somebody please help, gf problem?

Question

3 months ago i got back together with an ex gf from high school. after we broke up in high school she was obsessed with me for 3 more years of HS and i have always still liked her and cared about her. so she met this guy and they were together for 2 years. they talked about moving in together and marriage and all that. so one day she ims me out of nowhere and i saw that she was really hurt with the break up. so i was there to be someone to talk to. after talking for a few days we started hanging out and got back together. she told me she was sure that she was done with him and she wanted me. a month later she says i need to give him a chance and breaks up with me. then a few days later says i cant do it. al i think of is you. so we get back together. 2 amazing months go by and everything is perfect. then out of nowhere last friday she calls and says i cant be with you. i cant hide the feelings for him anymore. we have never been in a single fight and now she just wont talk to me at al

we were soooo happy together and for the first time in my entire life im in love. i love her soo much its crazy. if u guys knew me u would understand. i have never been the person to be in love.

im not a very serious person all the time. when we were together we were always joking and playing around and stuff. and it was always fun. we had fun doing nothing. no matter what we were always smiling and laughing with each other. but now she says she doesnt feel like were a couple when shes with me. i guess she doesnt really understand that you can be in a serious relationship and joke and have fun at the same time. theres a time to be serious and a time for fun. she says we want different things. that she wasnts a family eventually and i dont. but the truth is she thinks i dont want that but i really do. ive thought about moving in with her and seeing if we can start a life together. but she thinks she has to be with this guy to do that. and that im not capable of that.

ive talked to all of her friends and family and everyone says she is a different person when shes with him. and theyve never seen her happier than when she was with me. they describe there relationship as depressing. the kid works non stop and they see each other like twice a week. the past 3 months when i was with her we were literally together 24/7 non stop. she was always at my place or i was there. but now she goes back to the kid that never has tim for her. i kinda feel like she just thinks she has to be in this serious boring old couple to start a family. she doesnt laugh with the kid. shes not happy all the time. she cant see him all the time. only when he has time for her.
everyone says i need to move on but i cant. i dont want to. ive never been the party guy or anything. i dont go out and meet girls and i have no interest. all i want is her. i love her so much. i feel so empty without her. will i ever see her again?

i think that over some time she might realize that shes not as happy as she can be. and that she really would be happier if she was with me. im not trying to get my hopes up. but if u kinda put urself in her position.

you were with someone for so long and it was a serious relationship. it wasnt anything too exciting or fun. but its the only real relationship uve had and u dont know what else is out there for you.then u have problems and break up.u get with someone and uve never had more fun then with that person. uve never felt better in ur life, and uve never felt more appreciated.then u go back to the boring, maybe il see my boyfriend for an hour today, maybe he will have time.shes gonna think to herself, why do this.theres someone else that loves me so much and always has time for me.

before me her schedule was...wake up, go to school go home and study and around 11pm her bf would stop by.then she was with me and it was school till 3 then with me 3-sleep.

so do i just completely cut myself off to her. or do i make the little extra effort to get her back. I wrote her a long letter and i was going to give it to her. i have no way of contacting her. she wont answer any calls or text messages. she took me off her buddy list. i was going to leave it on her car at school along with our pictures that i got developed ( she always wanted to get enough pictures for us to develop them, but we never got around to it)..
this really is the main question..
its just realy hard because i feel like if i do cut myself off completely, then she wont think of me. she tells me i need to move on. if i do move on then it seems like it really will be over for good.
please help...

Answer 1

she doesn't know what she wants. Be the bigger person and walk away. you don't deserve to be yanked around like this.

Answer 2

I'm no expert, but i'd say to wait and give it some time to sort out. If she's still interested, then she will call u. After all this, u might have to just let it go, so don't get too hopeful. If she's so unsure, she might be at a rough point in her life. That might not be the best time for her to have a serious relationship. Good luck.

Answer 3

My advice to you is that first love i really painful but look at the bright sight she the one is frickle minded. She had dumped you not one once but numerous time. It time for you to moved on find someone who really cheerish and love you. To beloved is better than to love someone. Just think of your future. I hope this will clear your doubt. Good luck trying.

Answer 4

Move on and find someone better. She is still with that guy and probably has been even when she was with u...Best thing to do is to move on since she won't...