he is the best thing that has ever happened to me, but i feel that he is so much better looking than i am that he is going to cheat on me. i honeslty know that he never would do that to me, but idk how to get this fear and jealousy out of my head, can someone give me some help?
2006-11-05 16:52:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey it is not looks that make a man cheat it is how moral he is .In other words in his character make up as long as you believe him to be loyal and trustworthy then why worry .If you think you cant trust him then you have the start of a problem .If he tries to make you jealous this is poor character and you need to talk to him about it if not then give the guy a chance to prove he loves you and only you .Dont be so down on yourself for how pretty you are he must be seeing in you what he wants rather than a very pretty cheating wife so take your time get to know each other well SMILE and have a nice day.
2006-11-05 17:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay first of all he is not better looking than you. He is not going to cheat on you if he loves you as you say. If you honestly know he would never do you that way then why do you hurt him by punishing him? Fear and jealousy can and will kill a relationship and it won't be him that does it, it will be you. You can either put those feelings of low self esteem aside and have a wonderful relationship or you can simply give up the guy and let him have a future with someone that will respect him and you can go out and find yourself a "Danny DeVito" and be miserable. You have to decide for yourself. You have to work on your self esteem issues. When you and he make love, is it passionate? Are you holding back because of your feelings of inadequacy? Sit down each morning (set your alarm for 30 minutes earlier if you have to ) and look at yourself in a mirror. Look at the things you like about yourself. Look at the things that you think matter most to a man. Don't just simply look at the image looking back at you but look deep to see who is really looking back. Work on her image. Not the physical one. Does he tell you that you are beautiful? Does he tell you that no one else makes him feel the way you make him feel? repeat those statements to yourself while looking in the mirror. Build your confidence level back to you. Someone in the past has hurt you badly either physically or emotionally and you need to overcome that as well. If its a good relationship, don't be the scissors that cuts you out of the picture. Be the glue that helps bond you together. Start each day by saying to yourself that you are going to change. Tell yourself that you are beautiful. Tell yourself that you have great hair or a great body or that you are smart or a good cook. DO NOT tell yourself everyday as you are now that " he is so much better looking than me" because looks aren't what counts in a relationship. Love is! And if you love him, truly love him and he loves you then you have already started to rebuild the self esteem someone has robbed you of. Good luck and hope this helps.
2006-11-06 01:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by Big "D" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Build the relationship that you have with this man on a solid foundation.You should really think about your life, and think about the kind of life that you really want to have. Jesus said " I am the way, I am the truth and I am life: no man will meet god the father ,but by me alone" ( John 14:6). Here are some bible verses for you to read if you want (Romans 3:23) (Titus 3:5) (Ephesians 2 :8-9) (Romans 5:8) (1 John 1:7) (Acts16:31) (John 14:6)
find church read bible, go to http://www.bellevue.org and you can watch live sermons.
P.S. since you said that you love him then read ( 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 ) I HOPE THAT YOU HAVE A REALLY GOOD LIFE!!!
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2006-11-06 01:04:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can almost guarantee that he will find someone else unless you change your attitude. It's called "self-fulfilling prophesy"; you will create a situation in which the very thing that you don't want to occur, will. For some reason, you have a poor self-image and you lack confidence in yourself. I've known some girls that were not nearly as "cute" as other girls, but they had confidence, great personalities, were fun to be around, and they really cared about other people and treated them kindly. THAT'S what's attractive to a quality guy. I'll bet that you have all those qualities and that whatever flaws you think you have, he's not noticing. So, drop the comparisons (he simply CANNOT be better looking than you are) and have fun.
2006-11-06 01:02:37 · answer #4 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, ask your bf why he asked you out. What was it about you that made you different from the rest. Next, BELEIVE HIM FOR GOODNESS SAKE! Not all guys are jerks thinking with their smaller heads, and it sounds like you have a good one. Finally, look at other ways you can boost your own self-esteem. I wish you and your bf the est of luck, and if you know you can trust him to be faithful, then let yourself rest in that trust.
2006-11-06 00:56:59 · answer #5 · answered by Jimmy R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have inferiority complex within you.why would you compare yourself with your bf? if he is way too attractive than you are, would he be yout bf in the first place? you are a girl-how can you compare yourself with a guy? i don't know what had made you to think that he would cheat on you. but since you are being insecure about it,try to see whats the real issue here. are you having less friends than him? guys like girls who has high self esteem.so, be confident about yourse;f and stop worrying!
2006-11-06 01:03:47 · answer #6 · answered by chandni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you basically think he's too good for you in terms of physical appearance? Well, if you love your boyfriend, and he loves you, you shouldn't have to worry about that, because when it comes to love, physical appearances mean nothing. You simply have to know how he feels about you, if he really loves you, then you shoudln't worry about a thing.
2006-11-06 00:58:02 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dnt worry...well almost all lovers feel d same....well ders nothing much u can do...if u love him u just have to plainly trust him...u too know he loves u den y worry?keep faith in love dats all u can do....and remember trust is one of the basic blocks of successfull love...so u have to trust him
p.s:-wat ever u do remeber dnt do anything dat u will regret for later...
2006-11-06 01:06:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it, If he truly cares he will not, Just trust him until he gives you a reason not to.
2006-11-06 00:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by Sentinel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you get an elder of yours interview him.he/she will know what questions to ask and will give you a preety good idea as to what to do. it would be best If this elder is your dad or your uncle(provided they are good people them selves :) ).good luck
2006-11-06 00:58:03 · answer #10 · answered by timo p 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋