Am I wrong to look for a relationship when I'm suffering from a terminal illness?

Question

I've tried, but as soon as I tell someone of my cicumstances, they shut down all contact. Am I a bad person because I don't want to die alone?

I decided to extend this because I haven't gotten any new responses since the night I originally posted it on here. To address a comment in one answer, my illness had nothing to do with anything I've done or a lifestyle. I was just one of the "lucky" few who is blessed in this way.

Answer 1

No! You are not wrong to look for a relationship. Being alone is very scary because you have no one to talk to and share your fears with. No one to embrace you through those difficult times.

If you have a terminal illness, that means that you have but a short time to live. People normally look for a long term relationship so that they can invest their lives in it. You have a known limited time to live, so investing their time and emotions in you is short, and roller coaster like because you could go at anytime. It would take a very special person whom is willing to overlook your condition, and there are not too many of those around.

If you do not want to die alone, seek your family out and spend it with them. If you are not in speaking terms, this is the time to mend fences! If you do not have any family, find a Bible believing Church with support groups whom will be there for you and with you.
Spend more time with God.
If your terminal illness is related to sexual immorality ask God for forgiveness! He is listening and hurting for you; because He loves you!
If you need someone to talk to, I will make it so that "you" can IM me! It is not what you are looking for, but having someone to talk to can help you through the hard times.
Write a little note under your message and I will work it out to communicate with you.
God's Blessings and All My Best Wishes

Answer 2

If you find a good person, they won't react like that! I'm sorry that so many people shut down contact when they hear of your illness... I do think that you need to tell them about it and I'm glad that you do!

And no! You're not a bad person because you don't want to die alone. You don't have to die alone! Humans were not meant to be alone. God made man to be with woman so that they wouldn't be alone. Yes, I believe in God. I believe that He is going to be there with you whether no one else is... Think about that.

Keep looking, honey, you'll find the right person soon.

Answer 3

One truth that everybody tries to ignore is that everyone who has taken birth will die one day!

This is the law of the Universe and it does not make somebody a bad person.

For your relationship, I am sure you will eventually meet someone who understands you as a person rather than for what you are and how long your life expectancy is etc.

So do not get desperate and just believe in god and make your wish whole heartedly maybe it will soon come true.....who knows?

Answer 4

Everyone needs Love, GOD put someone on this earth for everyone, don't cut your blessings short, if you try to be more positive then you will already see the blessings that you have, who knows your Prince charming might be closer than you ever expected. Keep the Faith and he will definitely find you, with or without an illness, you deserve to enjoy life and feel the power of love and being loved.

Answer 5

No, sweetie, not at all. You shouldn't be alone. The hardest part is going to be trying to find someone who can deal with this situation. Maybe you should first try looking for a friend (of the opposite sex) and allow things to grow from the conversations, time spent, and the person that you are. Pray, sweetie. God will answer, I promise.

Answer 6

you have some indicators of Bipolar yet once you answer those inquiries to your self, then you certainly've gotten it. (under is the mania fringe of Bipolar affliction) Do you... now and back experience strangely “severe� and constructive OR particularly irritable? Unrealistic, grandiose ideals approximately your know-how or powers? Sleep little or no, yet feeling particularly energetic? communicate so on the instant that others can’t shop up? Have racing recommendations; leaping immediately from one thought to the subsequent? experience incredibly distractible, no longer able to pay interest? Impaired judgment and impulsiveness? Act recklessly without thinking with reference to the implications? Have delusions and hallucinations (in severe cases)? (under is the melancholy facets of Bipolar) Do you... experience hopeless, unhappy, or empty? Irritability? lack of ability to adventure exhilaration? Fatigue or loss of potential? experience actual and psychological slow? Have an urge for nutrition or weight exchange? Have snoozing issues conflict with concentration and reminiscence issues? experience worthlessness or responsible? Have recommendations of dying or suicide? in case you replied definite to greater than a number of the questions then you certainly've gotten, or you have gotten Bipolar 2 or Unipolar. Your community GP stands out as the only individual who can diagnose you correct.

Answer 7

no your not a bad person to want to die alone but you don't want to get too attached to some one. The other person just may not want to go out with you because even they may not want to get too attached because if your close to a b/f and or g/f and vise versa it'll be devastating for them.

They maybe just scared to go out with someone with a set amount of time to live. Just be honest and you'll find the one that excepts you for who you are. But really think about it, do you want to hurt another like this?

Answer 8

You will be human till the day you die just like the rest of us and there is nothing wrong with wanting to be with someone. Just remain honest. If the person truely wants to be with you they will stay by your side. That movie A walk to remember comes to mind.

Answer 9

Who told you your illness was terminal?

Western Medicine is notoriously flawed, designed to make money, and there isn't any money in curing people only treating there symptoms. If you research it Rockefeller is the father of our medical system.
Look into holistic healing, and spiritual means of healing as well.

We are all dying just at different rates.
If somone truly loves you for who you are they will not forsake you in your time of need.

keep shinin'

jerm ;)

Answer 10

No you arent wrong. I was involved with a terminally ill woman once. I made it clear up front that due to her illness it would be purely based on mutual companionship and sex. I couldnt let my heart get broken and know it. But it did.