My friend called me tonight and wanted to know if and how she can tell one of her bridesmaids that she doesn't want her in the wedding anymore. She has had a longer engagement than expected ( over 2 years) and she asked this person to be a bridesmaid when she first got engaged. Two years later they have drifted apart but the person is still expecting to be a bridesmaid. How can my friend tell this person that she no longer wants her in the wedding??
2006-11-05 16:15:26 · 7 answers · asked by georgia peach 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
did her friend already had spend money for this wedding? if yes and your friend don't want her in her wedding party anymore, she has to reimburse the money that she spend already..eitherway...she need to be honest with her and tell her that things change and they are not as good friends as they were once, since is her wedding she has the right to have the wedding the way she want it , with the people that she choose to be in it....not an easy thing to do, but is her wedding and she might like to join her as a guest and enjoy the celebration as well
2006-11-05 16:41:19 · answer #1 · answered by Rosie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She would simply tell her. Of course, you cant expect the estranged friend to not be hurt if she really wanted to attend. Your friend could try to rekindle the relationship if she liked the friend enough to ask her. She should really consider why she doesnt want her there after all and explain why to her. Maybe she's cutting back on her budget on the 'maids' or such or replacing her with a family member. Send her a nice gift to follow up or something and an invite to the wedding as a guest. :) Good luck and happy nuptuals. Peace.
2006-11-06 00:23:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest...Wedding day is a special day and will be remembered for a life time...If you have someone to stand up for you in your wedding you want each person to be someone special in your life. If their friendship has drifted apart then that person should not be a part of her speical day. Easy question deserves a easy answer..Just tell her she changed her mind and go on with the planning..
2006-11-06 00:20:29 · answer #3 · answered by Mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to think back as to why you wanted her to be in the weeding. and if they have drifted apart why would this girl want to be in the wedding. send her a letter telling her that since we have drifted apart I did not think you wanted to still be in the wedding so I am going with my soon to be in laws as a favor to my new husband to be. but she still needs to tell her in a nice way.
2006-11-06 00:24:00 · answer #4 · answered by cindy b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say "Yes"!
Weddings are once in a lifetime.
You want all of the people in the wedding to be a special memory,(especially for the reason why they are standing up for you.)
~~She should be completely honest about their drifting relationship and then exactly how she feels. Yes, it will hurt, they may cry, and then she will get over it.
Good Luck...and please remind her it's her wedding, and she should follow her heart. =o)
2006-11-06 00:20:17 · answer #5 · answered by Litnut on 8th 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, sorry, she can't do it without being rude. That's why bride's need to think before they start asking people to stand up in the wedding.
2006-11-06 15:10:19 · answer #6 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she can say that she has decided to go with a smaller wedding party that only includes very close friends and relatives.
2006-11-06 03:02:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋