How can I brake these horrible habits?

Question

First of all I over think... over analyze. Often I'll spend way too much time thinking about something than actually doing things. I don't know why. But I also have a great tendency to run out of energy fast and daze out, then become lazy. I feel SO guilty about this, but ironic how it sounds I still do it! Like my room is HORRIBLE right now. There's TONS of things to clean in the house. I've dropped two of my classes in college because I was missing too much, I eat out my emotions (mostly when no one can see me) I spend way too much time trying to make myself feel better by watching movies, going on quizilla (taking personality quizes) or looking at my myspace page. All this makes me feel like a HORRIBLE person. I feel like I have many addictions that will always stay with me. My parents are pretty much the same... I don't know if its contageous. We all don't have much energy... And despite all this people don't even know because when we're outside of our house we are nice. Why?

I want to start LIVING my life. Helping others, moving forward in a career, discovering myself, and someday become an actual strong person, so I can raise a real happy family. I'm scared at how lazy I am... it's strange how I feel that sometimes I can't control it. Whats happening to me?

Answer 1

Wow! This really strikes a chord with me because I can totally relate to what you've just said. I think i'm going through one of those times right now.

I've found that writing lists of what i need to get done really helps. It's really cliche, but honestly, it's worked wonders. My room was in that HORRIBLE state only 1 week ago... then i told myself that i just had to clean it and funnily enough, everything else kind of fell into place after that.

I'm a big believer of "feng shui", where it says that you can change how you feel by changing the environment that you're in. I think a big contributor of your negative mindset is in the fact that your room is in a jumble. I often say that the state of your mind parallels with the state of your room. Give it a spring clean as first priority, and let in some fresh new energy! In particular, make sure there is nothing under your bed (or if you can't help but have stuff under your bed, keep it tidy).

You'll be amazed at how refreshed you'll feel once your room is organised. I think your overactive mind might follow suit, and your energy levels will come back.

All the best!

Answer 2

I can relate about cleaning!!! I'm really bad to let things pile up until they get out of control. . . then when I try to clean them the task seems sooooo huge that I often give up on it before I have the chance to make a difference. Don't think of this stuff as breaking a bad habit--consider it as substituting one habit for another that is more productive.

As far as being different when you're outside of the house. . . perhaps it is because you are in a different environment. Consider ways to make your home environment more. . . energetic! Ok, that's probably bad use of the word. You mentioned that you often use stuff like movies and the internet as ways to escape from whatever it is you don't feel like doing. What if you had to do something that you didn't like in order to watch TV or use the internet??? Like, instead of allowing yourself to sit on the couch and zone out. . . make yourself stand (or sit in the floor without resting against the couch) while you watch tv. For me, I started stashing my laptop on the highest shelf in the closet. Before I knew it, I began to do the things that really NEEDED doing.

Once you have accomplished this. . . then you can start a home make-over--so that your home atmosphere can be an environment where you thrive. Do little things to decorate your room that make you happy or make it your own. When I was still living with my parents, I convinced them to let me paint my room. I went and picked the colors out and everything. It turned out to be very theraputic. . . and it turned my room into a place where I wanted to be. Then I added little white christmas lights all around it. Before I knew it, I began to keep it clean because I was proud of it!

I'm not sure if this is the answer you were looking for, but I hope it helps!

Answer 3

well, what i do everyday i alaways drink 2 cups of water in the morning to get a lot of energy, than i go exersize and i watch my diet. i think what you need is excersize and to drink 2 cups of water everyday in the morning

Answer 4

wow, that sounds like me. personally i believe i have chronic depression but it has never been diagnosed. im a junior in college but havent been to class in 2 years to finish it up. but i refuse to overanalyze, so i distract myself with whatever works, books, tv, computer. i wish i could help, then i could help myself. but im not a nice person outside my house,im also anti-social. i feel like i was born this way, nothing has happened to me to make me feel this way, my mother says she used to have to beg me to play with her when i was little. but if you go to get help, only talking to someone MIGHT help, because i have never found any drugs that actually help me.