc ♡ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know what it is to be that depressed. When is the last time you saw your doctor? I ask because there have been new antidepressants in the last year. I hope you are still on the meds that were the most helpful, even if they didn't help as much as you need.
There is a new treatment for depression called Vagus Nerve Stimulation. With that they implant a small device about the size of a pacemaker under your armpit and attach a wire to stimulate your vagus nerve. It helps about 1/3 of the people who try it.
I also understand how bad it must feel because of your ex-bf. My depression started after I became physically disabled and my wife left me because of it.
We had been married for 17 and 1/2 years. It was always difficult but the last 10 years were terrible because of her emotional abuse and her controlling manner. I suspect that the time you spent with your b/f lowered your self esteem tremendously.
I think that anything you can do to rebuild your self esteem will help. Try not to spend time with anyone who criticizes you and spend as much time as you can with those people who truly love you, even if it's only on the phone.
Being a single parent is a challange for anyone. Any help you can get with caring for your daughter will be a help to you.
One of the things that helped with both my depression and the grieving about my divorce was to go to a support group for separated or divorced people. It was a chance to express my feelings to people who knew where I was coming from, get support, and find hope for the future.
This was an on going group and I went for 3 years. I got hope from seeing people who were farther along in the grief process and were feeling better. The 2nd year, I could look at the people who had just started grieving and felt werse than me.
It feels like you want do die, but is because of the depression and the grieving. If you are afraid of harming yourself or think you might do that, then you do need to go to the hospital E.R.
Please ask God to help you, whether you believe in Him or not. He has helped me so much in my life. He is the real hope I have have for the future.
2006-11-06 04:11:10 · answer #2 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never been medicated/hospitalized but I understand where you are coming from. I am a good person, religion in a big part of my life and I honor it, I have the best wife, friends, and family but sometimes I just wish I didn't exist. Nothing is going wrong, I just feel sad.
I really like the outdoors. I bought a gps unit and I really like to go geocaching.(If you aren't familiar with it you can go to wikipedia and look up geoacaching). Anyway, it gives me a reason to leave the house and get my mind on something else. It is hard sometimes to leave the house for me, but once I get going I can do lots of them and feel better.
Anyway, I'm not a doctor but speaking as someone who also struggles with happieness sometimes, I recommend you find something you really enjoy (that is free or just a one time fee) and do that when you are sad. Good luck.
2006-11-06 01:29:04 · answer #3 · answered by Dano 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you try antidepressants like Mirtazapine, Bupropion XL, Paroxetine etc...
You can augment antidepressants with other drugs if you don't get the desired result.
You must be better in 3 months if you get the proper treatment. ECT is also an option and it gives immediate relief. Most of the depressed people need to try different drugs to find the appropriate one. Antidepressants work very differently in different individuals.
Please consult a good clinical psychiatrist.
2006-11-06 05:48:04 · answer #4 · answered by Ajeesh Kumar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you have been medicated but didn't indicate what medications they have tried. Go back to the doctor tomorrow and have them re-evaluate you. There are many new medications out there or they may need to try a combination of medications. Either way see the doc and get help.
2006-11-06 01:17:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex was abusive and mentally abusive, total control over me, couldn't go out meet friends <~~~ Before I've realized this I thought he was everything, my life my love just everything couldn't think of anyone else but him. I couldn't eat, sleep didn't want to meet friends. I was down to 107 pounds. I was thinking of all the depressing things about myself why this happened. Fat, ugly etc.... I even thought of suicide. But I thought of all the people who loves me is going to be sad and miss me my mom, dad. this was just cowardly way out. so I snapped out of it but I was still depressed. couple weeks or more of non verbal abused relationship, I started to think about me how I could do so much better, all this time I was forgetting about me I was just so stuck of the whole situation I didn't even give my self time to heal.and of course I prayed to Jesus to heal me to learn to love myself.
You have a 6 year old, If you were to die who's gonna take care or love the same way as you do.And teach her to be a fine women, smart, respected , pretty all that you know to teach her. your ex? maybe with a step mom, hating on your child/ abused? or even more since you wont be there, I dont know but
All this matter I depend on God, no medication, no humans just God and he will lead you through. (and I have a 3 year old daughter too) BE STRONG. TIME WILL HEAL, LEARN FROM YOUR EXPERIENCE AND THERE'S OTHER MAN OUT THERE THATS WILLING TO LOVE YOU EVEN MORE.
2006-11-06 02:11:58 · answer #6 · answered by EINNOC 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to be strong for your kid. In the meantime, call an emergency room NOW! They will get you going in the right direction. Please do it not only for yourself but for your kid as well. Its time for you to be free from all of this ex bf thing. Why think of this bum? Please imagine yourself in a LOVING relationship for you and your kid. Please call NOW!!
2006-11-06 01:25:19 · answer #7 · answered by rokdude5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear KJ
but just realize no matter how bad your problems may seem right now, they won't always be this way .... you need to try to focus
on your daughter & doing your best to be the supportive mommy she needs
best of luck to you
2006-11-06 01:19:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
back to your religion believes.and try to be more closer to God
2006-11-06 01:21:51 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋