It's 11:30 Everyone is asleep ( so I thought) so I get on the computer in my room for quite time. My 12 yr old daughter walks in and bends down beside me and scared me about half to death and my first reaction was to swing. I hit her right in the face. Now she has a huge red mark that I'm sure will be a bruise. When she goes to school should she tell the truth or should I have her lie. I don't even spank my children. I don't want social services showing up.
2006-11-05 16:03:21 · 26 answers · asked by GI 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
No I was not looking at porn I was talking to my 19yr. old daughter who is away at college.
2006-11-05 16:12:23 · update #1
Haha. My mom did that to me, once, too.
I went through this phase when I was about 8 or 9 when I would hide, and when someone walked by, jump out and scare them. Well, one day I was standing just inside the bathroom door with the lights off, and mom walks in, and I jump out and yell, and she smacked me right in the face!
She was so upset that *she* cried! We laugh about it now.
I remember having a red mark, but it never bruised. I don't know if it's the case with everyone, but I've found that my face is less likely to bruise than somewhere else, so you might not have to worry about explaining it.
If someone does ask, I think it would be best to just tell the truth. If you lie and are caught, then people will be less likely to believe the truth. They will think it is only another lie, and you don't want to get yourself or your family caught up in anything like that.
Good luck! You'll laugh about it in a few years.
2006-11-05 16:21:20 · answer #1 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol...this same thing happened with my mom and dad. They had just gotten married, and my mom woke up one morning before my dad. She thought she would be romantic and lean over and wake him up with a kiss. He got confused with a dream he was having and decked her. My father doesn't have an abusive bone in his body.
Normally, I'd say truth is the best policy, but I'd still be a little nervous about having her tell the truth. Teachers are required by law to report any signs of abuse. They can be held liable if they fail to do this. Even if the teacher believes the explanation, she may feel like she has to report a bruise anyway.
However, the problem with lying is that, as a 12 year old, I'd have still wound up telling the truth to my friends. So story switching could look worse than the truth.
I hate to be drastic, but would keeping her out of school for a couple of days be possible? Wait til in the morning; maybe it won't be very noticeable. Maybe you can cover it up with makeup so she doesn't have to say anything.
2006-11-06 00:24:19 · answer #2 · answered by LilyRT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that you should tell the truth! If you are very worried about it, you could go one step further and send a note to the office or the principal explaining the situation. Sometimes schools have their own social workers (either that, or several schools share a social worker) who investigates situations before bringing other state departments into the picture.
On a side note, you can minimize the bruising on her face by having her sleep in a sitting up position. Elevating her head makes it so that the blood drains (rather than pooling in the face and causing discoloration). My doctor suggested it when I had my wisdom teeth out. . . and I had very faint bruising after my procedure!
2006-11-06 00:18:51 · answer #3 · answered by hollybug_88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you lie, your teaching your daughter to lie, you should be open and honest about it otherwise when she gets herself into trouble(which is every parents nightmare and hopefully never happens) then she might take a page out of your book and lie too. Honesty is always the best policy no matter how hard it is. Besides nothing may ever come of it and if it does at least your daughter will no the truth and respect you for telling it.
2006-11-06 01:02:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
please don't teach your daughter that it's okay to lie....you know sometimes the truth hurts, but it will also set you free. you can go to the school with her tomorrow and explain things so she doesn't have to answer a bunch of questions. it would be better for you to show up to school with your kid rather than send her on her own to face the teachers and other kids. even though it was an accident, kids are hard on each other, so take the time to be there to support her. don't make it a big deal, because it's not, just tell it like it is and move on. hopefully you ARE telling the truth.
2006-11-06 04:08:08 · answer #5 · answered by iwondersoiask 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest next time look before U swing at anyone but she must tell the truth a lie will only get you in trouble.Good Luck
2006-11-06 00:12:43 · answer #6 · answered by sugarbdp1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are so anal about kids now a days. Its bet to tell the truth .. However this happened to a friend of mine. She was driving w/her son in the back. He was looking into a kaleidoscope. She slammed on the breaks and he got a black eye. They told the truth .. Next day CPS comes and takes him away until they realize this was the truth :) Good luck
2006-11-06 00:07:57 · answer #7 · answered by mixedchick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Best to tell the truth. If you make up some other story, your daughter might slip up under intense questioning and then matters would be a lot worse. The truth will always out so best stick to it.
2006-11-06 00:10:45 · answer #8 · answered by salstick 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm....never lie! If this is the truth then you have nothing to worry about. At age 12 you can tell her to tell the truth and if it didn't happen that way trust me she will tell. This is an odd situation. Good luck!
2006-11-06 00:10:23 · answer #9 · answered by LenaRose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is the truth, it would be considered an accident and not abuse. So why have her lie. And having her lie will probably create a whole new situation.
2006-11-06 00:07:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋