Does she like me?

Question

There's this girl and I'm not too sure if she's into me...normally I'm pretty good with this kind of stuff, but this one I just can't figure out.

We've known each other for four years and we usually joke around with one another and it gets a little flirty. Lately she's been asking me about my housemates, my family, etc. etc. Also, whenever I bring up another girl she always gets insecure or changes the topic with something that has nothing to do with the conversation. However, when we spend time alone we usually get into an argument over something stupid and any "progress" we made goes to shits.

Anyways...her friends always bring up how her and I should date and yadi yadi yada. But whenever its brought up she always answers it would never work, our personalities don't mesh. I go along with this and say similar things, because I've got nothing else to say.

What do you guys think...does she like me? Is she doing this to test me? And should I even bother if we're gonna argue?

Answer 1

I have been the girl in this situation...this is how it was for me...I was best friends with this guy for 8 years. We always flirted but never dated. I would get jealous when he talked about other girls and he would get jealous when I talked about other guys. The arguments over every little thing for us were just a lot of pent up feelings about neither of us ever making a move or speaking up...it was a lot of frusturation coming out over unimportant things. In the end it was fear...fear that if we did date that if things didn't end up working out that it could never go back to the way it was. I was terrified of losing my best friend if anything were to go wrong. But much like in your situation, we were too busy coming up with reasons why we wouldn't work and excuses not to do it that we never got the chance to have the wonderful relationship that now looking back I think we could have had. Confront her about it, seriously. Tell her how you feel, and even if the feelings aren't mutual, at least you know so you don't have that "what if" hanging over the relationship you do have. At least do that much so you don't possibly miss out on the chance that I did...Good luck!

Answer 2

she likes you as a friend yes but not as a lover i think ...sorry i dont want to sound harsh, i just said what i think...you get bother or not thats what u must figure out.