Why is it people seem 2 think that two MATURE 13 year old kids cant be in Love or even have a serious relationship cuz everyone seems to think that this young love is nothing more than sumthin fake give me an answer i'm mature enough not to through a tantrum if thats wut u think 13 year olds do. Just explain to me y
2006-11-05 14:49:06 · 20 answers · asked by Agent Buckwald! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
seriously to the morons who answer this i swear i'm more mature than you
2006-11-05 14:52:38 · update #1
o by the way i'v been goin out wit my gf for 7 months
2006-11-05 14:57:04 · update #2
u can tell me 2 live my life but i wanna live it with a real relationship so that doesnt help
2006-11-05 14:59:35 · update #3
I know what you mean. when i was your age I was infuriated by people always saying that I couldn't fall in love young. now that I'm older I understand that I wasn't mature enough to really love someone. love is a give and take relationship. when you're young no matter how you think you're treating the other person, you're mostly taking. most people at your age are very selfish. however, this is not a true fact in ALL cases. a few centuries ago, people were getting married at your age. so, obviously, there is a very possible chance of someone really loving someone else at your age. I'm guessing your in a relationship that you consider to be getting serious. I would just advize that you really try to do what's best for the other person in everything you do. don't concentrate on what YOU want only. in this way you will be lightyears ahead of people that are even 10 years older than you. I hope that the girl you're with realizes that she can't be selfish either if this relationship will last...I hope you understand what I mean..
2006-11-05 14:59:28 · answer #1 · answered by JJK789 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...Personally, I would take you more seriously with better spelling and punctuation. But I guess that doesn't really have much to do with your question.
The answer to your actual question is obvious: people don't accept 'young Love' because it is just that, young. They don't believe that you two don't have enough life experience to know what love really is.
I personally would accept 'young Love' from two ten or elven year olds rather than thirteen, because thirteen year olds are just starting puberty, or in some cases have been through some of it already, and there is always new interest in members of the opposite gender. but if you're younger then that, then it might be the essence of true love, where social circles, money, and sex play no part at all.
But there is a deeper question here: why does it matter? Does it really make a difference what people see in you two? If this is something about your parents not letting you two go out alone, then you just have to prove your maturity to them. If this is a Romeo/Juliet thing, then I hope that you two don't meet the same end. If this is about a comment that someone made about you two, you just have to ignore it. Either they're right, and you aren't really in love, or they're wrong, and the relationship will go on forever, but it doesn't make much of a difference now anyway.
Also - it's interesting that you call yourselves "MATURE...kids". Does anyone else think it's a bit of an oxymoron?
2006-11-05 23:07:02 · answer #2 · answered by Nope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all, I was 13 once...I'm now 18. I used to think the same thing. That I wasn't to young to know what love is..and the thing is, You know what love is, but you don't know how to actually be "in love" with a girl at that age. Love is something that comes from deep down inside..knowin that you will last forever with that person and nothing can tear you apart...Look about 10 years down the road..do you still see yourself with that same person. Can you see yourself having kids with that person, or owning a home, growing old with them? Most 13 year old kids only live for here and now..they don't really look at the bigger picture.... and 13 is to young to start gettin involved with those kinda things. You still have your whole life ahead of you... Live it kid.
2006-11-05 22:53:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the simple answer is that at 13 years old, a person hasn't really lived long enough to understand themselves as well as an adult. It's not that anyone thinks that the feelings you guys have are shallow, it's more that it takes time and mistakes and experience to make the most of what you find in life. What you think is good for you now isn't what you think will be good for you in ten or fifteen years.
2006-11-05 22:52:12 · answer #4 · answered by niwriffej 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't spend your time worrying about what everyone else thinks. It's possible to have a serious relationship at 13, hard, but possible. Young love is not fake though. I know people that married their 7th grade boyfriends and they are now 70 and still happy with them.
2006-11-05 22:57:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because physiologically your brains are still developing, your bodies are still developing, and you still don't have enough life experience to truly be mature. There's no doubt you can have strong emotional bonds -- but be careful not to argue about "maturity" or "serious relationships" when you're not even old enough yet to truly understand what that really means. It's serious for you because you're 13 and EVERYTHING is serious for you. But in the larger scheme of things, your lives are only just beginning.
2006-11-05 22:52:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because those saying that to you have already been 13 ..maybe even mature 13 like you are...and so they lived it, and lived more adult mature love - and so have the wisdom and knowledge that comes with age to know the difference.
2006-11-05 22:51:43 · answer #7 · answered by svmainus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you are not even mature enough to spell. Besides, who said it can't be love? But as mature as you think you are, you ARE young and have many, many years yet to experience love and life and the joys and sorrows both bring. You haven't even made it to high school yet. Don't rush things. Enjoy life.
2006-11-05 22:53:01 · answer #8 · answered by Emm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what they all say? That relationship is between you and that person. Is it real love? Who knows, but what's your rush, anyway. I mean at 13, you do have your whole life ahead of you. If it's meant to be, it will last. If not, it won't. Statistics are really not in your favor, though. But only time will tell.
2006-11-05 22:52:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know how it feels to be mature for your age . i went Thurough it as well.. not for the same circumstances but all in the same .. i was highly upset when i was thought of as nothing More then a child you haven't even lived a 1/8 of you life didnt rush .. if this person and yourself are to be together you will find away to stay together or if not you will find e/o in the future don't rush tho .. its not always worth it
2006-11-05 22:55:01 · answer #10 · answered by nana_nicoya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋