Help me!!!!?

Question

My boyfriend won't help me with my child who is only 11 months old or any house work cause he works and i don't know what to do. I tried talking to him but it only leads to a fight. I'm 19 and he is 25. I am also returning to school in 2 weeks cause i dropped out. should i leave him??? what should i do??. I should also mention i am under depression I am on Prozacs but i still feel like crying all the time.

i should of mentioned the baby is his son

I don't really have anyone to talk to because i was very shy so i don't have many friends and the friends i do have, have their own problems. My family well ever since my father died 5 years ago they haven't been the same (that is what brought on depression) and things just got worse.

Answer 1

Wow...

This is tagic
So.. Are you married to him or do you have a husband but not married to your boyfriend?
Maybe you to should see a doctor who helps couples get along with each other. umm.. its a bad idea to drop out of schhol. I hope u could go to college or pay for it. About Prozacs... u should see a doctor and talk to your if there is a cure. Still u r going back to school, good thing. I think you should drop him or ask him to do u something, convince him to do house work or help the child. The choice is yours to make... I don't choose for u since I am not your father, bother, or cousion. I hope u two get to together with a happy relationship.

Answer 2

For 19 years old, you have a lot on your shoulders. I first say that you and your child's needs come first. I think that you need to have a good heart to heart conversation with your b/f as if he is 25 years old, he knows enough as to what needs to be done to keep life and a family and household moving forward every day and it isn't just the paycheck! Times are hard for everybody but it is even tougher when you guys are still young and have major responsibilities. I am happy to hear that you are going back to school, good first step. Secondly, that you are taking care of your Depression. How long has it been that you have been on the Prozac? It usually takes a good 3 to 4 weeks, up to 6 to 8 weeks to be in full swing. In the meantime, you may need another mild medicine, tranquilizer, to help you through as you aren't going to be able to keep moving on if you are crying every day. You just keep telling yourself with the start of each day, I am doing the best I can. I don't know what faith if any you have, but I know that a big one for me to have learned was let go and let God. The more you realize that you can only do so much, and do the best you can and know that you don't have control, you can only do and handle so much. I hope things work out for you and your b/f, will keep you in my thoughts. Things will be fine, just take it a day at a time. : )

Answer 3

Whether he is the father of your child or not ( you didn't specify) if he loves you he should be willing to assist you. I work and my wife does not but I still try to help her around the house and with our 6 year old daughter. I work long hours in order to support us but still can find time to give to the family needs such as cook a meal once and a while or do dishes, take out trash, give child a bath or comb her hair, or take care of the pets. A little help won't kill him and if he cannot respect you enough to see that you need a little help then I have to ask you to ask yourself... where is the love in this relationship? Where is the mutual respect of a loving couple? I think you have the answer.

Answer 4

Where's your family? Where's HIS family? Are you two entirely on your own without any other support from friends or relatives? You need more than just medication - you need some real help. Talk to the doctor that prescribed the medication for you and tell him that you are getting desparate. Do you have a church that you go to? Talk to the pastor or priest. Social services might also be able to help. Look in the phone book under "County" and "health services" for assistance. Get going before this gets out of hand.

Answer 5

You should have been married before you had a child.
That is to say, following the Bible you could have avoided this type of life problem.
You have 18 years or more with this kid, and he/she's gonna need a father and stable home life.
You have alot of things to think about and they all need to be taken one step at a time.
I applaud you for going back to school, that was a step in the right direction.
YOU NEED TO GET MARRIED and do this God's way.
IF this guy doesn't want to do the right thing and be this childs father find one who will.


keep shinin'

jerm ;)

Answer 6

I am so sorry that you are having a difficult time. It can't be easy being a young mother and having a boyfriend that isn't supportive and helpful. You may take it as a sign that he simply isn't as mature as you - and given that he is 25 he should be far beyond that kind of laziness. Maybe you should give yourself some time away from him and see if that helps with the depression. No matter what you decide to do- stay strong, lady.

Answer 7

Reread what you wrote and soak it all in. I think that you know good and well you need to get rid of him. Look, the entire point of a relationship is to have a partner that stands by you, helps you, and loves you. The relationship that you're in doesn't offer any of that. Do not stay in a relationship that is not beneficial to you. Just think, while your wasting time with this WRONG guy, the RIGHT guy may accidently pass you by. Cut the loser loose and let him be somebody elses problem. Find you a man that is worth the time and effort that you have to put into a relationship.

Answer 8

Well, i know you probably hear this a lot, but, you should have thought before you did.
He should help you and he should stop being an irresponsable jerk.
I think maybe you should leave him.
Good for you for returning to school...^^
Well, second. you should stop taking Prozac. Drugs wont help you and your situation.
Start looking on the sunny side. Go for walks, and try thinking positive.
Don't worry, everything will be ok...and remember people out there care about you, why do you think they answer your question? =]

~good luck

Answer 9

You said my child not our child maybe he doesnt wont your child and this is his way of telling you! If you can go back to collageYou need a realy nice older Man in your life someone who can take care of you and love your child! You need to move on very soon can your mother help.As far as the depression once you stare back to school things will get better.

Answer 10

Your boyfriend needs to grow up. If he won't participate in you and your baby's life, then kick his sorry behind out or leave yourself.
Find a lawyer and get child support (not maintenance) and if at all possible, get back to school. Talk to your doctor/therapist about your depression. If you need to cry, by all means, please do so. It won't hurt you.

God bless you and good luck.