when they see me and my sister , we remind them that our father cheated with another woman, and they are giving us a hard time, i am hurt and i cry a lot whenever i remember my father is not married to my mom, and that i am considered as an illigitimate child and sometimes because of this i have problems with men i dont want to love because maybe he will cheat one me too, and my children will suffer this once again, i am affected, its so hard to move on, my father is already dead but i still feel defenseless and worse i have to ask my older siblings for money for my edu
2006-11-05 16:49:04 · 8 answers · asked by haringmarumo 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
IT REALLY SOUND LIKE YOU JUST NEED TO TALK TO SOMEONE ABOUT HOW YOU REALLY FEEL ABOUT WHAT
HAPPEN, BUT IT NOT YOUR FAULT, YOUR FATHER DID THIS
IT, AND YOU CAN KEEP LIVING IN THE PAST, EVERY ONE
REACT DIFFERENT ABOUT THINGS THAT HAPPEN IN THERE
LIFE.BUT DONT LET THIS STOP YOU FROM LIVING YOUR LIFE, AND AS FOR THE OTHER SIBLING THEY ARE THERE
FOR YOU, AND IF THIS IS A PROBLEM THEN TALK TO
EVERYONE CONCERN.
AND AS FOR THE OTHER SIBLING THEY ARE THERE FOR
YOU AND IF IT IS PROBLEM THEN TALK TO EVERYONE
CONCERN.
2006-11-05 17:07:33 · answer #1 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound harsh but .. life is too short, get over it, hold your head high,be proud of who you are and marry that guy when the time comes. Don't let what happened in the past ruin your life,, come on!!!! Ive had some horrible things happen to me , a lot of people have, but you know it's not whats happened to the person that makes a difference in their life it is how the person handles the situation, Your life, your choice, so please for your own sake rise above it ..and enjoy your life.. your not on this earth for very long.
2006-11-06 01:24:05 · answer #2 · answered by springo88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your fate is different with that of your father's. don't be paranoid that you & your future children will suffer the same bad fate. remember, you were brought to this world as a blessing by God. go out & date & when you find somebody you think is really special to you, be honest to him but don't capitalize on your being illigitimate. there are lots of others too. you make your own destiny. its just how you work on it along the way.
2006-11-06 01:06:45 · answer #3 · answered by lette 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yep... you got a trust issue with guys. Take things slow in a relationship. Are you attracted to "bad boys"? If so, try looking elsewhere. Remember, you want someone who WANTS YOU!
Anyone who is giving you a difficult time about what youre going through is an idiot. Dont pay attention to them. The world has way too many critics and not enough cheerleaders.
If your next relationship sours, learn to say "NEXT!"
Best of luck to you.
2006-11-06 00:57:14 · answer #4 · answered by rokdude5 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop fealing so bad !! Dont worry about the past and decisions that u had no control over. If the events of the past didnt unfold the way they have you would not be here today. Enjoy what u have and create the life u want. Worrying about the past will only drain your happyness today :)
2006-11-06 00:53:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not your fault you were brought into the world. there is alot of kids like you. just hold your head high and carry on best you can. you can learn from your mom-dads mistake. dont do to your children what happened to you. be sure and marry before you have children.
2006-11-06 00:55:12 · answer #6 · answered by rhonda3826 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont let ur past expirence ruin your life.we are differnt people with different pespetives so i dont think u l find sum 1 like your dad.try to look at the bright side of life.
2006-11-06 00:53:54 · answer #7 · answered by zee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get over him get married ( if you want to) and if your hubby cheats on you there is a simple soulution and it is to go and bye a base ball bat etc.
2006-11-06 01:08:08 · answer #8 · answered by cryist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋