I'm a sophomore in high school and there's this guy that's been acting kinda weird. A few months ago, he randomly started saying "hi" to me. A few weeks later he started trying to carry on longer conversations with me.
I'm a huge fan of the SF 49ers and a couple of weeks ago, he offered me a free ticket, saying he couldn't go. I offered to pay for it, but he said he didn't want me to. So, I took the ticket, though I soon had second-thoughts about it.
Last week, he said he had one extra ticket to the game next week and I could have it, if I were willing to go with him. I said I'd have to check and think about it. On the way home, I realized that I wasn't sure whether he'd just asked me out or was just being nice. He hadn't really made it clear, and we weren't really friends -- at least I didn't really think so.
I need to tell him soon and I'm trying to figure out if he wants to go out with me or if he's just being nice. What do you think? Help please...!!!
2006-11-05 15:37:49 · 12 answers · asked by Kelly S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He likes you and he wants to go out with you.
If you don't like him, you should make it obvious that you want to just be friends. Don't flirt with him or be suggestive in any way. You should always make sure that his gifts don't have any strings attached and DO NOT tell him that you'll pay him back because if you do, he can press charges and really get you to give him back the face value of those tickets and etc.
2006-11-05 15:39:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, guys do tend to be pathetic in making their intentions clear. Many times, they are not fully aware or thinking about their feelings. They mature more slowly than women - whereas a girl will not be afraid to tell a guy what she's thinking - that can totally turn a guy off. I mean, he could be very sincere and trying to get to know you - but he could be trying to take advantage of you too. On the other hand, guys hate when girls right off the bat ask about what their intentions are. Just be careful - he could be one of those freaky guys who is thinking something freaky like you owe him something for this - if you know what I mean. I don't think it's bad to say that this is a very kind, but unusual way to get to know someone better and just to make YOUR intentions clear to him so that he knows to respect your boundaries. "I just want you to know that it sounds like fun and that for now, I'm happy to be your acquaintance or become a friend. I just want it to be clear that I'm not looking for more than that right now." Then, you have to be careful - that there is some accountability going on - I mean he sounds like he's probably trustworthy - but you'd better know what to do in case he tries to push you into something you don't want too. For instance, if you're not comfortable - have a friend pick you up afterwards. If you get weird vibes - don't even go. You have a great sense of intuition, almost all females do - but sometimes we ignore it - so if you're feeling there's something not quite right about this - just say no.
2006-11-05 23:51:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he likes you. And yes, I think he is trying to go out with you. He actually did make it clear that he liked you. He gave you all the sign...He started speaking to you, he started holding conversations with you, and then he gave you a free ticket. All the signs were there, sweetie. I do, however, think that you should be upfront with him about your feelings. And if you don't want to go out with him offer him his ticket back. At least that way he won't think any negative thoughts.
2006-11-05 23:44:28 · answer #3 · answered by shellese2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's into you. I think the reason he asked if you wanted the first ticket was to see if you like the 49ers. Now that he knows you wont reject him because you don't like the team, he feels safe asking you out. If you like him, accept the ticket and go without expectations.
2006-11-05 23:41:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well he obviously likes you, and yes he's asking you out, he's just kind of shy about coming straight out and asking you, afraid of rejection. if he didnt like you he would not have gaven you the ticket to begin with. trust me he likes you, and wants to go out with you. you should go for it, he seems sweet, and i'm psychic, so i have a good feeling about the 2 of you. so have fun, i see you 2 together in the future for awhile, possible later marriage, hes a keeper!!!
2006-11-05 23:43:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he likes you and wasn't sure how to ask you out on a date. So he figured he would find something that interested both of you to attract your attention. Would hurt to go to the game with him?
2006-11-05 23:42:56 · answer #6 · answered by confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this all seems simple to me ask the guy what his intentions are.
sounds like he is a bit shy.
i would venture to guess he is asking you on a date in his own way .
too bad your dad wasn't around he could be the old fashion dad and just say NOW SON WHAT ARE YOUR INTENTIONS TOWARD MY DAUGHTER .
oh well that up to you to do now i guess
2006-11-05 23:43:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you feel comfortable around him then you should tell him how you feel. Ask him out and see what he says. He might surprise you and say yes. It sounds like he likes you. Give him a chance. Just talk to him.
2006-11-05 23:41:22 · answer #8 · answered by Barb 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is probably shy and nervous. I'd say he wants to ask you out but to shy to do so.
2006-11-05 23:42:10 · answer #9 · answered by Roosterfan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just a guy thant fancy you ! To shy to ask you out - that's all
2006-11-05 23:41:05 · answer #10 · answered by bordasimus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋