Guys, is it true that it's hard to approach a good looking girl? Why is that?

Question

What can hot girls do to make it less intimidating for you?

Answer 1

Yes! Beautiful women ARE indeed intimidating. I don't want to sound sexist (I'm so not), but you can thank women's lib for how intimidated we are by you. Women are now in charge of the world. Maybe not business or government, but the real world. Women own it. A beautiful girl is more likely to have a lot of experience... experience rejecting men. So we think that they are very good at it. There is a fear that because so many men make rude comments to beautiful women, the women will naturally assume that any guy that approaches her has disgusting things in mind. So there is this fear that she will not only reject, but be nasty about it too. And since she can have any guy she wants, she probably already has the guy she wants. And the chances for rejection are higher. Since the chances of rejection are higher, there is a higher chance that we will be humiliated.

Not to mention we all picture ourselves marrying a beautiful woman and we don't want to screw up the first impression with the woman we will end up with. That's a lot of pressure to be under.

To be more approachable, you've got to disarm yourself. Don't be so intimidating. Don't dress to impress so much. Well, dress nice. Be beautiful, but don't dress like you look like you are advertising your goods. I know that it might sound counter-intuitive to not enhance your beauty, but if you look like you can have any guy you want, the guys you really want won't think they stand a chance.

If you see one guy you like, you've got to make it clear to him that you're interested. Be available. Make it easy for him to approach you. Encourage him. Make eye contact and maintain it for 2 seconds, no more. Then smile and turn away bashfully. As you pass him by, say "hi". If any other guys approach you (henceforth known as "creep"), make it clear to the guy you really are interested in that you aren't into this creep, that your eyes are for him. If you have to talk to the creep that came up to you, make it clear to him and to the guy you like that you have made your choice. Keep getting caught looking at the guy you like. Don't stare of course. But make eye contact. And if you really want to make the guy stick, give him a chance to rescue you. At the heart of every man lies a desire to rescue a beauty. If the creep won't leave you alone, be more obvious to the guy you like that you want him to take you away from the creep. If he's a real courageous gentleman, then he'll grab you and say something like, "come on honey, there's someone I want you to meet." Oh wouldn't that be nice!

If there's no creep and you are just eye-flirting with a guy, only a real idiot (like me - hah) won't bite. And if he doesn't, let me tell you he'll be kicking himself for months. It's not often that a beautiful girl makes it easy for even an attractive guy to approach her.

I wish I was a peacock.

Answer 2

The trick is to seem approachable, try toning down your dress and makeup a bit. More girl next door... less girl on the prowl. And a smile plus eye contact is always the best.
When I say eye contact, I mean a good 5 to 10 seconds straight, no less. This will feel VERY awkward at first, but trust me, it works.
Good Luck.

Answer 3

Just be approachable.. talk to the people who interest you and if you are really nice, then tell them they make you laugh and wonder out loud if they' d like to hang out.. You almost have to make the first move, and if you do, be prepared to be rejected, just because they are intimated by your looks. But it is the only way it might work.. And make them laugh.. guys are easy to make laugh and once they're lauging, they see you as a person, not an object.

Or... ask for their help.. guys are totally willing to help, even the most beautiful of girls..

Answer 4

Absolutely. The biggest question is how many men have approached her before me? Second question she must be steady -she has no business being so pretty without being hoked up. third, will I manage to keep her from other marauding men?
It's just hard.

Good looks in a woman are very intimidating, I just smile at them and let the feelings pass - plain truth

Answer 5

I'm not a guy but I had to ask my husband out lol. I asked him why he told me he was scared shitless to talk to me. Guys are really not that confident and they dont take rejection well, hot chics to them are seen as the "cheerleaders, and popular girls in school" that would turn up their noses at them and not so hot chics are a sure thing. I would say when you are out and you see a guy you want to talk to you make eye contact and give him a smile, a guy looks to see how a girl interacts with other people around her to see if she is aproachable or not, look around smile laugh so they dont think you will shoot them down..

Answer 6

It can be hard. And there is not much they can do. It isn't a problem for the hot girls I know. They just show they are interested in someone and they get them.

Answer 7

Hot women are very intimidating. It is true. re-assure them that you are down to earth and not snobby or stuck up. That is how it is percieved that a lot of good looking women are.

Answer 8

Men in general have a low opinion of themselves. Though they may seem cocky and brass on the outside, his whole body trembles with fear from a great looking hot chick. Its the norm for him to feel that he can never be accepted by you because of your beauty. Most men feel that when a woman is extremely beautiful that they can have any man that they want and therefore will do the approaching. Since in general (I would say 95%) of the male population feel this way, then why not go ahead and go with it. If you see someone you wish to speak to or wish would speak to you, approach him. About all you'll have to do is say hi and he will then feel the encouragement to talk and may even get the courage after a few minutes of conversation to ask you out or to dinner or something. Sorry ladies, this is one area where your beauty curses you. If it is too much for you to confront or approach first, then try dressing yourself down a bit. Don't dress for halloween so to speak but don't dress for the modeling runway either. Easiest ice-breakers for women to approach men with are helpful questions because generally as a rule men like to feel needed or full of the right answers. So easy questions for women are "Excuse me, could you help me with this bracelet?" This not only opens him up like a tin can but also encourages physical contact. This way he can actually see you are human and not plastic or porcelain. If you want to find out if he is with someone, one of the easiest questions is " Excuse me, I couldn't help but notice that shirt you are wearing and would like to get one like that for my father, could you tell me where you got it?" This right away can tell you a lot. He could say my wife got it for me, or my girlfriend got it for me or I bought it at Casual male or something like that. If he bought it himself or he says an ex got it for him, chances are he's out fishing and you can easily reel him in from there. When it comes to relationships, guys know that women are the dominate of the species. They know that you are in control and that if they get a date with you or dinner with you its because you allow it, not because he is such a great find. Remember, ladies run the dating field, not the men. You have the power ladies so my advice is to use it to your advantage and by that I mean to get what you want out of life and relationships, not to use it to be cruel and punishing. Hope this has helped to answer your question.

Answer 9

Be nice to people such as waiters and waitress etc in fact every one -Niceness is sexy

Smile

Look at him and bat your eyelashes

touch him on the hand , arm and shoulder

Dangle your shoe

walk barefoot up to him

laugh

this has to be real and genuine fear that you have if you have an achiles heal such as a fear of spiders do your best ,"Oh my gawd its a spider" Prince valiant will step up -Garaunteed

Answer 10

Your question is not geared toward everyone, but rather only those you want to go out with.