My grandfather passed away yesterday...?

Question

And I reeeeeallyyyyyy don't know how to act at school today...I mean, should I even tell my classmates?Because it's hard to talk about him...I cry if I talk about him and I don't know if I will stand it, to cry in school to everyone that will ask me what's wrong...I'm 15...And since I really don't know neither how to act neither what to say....please help!!

Yes, I do have friends, and I've decided to tell them...But in school not everyone are very close to me, we know eachother only for 3 months now...
And THANK YOU.

Oh, now I'm crying again...But it actually helps, so thanks again.
I think I'll go to scholl anyways considering my mom's going to work, eventhough her father died...And I'll talk to my friends that pick me up first and then think about it once again...Maybe it'll really help to laugh but I'm not sure if I will make it...

Answer 1

same thing except im 14 and my grandma passed away. it was in january and i couldnt even talk about it because when i do i think about all the stuff i should have done if i knew she was gonna go. I didnt want to go to school but i had to. i told my best friend when we were alone and i started crying. i end up crying up the whole lunch hour well most of it and i had to miss like 5 min of class because my eyes were a little red. i didnt tell anyone else unless it was on msn and i told them not to talk about them in front of me at school. right now i think im okay unless i really think hard about it then i will cry again. you should just think of all the sad things about him tonight and cry it all out untill no tears come out. then sleep and tomorrow try not think think about it though it is impossible. tell people on IM and talk about it, its better to cry when you're by yourself instead of school.
at school when people ask me what wrong when im crying i end up crying more.
at school you should just try to smile and act normal. smiling and laughing can be surprising at how much it helps. good luck
hope you get over it soon. took me like more than half a year to be able to talk about it in front of someone.

Answer 2

Aw, God bless you and your grandfather. Grandparents are very special and important people in our lives. Maybe you need a day off of school to process his death, remember the good times, etc. At first, a death is a shock, even if the person was sick. So it takes a little time for it to sink in. Let yourself cry. You will feel better once you let it out. And please don't be afraid to talk to your family about him. Sometimes we think we can spare them some tears if we don't remind them. Trust me, they are thinking about the same thing you are. Talking will help all of you to heal.

Grief is the biggest sadness people can experience. If you can imagine the ocean, it is much like ocean waves. Sometimes the waves of grief are small and you can stand through them, somettimes they are much stronger and without even expecting it, they almost sweep you off your feet. You cannot really control it. Many things trigger the memories and tears. After you tell a few close friends, if tears begin to flow unexpectedly, they can explain for you.

Last, but most importantly, let me say that my faith alone gets me through deaths. I believe in heaven and that my grandparents are with me still in spirit. I believe they pray for me still..and their prayers are all the more powerful in heaven.

I pray you find comfort and the peace that can only come from Jesus Christ.

Peace be with you.

P. S. It is also really cool to make a memory book about your grandfather. Put in some pictures and write some stories about your memories of him. It will help you to always remember clearly how special he is to you...and one day, you can share it with your children!

Answer 3

Tina, it seems fairly obvious that you cared a great deal about your Grandfather. At the least I'd suggest that you talk to your parents about your feelings. I know the emotional turmoil you're going through.

Hopefully, your folks can help you resolve some things before school. You might take an inventory of your friends. Have any of them had the same experience? Shared experiences help. If nobody comes to mind, you might confide in someone you're close to at school, and they might be able to help you out.

I'm genuinely sorry for your loss. I hope you can find joy and love in the memories stored in your heart.

Answer 4

I remember when I was 15 and my Grampa passed. I was MADE to go to school, even though I had been up all night. I was keeping a journal for English class and I wrote about him all night. Honey, that was 30 years ago and I STILL miss him, think about him and cry from time to time.

All of my really good friends noticed right away that there was something bothering me and we talked about it. As for the others, if they asked, I told them. If they didn't, I didn't say anything. I cried off and on for about a week. No one, and I mean NO ONE said anything disparaging to me.

You need to deal with your loss. If you don't think you can go to school, then don't. To hell with the rules.

Take your time, talk to your parents, your friends and maybe your pastor...and of course, do what I still do: talk to your Grampa, he loves you more than you'll ever know.

God bless you. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Answer 5

At least you had a grandfather that gave a crap about you. I have only seen my grandfather three times in my lifetime, and i am 15. he just popped back up, (at my aunts house, we didn't even know he would be there, she was "surprising" us) and i don't even call him by "grandpa", i feel like that is a title to be earned, not given. I am sorry that your grandfather died though, think of it this way though, at least you can remember some good times that you had with him. And maybe (if you want) you can ask your parents if you can stay home for the day, they would understand. but if you want to go to school, yeah, you can tell your friends, but expect them to pitty you ( i don't know if that's what you want). Sorry for your loss

Answer 6

the lose of a love one is very hard, but there is a process that we must go through to be able to carry on after this, it's called mourning, it's nothing to be ashamed of. people are usually respectful when it comes to things like this. you need the comfort of friends in school and also of those you don't think would even care. you can not hold this in and expect it not to hurt you in the long run. people are more understanding than you might think.. i speak from experience, my mother died when i was 46 years old and it took 3 years for me to come to the point when i finally broke down and cried for her. that was a hard 3 years for me. so don't be afraid to confide in people for the comfort you need. i am sorry for your lose and hope this will help you in some way, take care and let life carry you on. bless you

Answer 7

Personally I would ask your Mom if you could stay home for a couple of days. Everyone handles grief and loss differently. I kept busy after my Mom died this summer. I found by being busy helped me get through each day. Cry if you need to too it is a good healer I'm told.

Answer 8

Do not mind what other people will think. Act the way you want to act. If you can't help but cry, then do so. The kids in your school are human beings as well. They would probably be acting the same way if the same thing happened to them.

Answer 9

if you don't feel like telling your classmates, no one can force it out of you. your friends should be understanding if there's something that you don't want to talk about.

i remember i had to go to a conference with people from work the day after i found out my brother died, and that was the hardest day of my life. i literally wanted to cry every minute. someone had leaked it out to everybody else that my brother died, so everyone came over to give their condolences throughout the day, and it hurt me every time when people would say they were sorry to hear that he had passed away.

you need to give yourself as much time as you need to complete the grieving process. other people will understand if you don't want to talk about what's up with you. i'm really sorry for your loss and you're not alone!

Answer 10

if it is possible dont go to school for atleast 3 days and think things through, tell your parents you still cant face school and all that pressure because loosing your grandfather hurts so much, cry your heart out, and when youre ready face your friends and tell them what happened, its normal that they will ask you about it, atleast if you gave yourself some time to think things through you would be stronger and better when facing your schoolmates, everyone has to face this. you can do it, its not bad to cry in front of many others, it is not bad to show your grief because you lost somebody you love