my father died 2 years ago and i have other siblings, it has been hard adjusting?

Question

when they see me and my sister , we remind them that our father cheated with another woman, and they are giving us a hard time, i am hurt and i cry a lot whenever i remember my father is not married to my mom, and that i am considered as an illigitimate child and sometimes because of this i have problems with men i dont want to love because maybe he will cheat one me too, and my children will suffer this once again, i am affected, its so hard to move on, my father is already dead but i still feel defenseless and worse i have to ask my older siblings for money for my education

Answer 1

First, remember that you are not responsible for the behavior of your father, or your mother. You are resposible soley for your own behavior. Their poor behavior may have legal terminology, but that's all it is, words.

You don't say how old you are, however, if you are still in school, then odds are that you have a long life ahead of you yet. You will be faced with many choices, many temptations, and many obstacles along the way.

I'd encourage you to find a mentor, someone you respect to help you along the way. If you feel counselling would help, there are usually a number of options for low/no cost help.

Don't give up on yourself, and others won't either.

Remember, you are what YOU do. Not what someone else does.

I sincerely hope that your life is long, successful, and filled with love.

Answer 2

With that all being said, do you really believe they will aid you in your education? They are not at fault for what your father did, you are not at fault for that either. But frankly they do not oew you an education. get student loans, but if you borrow money from them, tht will just stress the relationship more.

Answer 3

Sorry to read your pain.You may need to take care of your own finances,like an adult.As far as relationships with men,you need to love yourself first,or at least like yourself. Hope you find peace soon.