I've spent months listening to my sister's excitement as she planned her wedding. At the same time, I am studying for a national board exam that will determine my career and will be taken on the opposite coast. It turns out that my exam falls on the same day as my sister's wedding. Due to other circumstances, neither can be rescheduled for a later date. It's as if I'm caught in the middle of a Sartre novel. Where should I go?
2006-11-05 15:41:00 · 24 answers · asked by mdilemma24 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
How close are you and your sister? If you have a good relationship then she should be able to understand how important it is that you take your test. If you can't be there physically, just make sure she knows that you are there for her emotionally.
2006-11-05 15:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by NJ 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your career is something that will last for the rest of your life.....your sisters marriage may not last at all (sorry, no bad omen intended). Ask her if there is someone who can camcord the wedding so that you can view it when you return. Otherwise, if there are to be many pictures taken, at least you will know the overall events of the day. Tell her that you will telephone her at a certain time, either just prior to the wedding, or after the reception and talk to her and your new brother-in-law and congratulate them and hear the exciting details.
Tellher that her wedding is very important to you, but your career is a lifetime commitment, and hope that she is mature enough to understand and wish you the best on your exam.
When you return, perhaps you can get together with the happy couple for a special dinner at their favorite restaurant and look at the wedding pictures and hear all about the ceremony.
Good Luck on whatever you do!!!!
2006-11-07 22:58:12 · answer #2 · answered by lildragonlexi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you started out by saying you have spent months listening to your sister's excitement as she planned her wedding. Be honest with yourself! Are you trying to find a good way out of going to your sister's wedding? Are you a little jealous? I got that feeling. Nonetheless, If I were you I would go to my sister's wedding. She'll want you to be in the family pics. not to mention she'll need your support and love. I'm sure! Surely to goodness, this is NOT the ONLY day you can take this exam!
2006-11-05 15:57:39 · answer #3 · answered by butterflylover 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is the exam for - law, medical - they all happen more than once a year and in numerous location. I've never heard of any career exam that only happened once a year and only in one place. Can you take the exam closer to the location of the wedding? There has to be a solution to this, we need more info.
2006-11-05 18:36:57 · answer #4 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be able to re-schedule that exam...have you tried talking to the people administering the exam? Explain the circumstances and ask if there will be another in the near future.
How can you even consider not being at your sister's wedding? Unless she offers or insists that you go to the exam you shouldn't even consider missing her wedding...you will regret not being a part of it. What do your parents think of all this?
2006-11-05 15:53:35 · answer #5 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say it depends on you and your sister. I would take the exam against my sisters wedding but I wouldn't miss my brother's for the world. But, I am alot closer to my brother than to my sister. Talk to your sister and explain your situation. Tell her you didn't plan on this happening, but it has you in a dilemma. See what she says and go from there. Good luck. and remember use your best judgement and don't start a family fued that you will still be having in 20 years.
2006-11-05 16:14:16 · answer #6 · answered by Kellen's Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is hard...i am surprised you are not a part of the wedding (a bridesmaid). if you can manage take the exam and fly out to the wedding after. even if you get there 5 minutes before the end i think it would be special to her.
my husband and i got married. we had planned the honeymoon 9 months in advance. we asked everyone if anything would come up. everyone said no. well it turned out my now BIL was graduating from high school the day before we were to return. he was very understanding. he made us promise to come to his college graduation (which is this spring) SO you can make it up to her if you have to. Most people are understanding...sorry i am back and forth on this one
2006-11-06 04:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by Jenn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG i can't believe you would even consider missing your sisters wedding seems like its all about you
"I've spent months listening to my sister's excitement as she planned her wedding" Think about someone else for once and arrange another time for the exam
2006-11-05 16:38:16 · answer #8 · answered by wilo_chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its tough but I would go with the career exam - it sounds like you need to take it this go around... I would talk to your sister maybe after the main wedding you guys can set up a mini reception at a restaurant - so you do not feel like you are missing or or let down your sister...
2006-11-05 15:56:38 · answer #9 · answered by engagmenrime 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I see that most people goes for your sister wedding..but this is my opinion..talk to your sister and if she really loves you she will understand...take your test and if possible make a late appearance to the reception....to think of waiting for your test will put you on the line...you have been studied for this test and you don't want to postpone it...at collage level. the administrators don't care about those things, unless is death in the family, and even then..this life is about choices and you need to see what is more important to you..sure your sister is getting married, but you can look at pictures or even a video, but your national board exam is a very important to......if you decided to go to your sister wedding...ask yourself this questions....how long do you have to wait for another opportunity to present your test?...this will be worth it? will your sister and family understand?...good luck in your decision, but if I was you ...I will go for the test and like i said, if possible make a late appearance to the reception
2006-11-05 16:56:53 · answer #10 · answered by Rosie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what time is your exam scheduled for? what time is the wedding??
would there be any way that you could sit your exam; then fly to the other coast & be at your sisters reception??
this is going to be a very difficult decision for you- but you must consider what is going to be the best for your life & go with that decision regardless of anyone elses opinion
2006-11-05 17:27:04 · answer #11 · answered by fairypelican 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋