I've had trouble getting over my ex-girlfriend of 5 years and hadn't talked to her in 6 months because of just that - I let her know that I needed to close contact until I moved on.
Last week I was talking to a mutual friend and he said he had seen my ex and that she had let him know that she had gone on holiday with my good friend. It appears that my friend had gone to some lengths to keep this a secret from me. My friend also enlisted my help in booking a hotel room for them - I didn't know who my friends travel partner was.
I outed their secret with a sarcastic e-mail and my friend didn't respond for 2 weeks - then offered a lame explanation and no apology.
They were friendly before we split, but were certainly not good friends. Should I be angry? Have I been betrayed?
2006-11-05 14:57:54 · 9 answers · asked by marketingmark62 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK - some may find it hard to believe - but they are not romatically/sexually involved. Perhaps if you knew them...
2006-11-05 15:06:20 · update #1
Well, you kind of confirmed his suspicion that you wouldn't take it well with your sarcastic email, didn't you? Perhaps they found out that they both really wanted to go to the same place, it was cheaper to go together and since 1.you'd been split up for over 6 months and 2. he wasn't your best friend anyway, there really was nothing morally wrong in what they were doing. You could look at it as a compliment that they thought enough of your feelings not to want to hurt you and that's why they didn't tell you. Yes, it would have been a courtesy to let you know, but really, you don't have any right to interfere in the lives of two people you don't have close relationships with.
2006-11-05 15:14:32 · answer #1 · answered by f0xymoron 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Here's the hard part: Pretend she never existed, like it was all a dream, don't call her, that will make you the smaller person, be the bigger person since you deserve better, what she did to you on Valentines Day was immature, especially after dating for four years. This person wasted allot of your time and through it out the window. Go out tonight, even it it is only yourself, don't drink and call or feel sorry for yourself, this will only cause you embarrassment! I know your hurting..This will eventually will go away in time. Today is not a good day for you and your emotions are spinning all over the place.
Please, whatever you do, don't answer her calls and don't call her. If she keeps calling, which she pro bally won't, don't return her call for 5 days. Make her sweat and DO Not get back together right away if you discuss this in 5 days. Tell her since she Broke up with you, you have done allot of thinking, and had the taste of "being single again" and you would like more time being "friends" for now, so you are sure you are making the right decision. Remember "She decided she didn't want to be with you" so the door is open for you to get out and see what you have been missing for four years. You honestly need to do this for yourself.
She doesn't know, but what she did was give you the best valentines day present you will ever get! A new start and a new beginning, use it to your advantage. You will look back on this and Thank God this happened now instead of 4 more wasted years of YOUR life. Today does suck, stay Strong and I promise you your life is going to be so much more exciting and you are going to be happy. If you continue to call and call her, she will think of you as needy and won't want you. She is going to rethink what she did to you today and will be hurt, if you act like you could care less. Girls always want the ones they can't have. That is who you are now to her. Let her suffer,realizing what a mistake she made. This will drive her crazy. Right now she is on cloud 9 thinking you will take her back, OH, is she stupid!
Your life isn't ruined, hers is..She lost someone special, and gave you a gift to let to live life and find someone you deserve. You are not getting back at her, your teaching her what an idiot she is and what she lost and what you gained without her. SO when You eventually talk to her, tell her thank you for what she did...
She will be hurt and you will be happy!
2016-07-19 18:54:34 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-23 15:18:00 · answer #3 · answered by deborah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As your no longer with your ex how can he betray you? You should move on and let them live their lives and you should live yours. Find another relationship because you ex appears to have moved on.
2006-11-05 16:40:34 · answer #4 · answered by John T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow heck ya..he is a friend..doesnt he know that rule u dont date a friends ex they are off limits!! some friend..but sometimes things happen u fall for the wrong person...but he should of said when he first had that oppertonity wow she is my friends ex..but sometimes love is crazy also
2006-11-05 15:02:26 · answer #5 · answered by chas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-02-20 06:19:23 · answer #6 · answered by Jimmy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He crossed the boundary when a friend ceases to be just that.
I'd be well narked and he'd feel very sore
2006-11-06 00:05:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello
This sometimes happens, and if your friend was with her, then maybe its because you lost interest, You cannnot blame him for this, and if in your heart you really have finished with her, then, she has the right to carry on, just as you have.
Sometimes it is hard to accept, but then you have to really be honest with yourself , and if you are not happy that she is with your friend, then maybe you should rethink your feelings for her.
I wish you all the best
Glenn
2006-11-05 15:03:18 · answer #8 · answered by The brainteaser 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would leave it,try to move on anger wont help you just make it worse
2006-11-05 15:03:00 · answer #9 · answered by kitten6444 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋