I have a hard time trusting my girlfiend. She has never done anything wrong or anything its just that I'm scared that Karma is going to catch up with me sooner or later. Because 2 months into our relationship I cheated on her. I couldnt believe I did that, I was so disgusted of myself I confessed to her and somehow she found it in her heart to forgive me. Were in our 9th month right now and Im just scared that its going to happen to me. I regret doing that to her every day. I know what they say, "Once a cheater, always a cheater!" I am seriously a changed man. I never want to hurt her like that again. But I have a hard time trusting. Is there anything that I could do to make myself stop thinking about this. How do I trust her, even if she hasnt done anything wrong? Please help!!!
2006-11-05 16:51:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The reason you are feeling this way is because you have personal guilt. You feel as if she is going to get even with you, retribution for what you did to her. That is because even though she forgave you, you feel as if you should be punished. Since you feel as if you should be punished, you are thinking that she is going to cheat on you to make up for what you did. That is personal guilt that you are feeling. You need to start by forgiving yourself first. Understand that what you did was wrong, but in the same respect, you too are human, so you make mistakes. The reason you have a hard time forgiving yourself is because had she cheated on you, you would have been angry and probably not have forgiven her as easily. Since she forgave you and let you off the hook, you feel bad because she let you off easier than you would have, so that deficiency in your tolerance is what is causing you to feel that way. That is the reason you do not trust her. So remember, start by forgiving yourself first, and I mean truly forgiving yourself. The rest should fall into place if you do that.
2006-11-05 17:11:41 · answer #1 · answered by israel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hay, well first of all. im trying to figure out why u cant trust her. You are the one that has been unfaithful. Before u can say that u dont trust her look inside yourself and say, who's the one actually been unfaithful her? No! Me, yes. She should be the one to not trusting u. So before u stop trusting her. Just that thank God u have a faithful chick, and who can forgive and u. Cause some other female would have acted different.
2006-11-06 01:00:47 · answer #2 · answered by Nemo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre being paranoid really, a real consequence of cheating, come on now dont waste your time thinking that she will cheat on you she is not like you, she forgave you, now go love her and make your relationship happy,
if you go on like this not trusting her and all both of you cannot possibly be happy , quit being such a bore and excite her so that she need not cheat on you
2006-11-06 00:54:57 · answer #3 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THERE REALLY IS NOTHING THAT YOU CAN DO, IF SHE
HAS NOT GIVING YOU A REASON NOT TO TRUST HER,
THEN LEAVE IT A LONG, THE QUILT THAT YOU CHEAT ON
HER MAY BE STILL ON YOUR MIND. BECAUSE THE QUESTION SHOULD BE THE OTHER WAY AROUND, THAT
SHE MAY THINK THAT YOU ARE STILL OUT THERE. IF EVERYTHING IS COOL THEN STOP WORRYING ABOUT
IT.
2006-11-06 00:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you should learn to trust yourself and fully forgive yourself. If she can find it in her heart to forgive you then surely she loves you so much that she wouldnt dream of cheating on you.
2006-11-06 00:54:37 · answer #5 · answered by Pandoooo;. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the problem and maybe she can help you with it!!!
2006-11-06 00:57:28 · answer #6 · answered by Wolf Apple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just trust her...if she loves u...trust her...
2006-11-06 00:53:08 · answer #7 · answered by m m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋